What’s your attachment style? Avoidant secure anxious anxious avoidant?

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What’s your attachment style? Avoidant secure anxious anxious avoidant?

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midnightmoon05 Follow
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Very secure. My mom adore me and all the kids in the family. She makes sure we are loved and cared for. So that we can all grow up to be happy, healthy, kind and successful.
I had a lot of issues with my husband when I first met him … after some years, we figured out why he had avoiding personality, fear of intimacy, passive aggressive, trusting the wrong people, etc…. Non of his therapies were able to help. after I understand his childhood dynamics… it all makes sense. He is now in a much better place.
when I work with my 30 students in class, I can often understand how well these kids are in terms of their emotional level. Those who have been abandoned by their moms seem to have a lot of emotional confusion. I don’t know how to help them while trying to teach them academics. We are not allow to even hug these kids. It’s very sad.
i have also learned about a lot of people on gag have underlying childhood trauma due to the way their care takers looked after them.

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- VIVANT
  
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  You are lucky. It’s interesting too how people without the snooty to form healthy bonds can create anxiety in otherwise healthy situations. When I meet people who like to make a big show about being independent I feel kind of bad for them bc we are social after all. It’s still hard for me to form bonds but I’m at least no longer clinging to the idea there’s anything no ie in being 💯 solitary I regret the tine I wasted with that as an aim. I’m glad you are in a happy situation and may help your students 😊
  
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annabananna Follow
Yoda Age: 32

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A bit anxious avoidant but more secure the older I get

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TallAnon Follow
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I had a look around since I never heard of these, but I will have to go with secure in the end. Seems like the boring one, haha. All the other ones sound quite dysfunctional and even though I tend to reserve my trust, I quite easily build connections.

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Anonymous
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I think that might all be a lot of nonsense, Im pretty sure humans are more complicated than that.

Not just humans, that rat is more complicated, everything is.

This is like the 4 humors of psychology.

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- VIVANT
  
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  I agree I was mostly curious if anyone identifies themselves thus bc it has become popular pop psych. and any answer would have some pieces of unique info anyhow 😊
  
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Lliam Follow
Master Age: 70 , mho 50%

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Not avoidant for sure. I'd say secure. I'm not a very anxious person.

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- VIVANT
  
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  That tracks but from I can tell
  
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- Lliam
  
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  I will say that I am nervous when asking someone out for the first time or going on a date.
  
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- VIVANT
  
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  I meant that makes sense from what I e o served if you- just ended up written weird 😂
  
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Anonymous
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I'm not really sure. I'm very loyal. When I KNOW someone loves me I'll go to the ends of the earth for them. But otherwise while I may like somebody I half zero problem cutting them off if I think there relationship with me is not healthy.

What style does that sound like?

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GoodGuyBreakingBad Follow
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I always seem to be on edge and secure about things.

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- VIVANT
  
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  Interesting duo 🤔
- GoodGuyBreakingBad
  
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  @VIVANT 👼🙏
domenico07 Follow
Xper 5 Age: 22

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I just don’t communicate my emotions much. I’m not feeling sorry for myself.. it’s just not what I do. And I feel better if I don’t complain and dwell on things that don’t matter in this moment. So I guess “avoidant” is my answer

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Juxtapose Follow
Master Age: 35

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Secure, I don't let fear control me. Either they are right for me or not, best do not let insecurities get in the way of that critical judgment.

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Aakash_Hangargi Follow
Guru Age: 33

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Lol the rat molesting your teddy

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- VIVANT
  
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  Feivel is napping with his surrogate mommy lol he never leaves that thing.
  
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- Aakash_Hangargi
  
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  Oh is it
  
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- VIVANT
  
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  Yes it’s his favorite place in the world. He has moved on from napping in my hand and will be pet but o oh on his mom.
  
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- Aakash_Hangargi
  
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  See i told you it would never leave you now 😸🤣🤣
  
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- VIVANT
  
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  He’s a happy guy tho I’m goi g to make a giant habitat with lots of games to keep him stimulated so he will not be depressed and stop eating he’s just been weaned and now he must learn to drink water from the ground not a brush in my hand. So I need to keep his spirits up so he will be as strong as possible goi g out into the world when he is fully grown 👍🏼 right now he’s a bit anxious avoidant but overall secure.
  
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- Aakash_Hangargi
  
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  Nope he has chosen you , he won't go away
  
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Oldfart9293 Follow
Xper 1 Age: 33

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I want a man to monkey on. I wanna jump on his shoulders like a monkey and bite his neck and give a hickie lol

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NathanDavis Follow
Master Age: 34 , mho 33%

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I'm confident in my relationships

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Jamie05rhs Follow
Master Age: 37

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I'm not telling you that lol.

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Marshymallow Follow
Xper 7 Age: 20 , mho 30%

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Avoidant at first and secure later on

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anon1903 Follow
Guru Age: 23

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Anxious avoidant assertive

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_deeznuts Follow
Xper 6 Age: 21

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wait- is the rat giving the teddy bear head🤨

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MountAverage Follow
Guru Age: 38

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There's a thing called commas.

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- VIVANT
  
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  The poll clearly separates each option 😊
  
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- MountAverage
  
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  I just felt like ranting.
  
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Guardian45 Follow
Guru Age: 49

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Huh?

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