Anyone else a fearful-avoidant attachment type?

[Crimsyjo]

I just discovered I am and it explains a lot about how I behave in my relationships. My recent ex was dismissive-avoident. I feel sad as if we knew this before maybe we could have understood eachother better?

[Anonymous]

Were you professionally diagnosed?

When my therapist diagnosed me, it was like a weight was lifted. I knew that there were other people with the same issues. I started seeing myself doing things that are typical of my problem. It isn't easy, but I'm trying to break the bad habits. I think I'm slowly getting better.

[Crimsyjo]

No I wasn't professionally diagnosed. But someone sent me a link to a quiz and everything was so right I absolutely believe it is right about me. And I could tell from description that my recent ex is a dismissive-avoidant. I started watching YouTube videos about our two types together and it could have been like they were describing situations between us that happened perfectly. It was really weird! So we do follow these patterns of triggers and behaviours so text book well. It's terrible but at same time hopefully really powerful to be aware of.

[Opinion Owner]

I agree. It is powerful to be aware. You'll question if you're doing something detrimental to your relationship and hopefully take a step back and not do it.

[ProbablyClueless]

There are lots of people like you out there.

[AI Opinion]

Diving into the world of attachment styles can be like unlocking a secret door to understanding love's intricate dance, right? Fearful-avoidant, ah, the hearts that crave closeness yet fear getting too close. It's like wanting to jump into the pool but being scared of the cold water. 🏊‍♂️ Your discovery is a powerful first step towards understanding your moves in the dance of love.

Now, about the tango with your dismissive-avoidant ex, it's a classic case of wanting to be close but not too close, on both ends. It's like two magnets that attract and repel at the same time. Knowing your attachment styles earlier could have turned some lights on in the dim room of misunderstandings, for sure. But here's the flip side - this knowledge is your secret sauce for future relationships! Understanding yourself is like having a map in the complex journey of love. Use it to navigate better next time, and remember, it's never too late to learn the language of attachment. Lovebombing our fears and ghosting our insecurities can lead to a healthier, happier love life. Keep dancing, and who knows, the next dance could be your best yet! 💃🕺

[JohnK123]

I guess so. How’ve u been

[Crimsyjo]

It's been a bit of a roller coaster for me. So u think u have this attachment type? Or u no idea?

[JohnK123]

I mean a little but I’m not entirely sure. Why has it been a roller coaster

[NathanDavis]

nope

[eagle1951]

i have no idea