Is society making it more acceptable to label men (with no proof) nasty labels such as “pedo/creep” but conversely doesn’t allow saying “slut/cunt”?

[Anonymous]

The last time I ever the word “slut” being used consistently was way back in HS in the late 90s. I realize it might have been a zeitgeist a the time. However I do remember girls having their own set of negative labels for men like “creep” readily available back then too.

However ever since college I’ve noticed more and more women liberally using the word “creep” with no justification other than just getting a bad “feeling” from a guy. The even worse insult “pedo” is becoming more common too. Just today a woman on GAG suspected that her “virtual friend” might be a potential pedo/rapist just because the guy mentioned his stepdad abused his stepbrothers. She seriously thinks that pedophilia might be genetic.

Anyway I hear fewer and fewer men throw out gender specific insults to women nowadays. Especially if they unprovoked. Men know women usually get most upset when they are unfairly labeled promiscuous. Feminists have gone one/way ape shit when men (and other women) used this insult. I think it’s working because I’ve noticed fewer and fewer female specific insults like “slut, whore and cunt” being consistently used nowadays

However I do hear women call men (and even call other women) nasty insults like “creep” or worse “pedo” with no proof other than a “feeling” they have.

It also seems that when men are unfairly labeled something they almost zero recourse. If they get angry they just look more guilty or something.

Even when one of the worst of the worst insults like “pedo” used more often against me nowadays against men and there is a double standard attitude about it. Like the man is somehow justifiably labeled that due to “a feeling” a woman has (different story if there is solid proof). Like her feeling in itself justifies and vindicates whatever “feeling” she has as absolute truth or some insanity.

Is it just me observing this societal trend?

Yes it’s okay to disparage men with zero proof. Guys deserve it.

Nah both men and women are equally unfairly called derogatory slangs

Women get more unfair labels than men with no justification.

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Hey just for the record some guys definitely deserve negative labels due to their actions. I have called guys those labels. For example a man cat calling a woman or staring at her for a prolonged amount of time is rightfully called “creepy”.

However the very sad part is sometimes guys stare at woman non sexually because they are curious about something she’s doing or there something about her that (non sexually) stands out.

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Anyway I judge other men and woman on their exact actions and words. I have met unattractive/weird looking people who give me the “creep” vibe but I check myself before labeling that. It does carry weight.

[PrincessBunBuns]

Well first off, criminality is parts nature and nurture. They say abuse is genetic because it’s likelier for an abused person to also become an abuser, not guaranteed, but pedophilia is an actual mental illness. Although, like I said, it can be in parts genetic, it’s not considered a genetic disorder.


Buttttt I also think the poster of that question was looking for a different response and not some sort of science lesson. in my opinion, it reflects poorly on her partner (I can elaborate if you ask nicely).



ANYWAYS, “slut” and all variations of it are becoming more widely accepted. Sex is viewed as a positive, freeing thing. Calling someone a slut defeats that purpose of an accepting world, and can bring a LOT of backlash.


I feel people do use the word creep much more loosely nowadays, but it could also be that through social media we often receive news of “creepy” behavior.


I would say that creep is just a broader word and “acceptable”. Chances are, you see it used more frequently on your phone than IRL. Definitely overused though, but compare it when you say “slut” on a woman's post and “creep” on a man’s post. Guess which one is much more controversial.

[Asker]

The label “slut” (which again I personally almost never hear nowadays) is either looked at sexist and derogatory OR in your words “sex positive”. The woman has a defense either way. Men can’t just throw it out just because they don’t like a woman (nor should they).

The word “creep” on the other hand is broadly applied and always negative. It doesn’t require any justification either. The man (and sometimes woman) is virtually defenseless when it’s thrown out.
It’s like the woman’s dire need to express her negative “feelings” always takes immediate precedence over the accused persons feelings. No matter if it’s justified or not.

When you call someone a label like that it creates an image in other people’s minds of the that person’s behavior. Even if there is zero evidence and/or other people believe it’s completely false that mental image does get conjured up. It can stick to someone and damage their reputation.

The word “pedo” is on whole another level. Those people are considered the most heinous in society. Lower than murderers. Even lower than rapists. That insult should only be used when there is solid evidence and absolutely zero doubt someone is complicit in that behavior. It is NOT “evidence” if that person is unlucky enough to have relatives who are guilty of that behavior. That woman who posted about her “friend” could of ask about criminality being hereditary without mentioning him.

[Asker]

All in all feminists have worked tirelessly for decades to change the vernacular and semantics society used to describe women. It’s working. However they not only have no problem with women using derogatory labels towards men but they often actively encourage it. It’s okay because the woman is expressing “her feelings” which is double standard hypocritical bullshit.

