An ex boyfriend came back n wants to be with me again. What should I do

[Anonymous]

1. He broke up with his girlfriend today itself n sent me ss of it when i agreed to talk to him again. It was very cold

2. Then later he went on to talk about how he wanted me to change that one thing which made him broke off with me. N he wished for it n said thats all he wanted. I said No because its practically my identity.

3. When i said no he was ready to go back to his girlfriend again, god knws what he said to her, but then asked me to still talk with him, he even begged even if its once a week. I said No cuz i don't thk its right plus i will practically be a side chick even if he said its friendly.

Now Me: i still love him too n am single but i feel like he isn't a good man cuz he can change on me anytime, plus why would he go back to the girl he just broke off if he wasn't into her much.

What would u do if u were me? Did i make the right decision?

[Craftsman]

Were it me, I'd close all the doors as quickly and as solidly as I could. In my experience, someone coming into a relationship with a request for basic personality or other life changes is trouble, and will never be made happy, no matter what they think, let alone what you do to adapt.
My thought is, be true to yourself. Do not change, adapt, modify, or in any way bow to those demands. Changing who you are for anyone tells you that the demanding person is the wrong person for you.
My mother used to say "You have to empty the closet to make room for the right clothes." Likewise, I think it is wise to clear and keep clear your life so that you have the freedom and the readiness for the right person to come into your life.
To answer your last question, I think you made the right decision.

[ohsheeT]

You don't need to talk to him

He already proved to you exactly who he is why would you want that in your life

If you are to get back with him and it's your choice and only your choice I guess you get everything you deserve and I hate saying it like that but you've already been down this road it's not going to change it's the same bumpy road and as soon as you find somebody else new he will walk away again

[Lilibet]

He’s not a good guy, trying manipulate you and I bet he’s narcissistic if he asked you to change something about yourself cuz that what’s made him to break up with you. Such a horrible excuse. On too he broke up with his girl and then he was running back to you cuz he don’t want to be alone. He needs someone to adore him cuz he like to be in the centre of attention and blame someone else for his mistakes. Don’t even try to go back to him, people like that will drain you emotionally
I would just block him tbh if you have feelings for him cuz you will not get his text so you will be able to move on

[Asker]

I did just that. Thank you

[BlackBeauty90]

He sounds like a loser who uses men and when he can't get what he wants he runs between one from the other. If you're smart you'd block him and if he happens to show up at your house make it very clear that he does it again you'll call the cops

[BlackBeauty90]

*women

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

No! Don’t take him back

[Romeo0071234]

He’s a loser. He’s probably having issues with the current girlfriend as well and he can’t change her so he’s running to you. I think the entire thing of him leaving her is bs and there’s more to it. He’s just trying to get with you for the moment or to keep on the side. He clearly just showed he doesn’t care for you since he’s threaten to go back to the other girlfriend so quick. So every time he’s upset he will cheat or leave? That’s what type of person he’s showing that he is. You seem sweet and caring and you definitely deserve better. Honestly he sounds like trash and I wish I could smash his face lol.. I don’t like people like that.

[Asker]

U made my day😅. Sometimes i just wish I can hv one slap on him. Its sad i loved a person like that

[Romeo0071234]

Not your fault. Love is tough and it gets the best of us at times. You’re strong and you’ll pul through and get over him.

[Mach40]

You've made a thoughtful decision by prioritizing your self-respect and
identity. It's valid to have concerns about his behavior and intentions,
especially with his recent breakup and swift change of heart. Trust
your instincts and consider whether this relationship aligns with your
values and comfort level. Remember that a healthy relationship should be
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[sheikalana]

You should move on. This doesn't sound like a good idea. He's just using you as a rebound. How can he break up with someone and want to be with another one the same day? That's a huge red flag. Do yourself a favor and put yourself out of this situation.

[Marklaw12]

You writing this means you've already made up your mind and you're just looking for validation.

Me personally, you should just move on. If he's done it once it means he will do it again and will continue to do so until you grow some balls to say no.

That being said, what if you said no but he's the one for you?

Well, make him work so hard to get you back

[catarecute]

he doesn't love you. if he did he wouldn't try to change your identity and wouldn't blackmail you. thats not love thats abuse. i would stay away from this man.

[fuddly]

You're spot on
He's looking to keep his options open
Be with you for sex untill something better comes along
Then again if you are happy with just sex it could be okay

[Asker]

He is not getting anything here. I might love him but i won't be stupid for love

[Vampire_Killing_Time]

Decline. You're number two, second best. Plan B who will always take him back. He is counting on that. He treats you like that. Don't let him treat you like that.

[Anonymous]

Didn't even read the text. Girl you don't take an ex back. Trust me on this it's just further waste of time and new heartbreak and more time to spend being miserable to add to the list.

[boggboss]

I would move on and stop worrying about shitty men and what they want

[caitycat21]

Girl stand up and have some self respect, that man doesn’t give a fuck about you and just saw you as rebound.


He probably treats his dog with more respect than he treats you.

[femalepretzelmaker]

You don't want him he sounds like trash.
Listen to your ❤️ heart

[zagor]

Avoid him. He's just playing your emotions. Don't waste any more time on it.

[AnusNdaPainus]

I Don’t think he wants to be with you

[ronaldo75]

He's fucking rebounding. Stay away.

[MaxUsefull]

I think it’s a bad idea

[In_Trance]

Block him

[Socaljp]

Be done with him