Should I mention the double standard or just continue to ghost my ghoster?

[Anonymous]

I was ghosted by a guy and even though I was hurt I kind of understood why he did it. I was too busy because I had two jobs, I worked every day, I was in the process of moving, and I just had too much going on. I tried to vaguely explain my situation but felt that many of my reasons for overworking were to support relatives and I didn’t feel that I had the right to tell THEIR business so I only told enough to explain my behavior but I left it up to him to trust me that I genuinely WAS interested despite how busy I was. I always texted back and wanted to talk otp but in person I just couldn’t seem to make the time. He was also long distance so I figured that it was kind of to be expected that he ghosted me. My only issue was that he didn’t have to ghost. I gave him an out and he could have taken it but instead chose to ghost me. Once you ghost me I won’t hold a grudge but ghosting for me is an automatic disqualification. So yesterday was my birthday. He texted me asking how I was but I didn’t respond because I was tired. I had been up all night working on a book I’ve been writing and I was exhausted and falling alseep on and off throughout the day. I was also receiving multiple messages which I ignored ALL of them momentarily. It was my birthday after all so I didn’t have the time to stop and respond to so many messages because I had overslept and needed to get dressed and ready to go out for the night. I also didn’t feel like talking to him since he had ghosted me but there was a 50/50 chance I would have responded because I wasn’t mad but I also had lost interest and wanted to make room in my heart for a new man eventually so I didn’t think I was obligated to respond like I always had in the past. But after a few hours had passed he texted me “wow okay 👌 .” So I felt like why get an attitude since he ghosted me first? Then today he unsent the messages and I just wonder why is he acting like this?

Updates

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Also I do think he tried to accommodate my situation. He offered me money so I wouldn’t have to work so much but I turned it down. He also tried to arrange a date and I was prepared to do so but we had to cancel because of a mixup on his end. He hmu last minute twice asking to hangout and I guess his irritation was that during those last minute times I said no bc the timing was horrible. I understood if he lost interest, I didn’t understand the need to ghost. And I don’t understand the anger now

[kylee2437]

Just leave it be. When a person ghosts, that’s an indication that they aren’t good with communicating out their feelings and that’s a huge red flag on his part. He would rather catch an attitude with you instead of communicating to you like an adult why he is less interested than he once was. That’s his loss, not yours

[Crankor]

Well, a different side. Although you want a relationship, doesn't sound like your ready for a committed one right now. Meaning with your schedule. Even if you found a guy that was ok with little connection or talk , it wouldn't be a healthy relationship. I don't mean to say that it's wrong per say, just don't expect another guy to not do the same thing. Sounds like he is or at least was still concerned about you but if you ignored his last attempt then I'm sure he's moved on.

[Guy13]

Keep on keepin on..,