Fearful avoidant attachment style tips?

[Anonymous]

I am a fear-avoidant. I find it difficult to even talk to new people without having intrusive thoughts saying 'you are better off not talking to anyone because that's safer,' or ' you are better off alone.'

I would like to start a relationship, but because of my lack of openness this is becoming impossible. I would like some tips/advice that other fearful avoidants have found useful to get past this fear and avoidance.

Thanks in advance :)

[kylee2437]

I think people like this need to sit in therapy overall. You have deep seeded traumas that need to be dissected by a therapist.


I also think personally avoidants need to learn just how to feel emotions and not take things so personally. You are in fear of rejection but reject things before you have even given them a chance. You can’t find out if something is meant for you or not if you aren’t willing to step out of your comfort zone and feel emotions , being vulnerable etc. you have nothing to lose when you are vulnerable. When you are vulnerable it becomes so much easier to figure out who you are dealing with in front of you.