I think they may have had their own reasons. I’ve known a few men, and a couple of women, who did this. Sometimes it was a career, for others it was to travel and do some things that required more freedom. For others they got tired of the dating scene and decided to just shelf it for a while. Others just are comfortable being alone and felt no internal pressure to have a significant other.
The worst choice a person can make is to enter a phase life where they are not fully ready or committed. To hold off until time is right is an act of caring and love - for yourself and the person you’ll be spending time with. Those who tend to associate being in a relationship with some status as being successful or a winner tend to have a large void in themselves and need the outside validation. At least, this is the optic I’ve come to view it through now. I didn’t always see it this way and may have made a mistake in the past that taught me this.
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It depends. If they spend their 20s maturing, getting their act together, and developing their career, it's a good idea to wait until their 30s to have a relationship.
If they are homebodies, never going out or trying to meet people, I fell sorry for them, they are missing out on a lot of life.
My dad told me wait until I’m in my 30s to date.
At first I thought he was messing with me because you know he’s dad and all dads say that.
But, now that I think about it, I’m glad I didn’t date around when I was younger. Whether it be in high school or in my 20s. I trusted NO guy growing up.
If it’s too late for me now, oh well. I’m just glad I didn’t jump into a relationship out of desperation and have it go south badly 🤷♀️
I don’t think it’s a big deal. I didn’t date my boyfriend until I was thirty and we are building a life together where the relationships in my twenties didn’t have that. Everyone moves at their own pace. If you never date until your thirties it can mean a lot of things whether good or bad. You don’t need a relationship to feel happy or fulfilled, and there is no wrong time to meet your person.
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Considering the amount of stupid bullshit that can prevent you from getting into a relationship that you have no control over, I totally get how/why someone wouldn't have dated anyone until their 30s.
That being said, my empathy drops off for anyone who absolutely had the opportunity to date but chose not to. Usually the "I'm just not ready to date" types who "can't form connections with others" but somehow always seem to find themselves in situations where they are absolutely forming emotional connections with people. THOSE people are almost always wack jobs.
For a woman to do that, she lost most good quality potential mates. For a man to do that, he likely has more knowledge and resources by then, making his potential mating prospects better as long as he wasn't dumb enough to participate in hook up culture and owe child support.
That depends on their story.
My 20s are ending and i haven't been in a relationship because i was stranded in a abusive country from which people are massively fleeing from and i don't speak their language and they Don't speak English or German. I escaped when i was 27 years old. That was my entire focus.
Irrelevant. And I wouldn't want to know somebody who judged somebody as "unworthy" just because they haven't been in one. Could it signal a problem connecting with people? Yeah. But it could just as easily be the opposite. That he/she does not take people and connection to them lightly.
It depends on why they don't enter relationships... but I, in general, believe that being in a relationship is the same as everything else; we have to practice it to be better at it...
Sucks to be them. Must be rough, failing at life in that way, but we all can't be winners.
I wouldn't think much, but if they were hoeing around through their 20's I wouldn't consider dating them.
something went wrong. but it's just getting started cause it's not over til it's over.
that was me.
Unwise for women, increasingly common for men.
I consider them strong individuals. I hope to be like that but go my entire life without a relationship
I don't think there is anything wrong with that
I think they are still waiting to find the right person. I'm one of them and thats my reason.
Whatever works for them I guess.
What could be the reason though? I'm curious 😊
If you aren't married before 27 your going to have a bad time.
Hey, anytime is a good time to get into a relationship
if they are waiting for the right person and/or to be financially stable, more power to them
Understandable for men, but for women it means something is really wrong with them.
Absolutely nothing. I’m actually one of those people. 😅
Do whatever works for you.
they probably missed out on a lot
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