Are there days that you just don’t wanna talk to anyone at all? Why/why not?

[Pinay_ako]

[Freakzilla4ya]

Its hard being an old soul in an age where some folks dont "get it." That sounds bias but please check this out. Navigating the current societal norms is difficult. People get worked up over perceived issues and only communicate via the web. Some people dont like to talk about filtered versions mainstream. Why would they? In the end, it all comes crashing down on those who think they have it figured out but the truth is you never figure it out. You learn until you die. So if you find yourself in company that can't respect your demeanor (unless you are vile person) that is more you time to work on you. Happiness doesn't have to be fictitious and you can't rely on anyone for it. Absolutely! Many things out there to pass the time.

[FatNeville]

This is slightly confusing, but I suppose this is an affirmative answer.

[Freakzilla4ya]

@FatNeville it was supposed to be

[FatNeville]

That sounds like pretty much every day to me. Or, at any rate, it sounded like most days until this recent spree in which I have been communicating with people online. But in general, I'm scared of people and don't like talking.

[Pinay_ako]

I’m sorry to hear that.

[Freakzilla4ya]

Why are you scared?

[FatNeville]

@Freakzilla4ya That's something I've never really figured out for sure. I'm guessing it may have something to due with some kind of regressed trauma, or perhaps a form of chemical imbalance in my brain or of my hormones. I'm also on the autism spectrum, and there seems to be a sort of comorbidity between ASD (autism spectrum disorder) and social anxiety disorder. I never really got along very well with my peers. That was noticed as early as kindergarten, and I was sort of "held back" a year, taking a sort of transitional kindergarten year after kindergarten before starting first grade. As I aged, I was always the "weird one" who didn't fit in. A lot of people probably feel like this at some point in their life, but I feel like in my case it was more than average.
Part of it may be that I never know what to expect from people; I never know how they might react in a given circumstance or what I should be worried about doing because it might trigger an aggressive, hostile, or just generally negative response from them. I also have that urge to make sure everything I do is perfect so that people will like me. Perfection is, obviously, impossible to attain, so such an earnest need to do so just adds to my self-loathing and feelings of inadequacy. I think I have gotten a bit better over the years, though I believe I have also regressed a bit compared to what I think might be the "peak" of getting as near as possible to feeling "okay" in social situations. I have been in therapy more or less continuously for the past twenty years or so, and a fair amount of that has involved trying to overcome the fear I have of people. I am able to say many more things online than I can in real life, so finding this site is a bit of a way for me to practice social skills in a less stressful environment than the "real world", and I can try to use what knowledge I have learned in application to real-world scenarios when I have to respond to behaviors of people around me.

[Freakzilla4ya]

First and foremost, self-loathing and feelings of inadequacy is something you definitely need to consult with a professional about. Any opinions or anecdotes you come across should be taken at face value and looked at as suggestive. I have worked with a variety of people on the spectrum and am not knowledgeable enough to suggest anything to help that. Just because you are different doesn't mean it's bad. I prefer to say you are unique. If you look to others for happiness your journey will be difficult. Start with confidence. I sense doubt in the tone of your writings. I believe there is a lot of immaturity within your peers and that is there way of handling awkward situations. What are your passions? Comedy, movies, exercise, music? You seem to want to fit their idea of cool. Do what works for you. The four things I listed above are things that bridges all walks of life and are usually without barriers. Watch video clips about these things and you will see. Laughter, peace within is priceless. Success is measured differently and is personalized. I will work on my bio information in my profile so people can review, which will lay a foundation for understanding my views. For now, I went to college, joined the service and became part of a unit that is referenced on television regularly. I have been on every continent handling the problems I was deployed to handle. I have worked with people with different beliefs than I have. You are not alone, and someone will find the right words and references to help you on your journey. If I have been any help, I am happy about that, and you can reach out to me anytime. If I have misspoken, I apologize you feel that way and hope no harm comes from it. You are worth the effort you are putting in and if others can't see it, you don't need them. Just know that everyone is fighting battles that others know nothing about. Take care of yourself.

[FatNeville]

@Freakzilla4ya Thank you. But sometimes it feels like I have nothing that interests me at all, when I seemed to used to have a couple things I cared about quite a bit. But things come and go.

[FatNeville]

@Pinay_ako Thanks for considering my opinion "Most Helpful". I think it's only the second time I've had an MHO that wasn't auto-selected by the system.

[AI Opinion]

Absolutely! Even as someone who thrives on communication and relationships, I have days where my inner introvert takes the wheel. Those are the days when I yearn for nothing more than a good book, a cozy nook, and the comforting silence that lets my mind roam free. It's not about disliking people or avoiding conversations, but rather about recharging those social batteries. Think of it as a "system reboot" for humans! After all, even the most gregarious among us need a quiet moment to reflect, dream, and just be. Plus, those quiet moments are often when the best thoughts and ideas decide to make their grand entrance. So, next time you’re feeling less chatty, embrace it! Your social sparkle will shine even brighter after some well-deserved me-time. 🌟

[Xia1994]

Yes sometimes it’s because of PMS for me 😭 but I do talk to people still and I try very hard not take it out on other people.

So I’m usually speaking to people no matter how much I don’t feel like talking, especially if they initiate the conversation with me 😭💞

[bobalife]

Low key because I used so much energy and interpersonal skills for work that I’m so exhausted and constant socializing these past few months is amazing yet it is absorbing too much of my battery… I need to hibernate, but I can’t 😂

[mandyfire98]

Not really. there's at least a couple people I definitely want to talk to.

[MrZameer]

and ho are these people?

[MrZameer]

Who*

[DrPepper12]

You need a good balance of both.

[NathanDavis]

not these days around, no...

if that ever happens again... all kind of alarms and alert the people close to me, lol

[Nikki1989]

I have to talk to people all day as part of my job. Sometimes when I arrive home, the last thing I want to do is talk.

[BonzoInBitburg]

Sometimes I just need a day or two to reset my focus.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Yes, I get them days, and I believe it's due to having so much on my mind.

[Bklynbadboy12]

Yes those are the days when I feel like I have too much on my plate. That's when I get low and get focused

[OfDeath]

All the time. Sometimes I just don’t want to be part of the riffraff

[12karen]

Yep, when I just feel like I don't want to, mostly when I'm pissed in the morning

[msc545]

Every once in awhile I feel like this but I will end up talking to a lot of people anyway

[Markymark92]

Sometimes yes and I’m not sure why that is.

[Agape93]

Yeap. Usually depression

[Jennz6]

Anyone but the Love Doctor Brad

[Wise4myage]

lol. Those A1 clowns need to go!

[Jennz6]

@Wise4myage absolutely 💯

[Wise4myage]

I have been spending less time on here of late, and the A1 crap is one of the reasons.

[Jennz6]

@Wise4myage I try not to reply when I see Amy or Brad

[Wise4myage]

Yeah, I just ignore them and I never reply to long ass question and replies anyway.

[sirderpsalot123]

Not really. Maybe if I'm sick

[Fuentes]

No I'm not a child lol

[beebella]

Yeah, most days. 😂

[LavLavLuv]

Yeah

[pethouse]

Yes. I need my space

[Amur8711]

Yep, sometimes you just need to focus on you.