Need some ex relationship advice?

[jordanb8989]

So, my ex girlfriend/girl i was engaged to for 3 years have been split up For 7-8 months now. We both made a lot of mistakes and treated eachother poorly. We was on and off a lot. Well, she contacted me 3 months ago because my mail came to her house. We facetimed for about an hour and i tried taking her to dinner. She was showing me about how she looks now, the improvements she did to her house, refinanced her house to pay her new car off, and bought her son a truck. All of a sudden, her phone dies. So she sent my mail to my post office and included a note that said “sorry my phone died.” We haven’t spoke since. I have blocked her on all social media since we been broke up and have never tried to contact her since we split. In December, my brother told me she has a new man now and showed me pictures of her, him, and the her two kids at the dudes house and them together captioned “love my boys.” I rarely thought about her since we been split until i seen the picture with another guy and the caption she put. The dude was a fat guy and not attractive. It would hurt more if he looked better than me but he don’t and people have told me that. I have been eating clean and hitting the gym 6x a week because i love it and want to become more attractive and better overall and change my old habits and routines to mix things up. I got a new mindset now and realize everything i did wrong. I guess my self esteem went down the viral because of this toxic relationship. Am i the issue look wise or do i need to change my ways internally?

Updates

6 mo

The guy she is with now is the total opposite of me and my identity. He is 300+ pounds, spiked hair, beard and not good looking….

[JesseP1nk]

"She was showing me about how she looks now, the improvements she did to her house, refinanced her house to pay her new car off, and bought her son a truck"

Yeah, when i read this is, i figured right away she has a new man. No woman have so much money or take such a risk to make so much changes in such a short time. Its like those chicks on instagram who take photos on a yacht. You think she bought/rented that yacht? On this new boyfriend... Women do not care that much how her man look like if he is fat slob or not.

My suggestion is to move on, take good care of yourself, work out not because to impress someone but because you want to be best version of yourself. Learn new things, - finance, learn to play guitar, martial arts. Because in a future when you have a family you dont have so much time anymore to do those things. If your mind start to loop around her then think "its done" and think about something else or do something - at somepoint you are no longer trapped in the past.

All the best to you.

[jordanb8989]

Thank you so much! Everyday gets better. I’ve never initiated contact since we been apart. We was on and off for 3 years. We broke up a lot. It never hit me like this until i seen her with another man in a picture. Do you think im a bad looking guy?

[JesseP1nk]

You look fine. It was right move to block her. If she is the only one that initiates contact that pulls you back in the past and what good does it do? That messes with your head and actually being disrespectful to her new boyfriend also. Now you took this pain and use it as a fuel to be better yourself

[jordanb8989]

Thank you so much! I appreciate everything!

[FunkyMonkee]

No thanks. I'm not having any trouble with any of my ex's.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Did we not just talk about this a couple days ago? If you’re mad she got with a fat guy, that means the fat guy has something you don’t. I know you’re a jarhead but it can’t be that hard for you to think about what might be missing.

[jordanb8989]

I know. I read your comment and took it to heart, i appreciate you

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

You clearly did not if you’ve been obsessively posting about it. Just go to therapy and shut up

[AI Opinion]

As a relationship coach, I’m here to help you on your relationship journey. Rewinding back to your ex like a romantic DJ might not be the wisest track. Focusing on self-improvement, killer gym sessions, and a fresh mindset is where it’s at! Your self-esteem’s on the rise, and honestly, that’s super attractive! Future relationships wouldn't mind a confident you who knows you’re a catch, darling! Your internal growth is the real glow-up. Keep shining and maybe even try the new dance moves you’ve been working on! 💃🕺