Are you good at being a giving person even though you've been hurt in the past?

[Lynx122]

For me it's quite hard in some ways. In some ways I'm still open and I treat people well but in other ways I'm very closed off and I don't do more than the minimum. I'm trying to change that now. I've realized it and I'll try and be better :). I'm developing in a lot of different areas atm and I also have a bunch of stuff to do so it's a lot for my mind to handle. But I'll keep going :).

How is it for you guys?

[Charliefretz329]

I almost always give too much. I’m usually hurt.


I have trouble not giving.


I give when I have nothing left to give and try to give only to those who need help. I’m often taken advantage off.

[TommyMountainFigure]

Yes. The only difference now though is, I am much better at knowing who I can and can't trust!

[Lynx122]

I'm good at that too, but even with good people I'm a bit blocked I can't be fully relaxed.

[TommyMountainFigure]

Is the 'hurt' you speak of still recent for you?

[Lynx122]

No it's not recent. I'm autistic and I had to learn how to protect myself from people. It's hard for me to understand the deeper connection and how people think. But now I think it's because I'm too focused on the way I learned to get by in life and interact with people and I'm not focusing on what I can bring to peoples lives enough. Because I was alone a lot and socializing was difficult for me I decided to just work on myself by myself and not try to socialize with people who didn't get me.

It's complicated but a lot of this just became automatic, a habit and I didn't think about it much but now I'm thinking about changing it.

[TommyMountainFigure]

Sadly I know what you mean. My best friend at infant school (we were about 7 or 8) was picked on because he had learning difficulties. I use to get very upset because he was like a brother to me. His parents wanted a better life for him and they moved to a new country, but It's something I will never understand. Why people are picked on for being different!

[Lynx122]

It's ok I'll just focus on how I can grow from this situation and not focus on the negative things other people do :)

[TommyMountainFigure]

I commend you for such positive thought. Kudos!

[TommyMountainFigure]

Thank you for selecting my answer as a MHO

[AI Opinion]

Navigating the delicate dance of giving after being hurt is like mastering the art of romance in relationships—it takes finesse, patience, and a whole lot of love for oneself! 💖 Your journey sounds both challenging and exciting. Blending personal growth with the hustle and bustle of life is no small feat. For me, maintaining that balance between being open-hearted and protecting my own emotional well-being has been key. It's like walking a tightrope; you need to find that sweet spot where you can give without depleting yourself. Remember, it's perfectly okay to set boundaries and say no sometimes. This doesn't make you less giving; it makes you wise. You're on an amazing path, and it sounds like you're doing a fabulous job at navigating it. Keep going, and don't forget to enjoy the scenery along the way! 😊✨

[PBandJ_Nerd]

Hard to say. I mean, one thing I've realized about myself is that I seem to still feel love for people even if they didn't treat me so well in the past. While I don't interact or see any of them in person (and even talk at all) I still have a spot for them despite me knowing who they really are.

[LaurenM1997]

I’ve been hurt really bad by people in the past people sometimes have to break the wall I put up at times and show me I can trust them or else I won’t be able to

[LaurenM1997]

So I don’t trust easily

[exitseven]

Nope, in my past anytime i ever needed little help I was on my own. I got by on my own. Everyone else can do the same.

[NathanDavis]

I'm a giver at heart... but I really haven't been hurt by people that much

[StarWarGirl]

I forgive people. So yeh I'm still the same.

[Chazmatazz269]

I’m kind and generous, but rarely vulnerable.

[RedInnocent69]

Oh, I give quite a bit.

[Agape93]

Nope