I was ghosted by a guy and even though I was hurt I kind of understood why he did it. I was too busy because I had two jobs, I worked every day, I was in the process of moving, and I just had too much going on. I tried to vaguely explain my situation but felt that many of my reasons for overworking were to support relatives and I didn’t feel that I had the right to tell THEIR business so I only told enough to explain my behavior but I left it up to him to trust me that I genuinely WAS interested despite how busy I was. I always texted back and wanted to talk otp but in person I just couldn’t seem to make the time. He was also long distance so I figured that it was kind of to be expected that he ghosted me. My only issue was that he didn’t have to ghost. I gave him an out and he could have taken it but instead chose to ghost me. Once you ghost me I won’t hold a grudge but ghosting for me is an automatic disqualification. So yesterday was my birthday. He texted me asking how I was but I didn’t respond because I was tired. I had been up all night working on a book I’ve been writing and I was exhausted and falling alseep on and off throughout the day. I was also receiving multiple messages which I ignored ALL of them momentarily. It was my birthday after all so I didn’t have the time to stop and respond to so many messages because I had overslept and needed to get dressed and ready to go out for the night. I also didn’t feel like talking to him since he had ghosted me but there was a 50/50 chance I would have responded because I wasn’t mad but I also had lost interest and wanted to make room in my heart for a new man eventually so I didn’t think I was obligated to respond like I always had in the past. But after a few hours had passed he texted me “wow okay 👌 .” So I felt like why get an attitude since he ghosted me first? Then today he unsent the messages and I just wonder why is he acting like this?
Should I mention the double standard or just continue to ghost my ghoster?
Updates
1 y
Also I do think he tried to accommodate my situation. He offered me money so I wouldn’t have to work so much but I turned it down. He also tried to arrange a date and I was prepared to do so but we had to cancel because of a mixup on his end. He hmu last minute twice asking to hangout and I guess his irritation was that during those last minute times I said no bc the timing was horrible. I understood if he lost interest, I didn’t understand the need to ghost. And I don’t understand the anger now
