Forgiveness: are you a generous giver?

[Jlegacy]

I learnt recently that this is one of the things this world needs right now and this prompted this question. Life is full of offences and unkind people. How are you dealing? What your forgiveness philosophy?

Very generous

Just generous

Poorly generous

Very unforgiving

Other

[NathanDavis]

well, it was around 14 years old of age, when I really felt like I had nothing I wanted to do with... if nothing would really make me happy, we could very well say my soul was finally broken, and a broken spirit is usually, pretty much it... and it almost was for me, but... I was not done, if I ever needed reasons for everything, this was no different, my reason to live life like you should came next...

I was going to give all I could, and I was going to do all I could to make others happy and happier, the ones I care for, the ones I still had, and the ones that cared for me... give, give and give... expecting nothing in return, with just one interest in mind and soul, make them happy, make them laugh, something I did best... giving with genuine care and started to become my happiness in this life and world, and that's what finally brought happiness to my life and being to way way different level, much than I could ever think or feel it would be possible, and since then... this has not changed one bit, this is who I have become, the only time I will take is as much time you give me to make you happier

and then yes, I know how to appreciate and to receive, and yes, I've been given A LOT by those in my life, some being way more generous to me than I've been to them, and for that I am grateful as well

[serious]

Well, I can forgive but according not everything is meant to be forgiven and hence I decide as per situation whether I can forgive a person or not.

Naturally I don't forgive and neither do I forget easily.

[SofiSin667]

Very unforgiving. Once that trust has been broken, it’s hard for me to get back to where we were. Even if I tried it just wouldn’t be the same because the past would constantly replay on my mind. With that in mind, I’d rather just accept things for what they are and keep it moving... as for them, well let’s just hope they never need me for anything.

[serious]

That isn't surprising to me. A woman values trust, honesty and especially from a man irrespective to what a man may mean to them.

[Corina_J]

Depends on the offense. I know how to forgive and sometimes it's hard for me to grant, esp if I'm hurt deeply.

There's a few things I will absolutely never in this lifetime forgive, but that's another topic entirely.

If I feel a lesson in treating me properly needs to be taught, I'll never let the offender live it down. EVER.

[Jlegacy]

Thanks for sharing. Now I'm curious to know what you won't forgive. Dm?

[Anonymous]

I forgive after they can do no more harm... Too often people use forgiveness to let bad people, even predatory people, off the hook... Leaving them to go out and continue to go out and harm people, rape people, and even become president of the United States.

[Jlegacy]

Lol on the president thing. Has this happened for real?

[Opinion Owner]

In my country, yes, one Donald J Trump had been predatory both in his business and sexual practices, going as far as allegedly raping a woman in a dressing room, and was then elected president.

[Jlegacy]

Wow. Never knew this about him. How come he was not jailed?

[Opinion Owner]

Money.. got enough of it and the law doesn't apply

[Jlegacy]

Wow. That's a bad record to have.

[SecretsofKB]

Generally, I'd say I'm pretty forgiving. I really don't stay mad at anyone for very long, because for the most part, they are little issues.

The bigger problems definitely illicit a bigger response and I can be less forgiving

[DonkeyDan]

Well that all depends if the person deserves forgiveness, if they've wronged me in a bad way they can go kiss my ass. If it's something I feel comfortable forgiving then about, I will.

[Anonymous]

I had to forgive one ex who injured me worse than any other woman had in my entire life. Not to say I was perfect in my relationship but what she did was cold and literally heinous.

It was one of the hardest things I’ve ever done. But it also gave me sense of liberation. She was living rent free in my head for a very long time. This move helped me realize that she was no longer welcome in my mind.

Not to say I haven’t forgotten about her. But the forgiveness did something.

[Hangry06]

Depends on my mental state. It's more harder to forgive myself than others. So when i am dealing with myself, idc what other's do wrong to me. Otherwise i hold grudges

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

[collie22]

i forgive pretty easy, i try not too but sometime i forget too

[Jlegacy]

Wow. Nice. Been a while.

[serious]

@collie22

What do you mean you forget?

You forget you shouldn't forgive someone?

[collie22]

@serious sometimes i forget to be generous

[serious]

@collie22

Okay.

[HighValue]

Quite unforgiving these days. Tolerance for bad behavior is what ruined society and made it the way it is now.

[Agape93]

If I forgive, then it was something very minor. But otherwise, I don't forgive and I can hold onto grudges for decades.

[Cherry234]

I think I'm just generous not too generous. There are certain things that some people do that are unforgivable like murder and rape

[Z1pTD]

Poorly generous because i usually dont have much money, but when i can afford to eat out or meet someone on the streets i usually tip very well or get them a sandwich and some work if there's any i can give them (which isn't often)

[DeeDeeDeVour]

I'm a very generous (sharing) person but not always a forgiving (merciful) one.

[MCheetah]

Poorly Generous (but I voted D by mistake).
I'm a "forgive but never forget" type.

[Anonymous]

Nope. I am rightfully unforgiving.
There are too many backstabbers and traitors and scammers and users to be too considerate in general.
Screw me over even just once, rue it eventually. Dead in my eyes. DEAD.

[Wester1967]

You can forgive once. If you have to forgive twice, you probably need to leave

[Phoenix98]

I wouldn't say I'm generous I just have a kind heart, selfless would be the word I'd use.

[YesICan]

Hell no, no forgiveness. I don't expect people to forgive me if I do them wrong, nor would I forgive anyone who does me wrong.

[15_Debo]

I do not believe in forgive and forget

[serious]

Yes at least not everything in meant to be forgiven nor to forget also

[15_Debo]

@serious yeah

[Alyssa11]

Nah. When I’m done im done. There’s no going back.

[serious]

@alyssa11

Good

[exitseven]

I am working on being a more forgiving person.