Would you rather get caught cheating or catch your partner cheating on you?

[Simslover92]

I would rather catch my partner cheating on me out of the two. I would rather be betrayed than be the traitor.

Get caught cheating

Catch partner cheating on me

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

Even if I didn't get caught, I'd still feel worse than being cheated on since I'm entirely to blame.

I've been practicing Stoic ideas for many years now and while there are still external things that hurt me like people mistreating me, it hurts me even more when I mistreat them in response.

Actually the more I've put it into practice, the more I find the ultimate person that tends to disappoint me is me. As I get gradually better at avoiding becoming too upset by others, I find myself getting more easily upset by me.

That's kind of a side effect I've discovered is that maybe because the only thing that deeply grieves me now is my own misbehavior, I've become far more sensitive to it even though I've become far less sensitive to other people's misbehavior.

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

Like this:

Since I've come to value things beyond my control far less with each passing year, I do have more control. Yet with a greater sense of control comes a greater sense of accountability.

So these days it would genuinely hurt me more if I cheated on my wife than if my wife cheated on me.

[Simslover92]

That's deep and makes sense. I totally agree with that and feel the same way.

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

It's a bit uncomfortable since I seem to fit the ultimate ENFP stereotype. 😅

I literally think out loud, have no filter, and so if I think a rude thought, it's generally coming out. Then I'm going to be upset with myself for a good while after.

So I figure I have just work on avoiding thinking rude things outright, since that actually seems easier than keeping them to myself and actually developing a filter. 😂

[Bricealan]

Well, I caught my one-time partner, buck naked, in her apartment, lighting a cigarette, with a guy in her bed, (luckily I did not see him) on a Monday morning, after my dad and I had spent ALL DAY Sunday, working on the pigs car, fixing a lot of things that did not work.

Never did understand WHY she left the damned door unlocked, since she NEVER did that before... guess she was drunk when she came in with her hook up.

[Simslover92]

I'm so sorry that happened to you.

[Bricealan]

@Simslover92 As you might imagine, Monday was a terrible day work that day. To top it off, I was stupid and naive enough to help her move out of the apartment... a few days later.

[Simslover92]

Oh wow I'm sorry. That had to been really rough.

[AviatorTom]

I don't cheat and my partner doesn't cheat... so this question for me is a non sequitur.

Having said tgst, only a sadist would want to be caught cheating.

[Simslover92]

I agree

[StarWarGirl]

I would rather get caught cheating than catching my partner cheating me. Because it would shatter me completely into pieces then and there only of I would see it with my own eyes without any doubt. But if I'm cheating then no matter he catch me or not I would feel equally guilty of doing so no matter it's in his knowledge or not.

Also I'm never going to cheat him ever. So if I have to choose between these two options I'll choose this one because in this option there is control on me. I know this is never ever going to happen so it's more safe.

[Drew-1990]

Those both sound like awful choices. I could never be selfish enough to cheat on a girl and it would be horrible heart breaking to catch a girl teaching. I guess in the I rather catch her cheating because then I know I wasn't selfish and do something so low and horrible as much as it would suck.

[TommyMountainFigure]

What a horrible question to have to answer, especially as I have never cheated, but HAVE been cheated on.

I suppose IF I have to answer, then being cheated on because I would NEVER cheat!

[Simslover92]

I'm sorry. I guess that was insensitive to people who have been cheated on.

[TommyMountainFigure]

It's fine.. it was a lifetime ago now, AND helped make me a person who would never do it to others, because of how much it cut me!

[Vesuvius87]

I'd rather catch a cheating so that way I can still walk out the door with my dignity and reputation intact. At least I'm not the one in the wrong.

[ChicoFromThe305]

Get cheated, I value my loyalty and leaving the cheater and giving my loyalty to someone else is what I believe to be the best revenge when they realize they were the fuck up

[IslaTheWitch]

I wouldn't cheat

being cheated on hurts as hell...

but I still wouldn't cheat...

[Marriedandavailable]

Generally, partners do not care more about cheating if it is limited with sex. By the way, cheating still biggest problem for official marriages.

[Screenwriter]

Neither. Don't want to cheat on anyone and be hurtful and don't want to get hurt that way.

[katiesmuff]

Would have to be a diluted moron to want either of those choices!

[genericname85]

rather catch my partner cheating, cause i can ditch a partner but i have to live with i have done for the rest of my life...

[genericname85]

with what i have done*

[eagle1951]

all ready caught my first Ex cheating on me

[Simslover92]

Oh wow I'm so sorry

[Anonymous]

Both suck but looking at it from a purely objective point of view, then getting caught probably hurts less

[riverrat3]

I would rather catch her, i would stay quiet and watch

[Anonymous]

You have to give women drama to keep them around. If you don't give them drama they will create drama. If I have to bang some other girl to give her a drama fix, so be it. If I don't she will find strange dick to create drama. Simples.

[NathanDavis]

same... I'm no cheater

[Kelly6]

@Simslover92 get caught cheating

[KittygosMeoWW]

I’m not a cheater

[jahaims]

I wouldn't cheat

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Neither.