How do you feel when people at work or at home don't talk to you?

[Bethany22]

As in for example colleagues or roommates. What solutions do you have for this? Would you still try talking to them or would you give up?

Indifferent

offended/shocked/hurt/resentful/angry

Sympathetic. You realize the person might be shy

[ArrowheadSW]

It depends on the reason. If they are shy and just don't talk a lot, it is understandable. And some people are just "to themselves". But if you walk up to them to engage them in conversation, and they don't talk to you, then that is pretty impolite on their part or they have some sort of personality problem. That never happened to me at any job, but outside of work I've had that happen. I usually overlook it the first time, but if they do it again I won't try to socialize with that person.

If it was at work, I'd have to tell them that they need to be able to communicate about work. But I've never had that happen at work.

[glennos89]

Depends on the reason for them not to talk to me. If they are shy I would talk try to talk to them first.
But if they for some reason dont wanne talk to me I couldn't care less about their opinion about me and I wouldn't even let them talk to me then no mather how hard they try. I dont want such people arround me and I wouldn't waste any second of my life for them

[Bethany22]

But how do you remember for sure which one of you is the social retard in the end? At a certain point of them trying to make amends, aren't you the new loser?

[glennos89]

Like I said... it really depends in what type of situation this happens.

For example:

When I'm at work I always stay professional. I don't let my college's get in my head and I will always make sure that my behaviour doesn't effect the productivity of the company. Even if they my co-workers threat me bad, I would still keep talking to them if that is needed to do my job properly. But I make sure I don't let them get in my head with their behaviour. I simply don't care what they say to me because I always tell myself that they are the idiots and not me.

If I'm outside off work with strangers or people I know and they are rude to me or misbehaving to me... I will let them know loud and clear that I don't accept being pushed around and I will let them know I don't wanne have anything to do with them anymore and that I'm not accepting any provocations from them anymore. Whatever they think off me after that I simply don't care anymore

My advice to you: Just try to make a judgement what you feel is the right thing to do in the situation you are in but never let anybody threat you badly. People should be respectful too you because you are also respectful to them. Respect works both way! Try not to overthink how they feel about you because you can't please all the 7 billion people in this world so stop caring what the negative people think off you. If they don't accept you as a person make it their problem but not yours! Dont let them get in your head because its a waste of time and energy

[Bethany22]

@glennos89 Thanks so much for the detailed advice! :D

[glennos89]

Your more then welcome. Hopefully it was useful

[Pinay_ako]

Idc if someone at work doesn’t talk to me unless needed. I am the same way. But just don’t come at me all disrespectful. Or you can fuck off

[misfittoy]

i dont put that much into others anymore, after what i been through with them

[The_Shadow_Dweller]

I would be quite indifferent to it. As both my colleagues and roommates are someone that will take decision more beneficial to them. Hence they can change frequently.

I would be indifferent.

[Chris_Morgan]

If it's my son or a person I'm dating it would bother me a lot and I'm gonna keep trying until I get the bottom of things. If anyone else stops talking to me I enjoy the quiet and wonder how I got so lucky, lol.

[NathanDavis]

depends on the reason and circumstances...

but, if it just happens by chance or randomly... then I have absolutely no issue with "silence and quiet" lmao

I often play music anyway... so I do focus on that, lol

[call_me_scar]

100% very understandable as I'm usually the quite one

[FunkyMonkee]

It depends on the situation. Are they doing it because they're pissed at me, because they hate me, because they're just assholes?

[Bethany22]

Just someone that never talks

[FunkyMonkee]

They're just not exactly outgoing people... like me. I'm the quiet Beatle but, if I feel the need to say something, I do a fair amount of talking.

[Bethany22]

interesting

[FunkyMonkee]

We've done several interviews, either magazines or radio and, I just kinda sit there quietly while the rest of the band does all the talking.

[Havthrills]

I have been screwed over, lied to, manipulated, and back stabbed so many times. I don't care if they talk to me. If they do, what are they going to try to use me for this time? People suck.

[Nik1hil]

Honestly, why do you think it is a problem in the first place

[Bethany22]

Because when I don't talk to people, I fear that I will come across as an arrogant social retard. It bugs me that others are better at living with themselves and seemingly not feeling guilty. At least, when I talk to them, they should show some signs of relief that someone broke the ice for them.

[BobbieBoy666]

When I'm at work I could care less if anybody talks to me but s home yes it bothers me unless I'm having alone nude time. 🤔

[Avatar74]

Some co workers talk some don't I just accept it and socialise with the ones I get along with.

[dudeinohio]

I don't really care. I'm an introvert and it's better if I have limited human interaction

[Iron_Man]

I wouldn’t like it

[Sparkie460]

I'd enjoy the peace and quiet.

[eagle1951]

no problem that's why i have a computer

[anon1903]

That's called stone walling

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Indifferent

[collie22]

sometimes i feel hurt when that happens

[loveslongnails]

Never had that happen

[pizzalovershouse]

Depends if they have a good personality

[HaveNoName]

That is so toxic.

[Jennz6]

Inferior to my customers and co-workers