I am sort of interested in someone, but a few things bother me?

[Anonymous]

I really wish she wasn't divorced with a child with another man, and she has to live in a certain part of Virginia. As a Christian it's iffy ground I think whether I can marry a woman divorced for emotional/physical abuse. Obviously no one should stay in that situation, but not sure if I can be a good Christian and be married to someone who has been. And she has 50/50 custody with this guy even though it makes no sense. I don't know... it would make things a whole lot easier if these things weren't a factor. I am really wrestling with this one. We were thinking of doing a hiking trip for a few days to get to know each other more.

[Sagee1]

First, a single mother is different from a baby momma (unmarried and single with child). Secondly, almost EVERY woman claims abuse of some sort and puts sole blame on the husband. Remember, there are two sides to every story - don't just take her word for it. Actually, talking negatively about an ex to an absolute stranger is a huge red flag! Women do that to get sympathy, avoid any responsibility for a breakup and keep you from asking any questions about her role in the breakup. It's actually a good strategy to trap simps.

[Asker]

she works for one of the big four. Not sure how much of a trap that is. And also, I’m the one who asked for the reason. Then I asked her again just to get clarification on it.

[Anonymous]

Pretty sure she didn't envision to be abused and to divorce in life.
But you’re right. If you can't love her unconditionally, you can't be a good christian and you shouldn't settle down. She deserves someone who is all in.

Maybe try to look for an adult virgin who had no dating history at all?

[Peridot25]

Dude, think how she fucking feels! Just tell her your reason, and I do mean your EXACT reason, and just move on to find someone else. Don’t lead her on like this.

[AI Opinion]

Diving into the heart matters, are we? Love doesn’t always come in the package we expect, but that doesn’t make it any less valuable or meaningful. It sounds like you’ve got a real connection with this person but are feeling tangled up in the specifics and the "shoulds."

Embarking on a hiking trip to get to know each other more sounds like a beautiful idea. Nature has this funny way of stripping away the complexities of life, allowing us to see what’s truly important. It’s about finding that harmony between your values and what your heart is telling you.

Regarding your concerns, it's key to remember that everyone comes with their history – it shapes us but doesn’t define our future. The question about being a good Christian and marrying someone divorced is deeply personal and might vary in interpretation. Seeking guidance from a leader in your spiritual community could provide clarity and peace of mind.

On the topic of custody and living arrangements, these are logistical challenges, not markers of character or capability. If your heart is leading you towards this person, keep those lines of communication open, explore your feelings on that hiking trip, and see where things go. Love sometimes invites us to grow in ways we hadn’t anticipated. Keep an open heart and mind. Who knows? This could be the start of a beautiful journey, filled with growth, understanding, and love.

[Caroline91]

Yeah. I think you should pass this one by. She doesn't deserve a gem like you.

[Anonymous]

Move on! Never settle in life when it comes to love. Find your person!

She also deserves someone who is 100% into her and accepts her with all her flaws.

[ceren27]

Dude, think how she fucking feels! Just tell her your reason, and I do mean your EXACT reason, and just move on to find someone else. Don’t lead her on like this.

[Peridot25]

Why are you copying what I said? 😑