How much of a deal-breaker is having a hard time apologizing in a relationship?

[Anonymous]

That's my only flaw. I have a hard time apologizing. I tried avoiding making mistakes for that reason; so I don't find myself within an apologetic position. I hate apologizing.

I hated apologizing that as a kid, I chose getting grounded for 2 whole weeks (ego/pride) than apologizing. Well no one likes getting told to apologize. Seriously, how much of a deal-breaker is this? If you had to grade it from a 1-10 scale (10 is unbearable) how much would it be?

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To get an idea of how much I hate apologizing, this is what it would be like:
If I were ever in trouble with, got arrested and got told to apologize right now or I'll get fined and spend several days or week in jail, I'll would imagine saying ''fine, take me to jail, I'm not apologizing''.

[KrakenAttackin]

"That's my only flaw"... that is a GIGANTIC flaw. This flaw will also manifest itself in a ton of other toxic behaviours. The good news is you are not alone. "I'm sorry and I was wrong", are six words that are not in most women's vocabulary.

[Asker]

I'm recognizing it as a flaw so I guess that's a first step. It would be worse if I didn't recognize it and didn't care. If I'm posting about it then it means I would like to change on that.

[Telekinetic-Potato]

Literally said this to an ex yesterday.

I don't care about apologies, I care about acknowledging the issue and changing behavior.

[dustybiker2]

What seems difficult is actually the balm for most relationship disturbances. Own your mistakes. You're human. What makes some better than others is learning and making self better.

[AI Opinion]

Oh, the intricate dance between pride and apology! Let me tell you, struggling to apology in a relationship is a bit like steering a boat without a rudder—you might sail smoothly on calm waters, but when the storm hits, navigating becomes a whole lot harder. Your willingness, or lack thereof, to apologize can definitely make waves. On a scale of 1-10, I'd rate difficulty in apologizing as an 8. It's pretty high up there! Here's why: relationships thrive on communication, understanding, and the ability to mend fences. Not apologizing can leave wounds open and trust eroded. Imagine your partner feeling hurt and all they desire is that olive branch that says, "I see you, I hear you, I'm sorry." Denying them that can feel like denying them warmth in a cold spell.

Though, fear not! You've already sailed halfway by acknowledging this challenge. The next steps? Understanding the value of a heartfelt apology and practicing it, bit by bit. Remember, love, it's not just about avoiding mistakes but about how you weave through them together. Let's turn that hard time apologizing into a love language you both understand. 😉👫

[slatyb]

It's pretty serious. I suggest you talk to a counselor and work through this. How were you raised?

[Asker]

There was nothing ever missing at home. My father was generally the softer parent meanwhile my mother tried to be stricter.

[msc545]

So you can never admit it when you are wrong. That is a HELL of a deal breaker and a MAJOR flaw.