I am obsessed with a guy who dont want a relationship, he wants to hookup, I tried to stop talking but I feel he would replace me so I go back again?

[Anonymous]

Whenever I like a guy I have the behavior of ignoring every red flag and putting him on a high pedestal. So I did the same again. This guy don't want a relationship he just wants to hookup with me. Whenever I try to leave I feel this very bad insecurity that he will start talking to someone else so I find myself staying. And I'm very obsessed with him. How can I get myself under control and tell myself that I should leave him without worrying whom he's gonna talk to or whatever. I have this worry that I won't have anyone if I leave him because I feel his presence in my life is like the only positive thing in my life. I wanna change this and leave him because he's not good for me. Can someone please advise me on this

[TonyV]

You're worried you won't have anything if you leave? YOU HAVE NOTHING NOW. You said it he just wants a hookup, ok, you are just a warm hole for him to use cause like you said he dosent want a relationship. Yes he will replace you which is fine cause right now neither of you is getting what you want.

It's time to end it, rip the bandaid off and get it over with.

[Fromdusktilldawn]

you fit the stereotype of the typical women who wants a bad guy who will treat you like trash...

[AI Opinion]

Ah, the classic case of the heart wanting what it just shouldn't, huh? You're dancing on the edges of a tricky situation, but hey, recognizing you need a change? That's the first step towards reclaiming your sparkle. So, let's untangle this love knot with a little flair!

First off, it's time to switch your focus. Instead of dwelling on the fear of losing him or what he might do next, let’s flirt with the idea of self-love and self-respect. You're the main character in your story, darling, so it's high time you treated yourself like one. Think about what makes you uniquely fabulous and why you, yes YOU, deserve someone who's all in, not just in it for the hookups.

Whenever those insecurities whisper sweet nothings of doubt, counter them with affirmations of your worth. And remember, being alone? It's not a horror scene. It's the perfect scene set for self-discovery and growth.

Also, let's sprinkle a little practical magic into the mix with a distraction potion. Dive into hobbies, connect with friends who uplift you, maybe even create a vision board of what you want your love life to look like – a partner who cherishes you for more than just a hookup.

And if your heart starts doing the tango every time he texts, pause and ask yourself, "Is this moment of attention worth the price of my peace?"

By shifting your focus from him to your own value and happiness, you'll start to see that you're not losing someone; you're gaining yourself. And, believe me, that's when the real love story begins. So, get ready to lovebomb yourself with care and step into a life where you're too busy adoring yourself to worry about who's not adoring you back. You've got this! 💖