How do I believe that a man can love me?

[Sweetascandy1990]

I have been cheated on and abused in many relationships. I have a hard believing a man can love me and want to be with me long-term or see me beautiful. I wish to find love, buy so afraid of rejection.

[Oliverlogan263]

Hey girl, I get feeling that way can really mess with your self-esteem. Trusting again after being hurt so many times is so hard. But listen, you absolutely deserve someone who will love and cherish you the way you deserve!

It may take time, but I think when you find the right guy who treats you with respect from the start, it'll help you believe love can be real. Go slow, pay attention to how he makes you feel - cared for, heard, important. A good man will make an effort to understand you and gain your trust over time through his actions, not just words.

Don't be afraid to open up when you're ready. Rejection is always a possibility, but wouldn't you rather find out sooner if he's not worthy than waste more time with someone who may hurt you again? You've got so much love to give - when the time is right, give your heart a chance to receive it back from someone deserving. I know you'll find that person! Just keep being your awesome self. Stay strong 💪

[Sweetascandy1990]

Thank you so much. I appreciate your kind words and for your encouragement✨️ I will stay strong and not give up and believe there are still good men out there 🤍

[Oliverlogan263]

No problem sis, we gotta stick together and lift each other up! I'm serious though, don't lose that positive mindset. Give off good vibes and good vibes will come back to ya.

And hell yeah don't give up hope, the good ones are definitely still out there. Just keep doing you and having fun meeting new people. Maybe join some clubs or take a class just to get yourself out there in a low pressure way too.

Things will fall into place once you start radiating that confidence from taking care of yourself. And if a dude ever steps to you, trust your gut feeling - if they don't seem right from the jump, bounce quickly! You got this, just believe in you. We're all rooting for ya, you’re gonna be great. Stay golden!

[Sweetascandy1990]

Thank you so much 🤍✨️

[Oliverlogan263]

Thanks for talking about all this stuff with me. I know breakups and stuff can be really rough. But it's awesome that you're staying strong and putting yourself out there again. I'm sure there's an awesome dude waiting to treat a cool girl like you right. Please don't lose hope! And if you ever need a friend to listen, vent to or whatever, feel free to message me. I'm always around if you wanna chat more. But for now, just take care of yourself and do things that make you feel good. You deserve all the happiness!

[lightbulb27]

You have to figure out what is going on... anytime there is a repeat, then I look to self as to what facilitated the situation. You are the "chooser"... your choices and boundaries and strength... something is wrong. Anyone can screw up once, maybe twice... three times... that you own. So then ask why... where did that come from (early life traumatic emotional training), and repair that little child. Wounds are emotional and they control, that's often the culprit. Then once you understand yourself, you can face these recent experiences with confidence you will select better quality, manage a good relationship, and won't repeat.

Yes I see good loving committed relationships, quite a few long term.

You don't want to drag the past and fears into your next relationship, so work on yourself. It's the only thing you control.

[Sweetascandy1990]

Yes, I do remember you gave me advice about this awhile back. I guess I made a few more mistakes because I chose to follow my attraction versus vetting them carefully. My attraction towards certain men is magnetic, which usually is a pull to familiarity... abusive, narcissistic men like parents were to me. I will keep working on my little child. I have more self awareness now that I made more mistakes. I'm taking some time to heal. Thank you so much as always ✨️

[lightbulb27]

good, that makes sense. go for someone that is good to you but you don't necessarily feel strong emotions. You like being with them and learn to appreciate that they are a decent person.

changing how you feel is difficult. Still work on repairing inner child all you can, putting the past into perspective and that's good no matter what. Faith will give you more power.

Wish you good fortunes!

[Sweetascandy1990]

Yes, I agree. Thank you so much 🤍

[midnightmoon05]

You have to start believing yourself again. Learn from your past, rebuild your future…otherwise it will repeat.
I was once in your shoes…I am now happily remarried…not because he convinced me…I had to convinced him that he deserves love and happiness…

yiu have to make the changes …

good luck.

[Sweetascandy1990]

Yes, this is true. I need to rebuild my self-esteem and learn from my mistakes. Thank you for your advice ❤️

[mbarsi01]

There’s millions of people in your country or state it only takes one

[Sweetascandy1990]

Very true 👍🏼 Thank you 🙂

[cootjuhh]

a girl put my nudes online and taped me on youtube. worst feeling ever bit i still like girls.

[Sweetascandy1990]

I am so sorry that happened to you. That is terrible. You didn't deserve that. I am so glad you still like women. I wish you love and healing 🌷

[cootjuhh]

thank you thats very sweet. i hope you will find the peace and love you deserve.

[Sweetascandy1990]

Thank you so much 🤍

[cootjuhh]

u very welcome

[slatyb]

Have you considered counseling?

[Sweetascandy1990]

I'm in therapy, but I guess it will take time. I will stick to my therapy. Thank you 🙂

[slatyb]

It helped me a lot. I hope it works for you.

[Sweetascandy1990]

Yes, I hope so too. Thank you so much 🤍