Do you agree that once you start arguing with someone, you've already lost?

[Telekinetic-Potato]

This was the best piece of advice professionally someone gave me in my career as an entrepreneur.

It also kinda solidified my reputation as being a bit of a dick because I barely argue anymore, I just walk away and leave them to consider what I said and if they don't give me a chance to say it, then I distance them until they're ready to act like an adult.

9 times out of 10, they eventually cool off and either adapt to what I'm doing or come to me later so we can come to some kind of middle ground. The fact I leave the past in the past as soon as possible and give people the respect they're afraid I won't give them when they do come to me, it usually builds really loyal, respectful relationships with people.

[DaveJord]

I totally agree with this piece of advice. Once you start to argue then you are no longer truly listening. Which was probably the problem to start with. You did this and they did that, because you did this and then they did that... so on and so on.

At the end of the day, just take responsibility for yourself and your own actions and choices. Once you do that, then you will see there is not really all that much to argue about.

[Telekinetic-Potato]

This guy gets it

[OtterMan68]

Yeah, especially over politics. It's fun to debate if your opponent is willing to listen and concede points. But most poltical arguments i get into go like this:

Opponent makes a point.

I make a counteroint.

Opponent says I'm wrong.

I bring in stats, facts, or articles to back me up.

Opponent says he doesn't believe my evidence.

I tell him to prove it wrong.

Oppent insults me or says he won't waste his time.

[Telekinetic-Potato]

I have no problem talking things out, it's what I prefer to do. But once you let emotions control the conversation, it's time to go. When it's the workplace anyway.

[dustybiker2]

No. It's a sign of people feeling out of control, lacking communication skills on one side or both.

[KrakenAttackin]

Arguing never changes another person's point of view. Some people need their dopamine fix so they will argue about anything, to which I say, get your fix somewhere else.

[Cheapskate]

If by arguing, you mean losing your temper, then yeah, it makes sense to try to put a lid on that.

[DryGermanGuy]

No? Arguments are part of everyday communication. It’s the difference between mature arguing and insulting screaming matches what makes the point.

[DrPepper12]

No. Once you've ended the dialogue then you both lost. Everyone needs de-escalation techniques and "safe" words in a relationship to signal stop for rn.

[jahaims]

Argue- give reasons or cite evidence in support of an idea, action, or theory, typically with the aim of persuading others to share one's view.

Arguing isn't a negative.

[SolitarySolace]

If that were true than why are debates considered a good thing?

[Telekinetic-Potato]

I think a debate is not necessarily the same as arguing

[Anonymous]

Depending on what's argued.

Sometimes what you say is right.

Sometimes not

[NathanDavis]

lost what?

[Telekinetic-Potato]

Lost at getting your point across and having it seriously considered. The idea is that once one person becomes argumentative they will no longer think logically or process what you're saying.

You can try to power through it but in a teamwork setting, it's not uncommon for someone to get so worked up, they're just going to keep digging in their heels.

This is saying it's better to avoid all that crap by learning to steer the conversation away from that situation.

[boobliker]

most of the time yes! but we still flog-on

[noohair]

Yes, arguing is not listening and is pointless.

[sheikalana]

Yes!