Anyway the overuse of the word “creep” has been going on for a while now. But now I see women starting liberally use the insult “pedo” more and more I am getting pissed. Sure that her friend is anon and far away. But what if he wasn’t and she met him through a group of friends. What if she was calling him among other people who knew him in person? You think it’s okay for her to make such insinuations like that based on a “feeling”?

[PrincessBunBuns]

I think discussion about terminology is OK but there’s nothing to do about it except educate people about the real definition of a “creep”. No one encourages people to use that word, but it is frequently used because it’s a looser term.

[Asker]

To me the word “creep” means a guy has potential to sexually assault/rape. It not as soft as the calling a guy “weird”. It’s possible for a woman to later change her mind about a guy she once called “weird” to something positive. But no woman is ever going to change her mind about a guy she called a “creep”. He could save her from a burning building and she would still will have negative impression of him afterward. Reason being is the word “creep” has an extremely negative sexual connotation to it her. Justified or not it will indefinitely stick in the girls mind and likely make her friends feel the same way about him.

Guys sometimes call other guys “creepy” too. However we usually have much more patience and judge exactly what the guy is doing vs a bullshit “feeling” we have. Also another man might change his mind after he once labeled a guy “creep” when he sees a much better/positive side to the same guy later. Not the case with women saying this though. The guy is and always will be some sort of “threat” after being labeled that. So for a man hearing that label coming from a woman it’s much more damaging.

Now back when I was kid guys would sometimes unfairly call girls “sluts”. It often had a negative sexual connotation to it but not always. We would say that to girls we found highly annoying or otherwise unpleasant. However I remember some guys later dating girls they once labeled “sluts”. It was a “loose” term back in the late 90s.

But feminist went ape shit over that and sexually manipulated vernacular to make it a cardinal sin for a man to call a woman that. It was only women calling women that nowadays. Even in some instances it’s “sex positive” and somehow a “good” thing for some women now or something.

However I never see the word “creep” ever being capable of labeling something positive. No way.

[Adaeva]

That is how it is supposed to be. That is why, regardless of the facts, in a dispute between a man and a woman, almost 100% of women will take the woman's side and 75% of men will take the woman's side. The fact is , men are expendable because other than as a wallet for the benefit of women and children, they have little value.

[Asker]

Brutal but honest. Very true.

[Asker]

But it isn’t how it is “supposed to be” vs “how it really is”

[Adaeva]

Thank you for the MHO. Except in our modern society, it probably shouldn't be that way or at least not to that extent. And, it is not that way in some countries and it hasn't always been that way in Western countries.

[inhua]

it's always been acceptable to accuse men of anything that doesn't fit into "society's" view of "normal" regardless of proof even if the label is entirely subjective

the difference is, nowadays the men who are being falsely accused of these labels are now standing up for themselves or standing up for their fellow brothers and calling this shit out and society's response is to double down on the labels

[Asker]

The wrong women get say whatever they want with impunity.

[trellbrown84]

And that's why they get murdered when they fuck with the right man

[Anonymous]

"Creep" was the most overused word in 2022. Women love attention from guys they find attractive, but an unattractive guy who does exactly the same thing is a "creep".

[Anemone978]

You can call women sluts if you want LOL
If more guys did it would be accepted again... freedom of speech, Like Nike says "Just do it!!"

[Asker]

Nah men wouldn’t get away with that nowadays. We would get ostracized, cancelled, censored, yelled at and even get in physical fights for saying that.

I’m fine with guys not being allowed to label women unfairly. But I have a much bigger problem with women being giant hypocrites about what they say to or about men. They have gotten much worse because society encourages them to “express their feelings”.

[Anemone978]

Everyone is dumb now just do what you want... I will never censor myself because someone tells me to or they are snowflakes saying they don't like it... I will always say what the fuck I want...
Others should too...

[Asker]

Again you won’t face as harsh repercussions as a man will for speaking your mind. Especially if you are a man putting down a woman vs vice versa.

[Anemone978]

Dave Chapelle does it and I respect him.. he hasn't been cancelled..

[Anonymous]

Yes, you are correct, thats why I avoid women, they can put me in trouble just because they some sort of weird " feeling " about me just based on their" feelings"

[Anonymous]

I'm a girl and I've been called creepy.

[Asker]

By other men or women? And if it was by another man who often were you called that? Like once or twice in your life?

Some men get called “creepy” almost every day just because of their appearance. Sure if they do something stupid like cat call or stare at someone for 5 minutes they had it coming. But more often than not their very appearance is enough to give a woman justification to call him that.

[Opinion Owner]

So that applies to women as well. If someone finds you unattractive then they'll call you creepy.

[Asker]

Let’s be honest. For every woman who is called “creepy” at least 500 guys get called that. Men aren’t even allowed to call overweight women “fat” anymore.