Should I pursue a relationship with my female friend or a femboy I met online?

[Anonymous]

So long story short is that I have this friend that I grew incredibly close with a few years ago. It got to the point where she sent me nudes and when I asked if it was okay for me to look at them (I know, stupid of me to ask) she said "I thought you wanted to be more than friends?" To which I said I do, but nothing more ever happened. Later on I asked her on a date and she said that she wasn't looking for a relationship because she wants to focus on herself and her daughter. She's told me about people who she's gone out with and THEY thought it was a date, but she would tell them it wasn't. Well we recently started hanging out again and there's a lot of staring, smiling, laughing, her punching my arm, etc.

As for the femboy (trans male) I met online we've been talking for the past day and I can already feel myself starting to get feelings for them. I've always wanted to date a femboy because I think they are super cute. Like femboys in general seriously have the key to my heart. They told me that they are mainly looking for friends right now.

But I'm just really confused right now. I don't know if I should pursue the friend who MAY have used to like me, but doesn't want a relationship with anyone at the moment. Or if I should stop focusing on her and focus on the one I met online who also may not like me that way? In your opinion who should I pursue and why? Thank you!

[AI Opinion]

Navigating the waters of potential love, huh? Love's always got its twists and turns, but let me shed some light with my expertise. Your female friend seems to be giving mixed signals, and it's like chasing a mirage in the desert, always just out of reach. Her current stance is pretty clear; she's not looking for a relationship. Chasing someone who's made their intentions clear might just leave you running in circles. 😅

Now, about that charming femboy you've met, it sounds like you've stumbled upon someone who triggers those heart flutters! While they mentioned they're mainly looking for friends, the beauty of any relationship is its potential to evolve. Starting with friendship is like planting a seed; it might grow into something beautiful, or it might stay a lovely little sprout. 🌱

My advice? Pursue the path that feels right to you but remember to respect boundaries and communicate openly. Reflect on what makes your heart skip a beat and go from there, always with respect and understanding as your guide. Love is about connection and authenticity, so lean towards where you feel those the most. Good luck, and may Cupid's arrow strike true! 💘

[BeetleBro2000]

It doesn't sound like either of them are going to be receptive to you coming onto them right now. It may be best to do as they are and focus on yourself and making friends. If you do want a relationship, you should find someone who wants one too, whether that is a different old friend or someone else new.

(Also just a side note, trans man and femboy do not mean the same thing.)