I need advice about my ex?

[Anonymous]

So my ex and I dated for almost 4 years and recently broke up in March. We had plans to get engaged & married this year and he already had a ring and had asked my dad about marrying me. I broke up with him due to the way I was getting treated (hoping time apart would help him get his act together). He told me a few weeks before we broke up he couldn’t lose me and would do anything to fix everything but when we broke up it just seemed liked he didn’t care anymore. I found out he is already talking to someone else and he’s just acting like he never cared. I don’t know if this is a front or if he just doesn’t anymore. Can someone really stop caring this quickly? All I wanted was for him to fight for me and our relationship and he told me he was sorry he never loved me like I deserved

[Finchie40]

Well the truth is you didn’t really care about him as well, because if you truly cared about him? , you wouldn’t have broke up with him or taken time apart away from him. The second you chose to be apart from him, ? is when you pretty much lost him. Space is not for relationships, space is for astronauts. If you truly loved someone and cared about them, you would stay by their side and fix what was broken , not walk away , leaving your partner with a question mark over their head as to why you are walking away? . Your fiancé probably assumed you met someone else or you were talking to someone else or you were cheating on him , why space is not good in relationships, so he was smart to throw in the towel to you and he met someone else that didn’t want to walk away from him period. Space in relationships is for selfish people , that only really care about themselves. We don’t get into relationships to be single , and distance ourselves from our partner , you are supposed to be a team , by having each others’ backs You and your partner VS. The world. Not the other way around. If you want your partner to have your back , you have to have theirs as well, not your way or no way. By you choosing space over choosing your partner, is sadly why you are now single. You should always wear your partners’ shoes before making decisions, and understand you can not always be right and your partner is wrong. Having that mindset makes you a selfish person , that only cares about yourself and what is best for yourself , You sadly will never have a long term relationship with anyone until you learn how to remove selfishness from within yourself for your partner. It’s ok to be wrong at times as long as you can admit to yourself that you were wrong before pointing fingers at your partner first and blaming them for your selfish actions. No one on this Earth is perfect, we are all imperfect people. If you want to experience true love with someone , you have to learn to remove selfishness for your partner the same way you want your partner to do for you. If you can’t do that, you will continue having failed relationships because you only care about what is best for yourself and you aren’t factoring in your partners’ feelings. If you are angry with your partner? , walk into another room and take time to calm down before talking to them again , don’t leave the house or storm out and say you need space , your partner has no clue where you are going and it’s going to put a question mark over his head as to why all of a sudden you need time away from them? When a girl tells me she needs space , I tell her Take all the space you want , because I will not be sitting here waiting for

Your return , we either fix what is broken or go our separate ways. I am not a fucking wind up toy , I am not a convenience . If you want to be treated like a priority , I better be your priority as well , or don’t let the door hit ya in the ass on your way out. I will not be a sitting duck for a girl with Sucker written on my head , if she thinks she has one over on me,? she is in for a rude awakening when she realizes I am no longer there waiting for her and I am probably in bed with a girl that was waiting for me with open arms. Don’t think for a second that your man doesn’t have other options as well , not all men cheat , they mainly cheat on selfish girls’ that need space from him , if you are in a rellationship with a guy that needs space from you , he is more than likely cheating on you , mark my words , why it’s important to make each other
Your top priority , and no longer demand space when things don’t go your way.

[spartan55]

If you 'wanted him to fight for you' you shouldn't have broke up with him. Your plan to get him back was stupid to put it nicely.

[Anonymous]

He was never going to fight for you, and I’m sorry it took giving him an ultimatum for you to realize that, but at least now you have your answer. This is for the better, because imagine having married him and stuck being treated bad. You deserve a better person who will fight for you because he’s out there. Be grateful to have been spared from marrying into a future of pain.

[sheikalana]

Is not that he doesn't care. He seems to be pretty mature while you're acting kinda childish. You broke up with him so he's just respecting your wishes he's not going to fight for someone who doesn't want to be with him. The fact that you broke up with him so he could fight for you is just delusional and manipulative. You're wrong for that and now he may never come back.

[In_Trance]

stop interacting with your ex