Is my relationship over?

[Anonymous]

Hey guys,
so i’ve been struggling with insecurity for a long time and for a very long time i always bring up how my boyfriend liked girls bikini and butt pictures on instagram and DMed a bunch of them telling them how pretty they are and i always wondered why he did it and if i was ever good enough for him. so on Monday i had called him a bunch of times asking why he liked girls pictures and DMed them and it was almost all day and he got annoyed and told me to stop! so on Tuesday and Wednesday he did not call me or text me once, i had to call him and even when he answered he seemed so annoyed and did not want to talk. yesterday was the first time he texted me and he said hi and that was it. today he did not text or call me. i just called him to say hi and he was in rush to hang up because he’s working. it makes me so sad and I don't know what to do. is my relationship over or does he need his space and he’ll come back?

[Oliverlogan263]

Ah man, that's such a tough situation. From what you've said, it really does seem like he's getting fed up and pulling away from you. Constantly accusing him and not trusting him was probably way too much pressure and drained all the good parts from your relationship.

As much as it hurts, I think you really do need to give him some space. Blowing up his phone and bringing up old stuff over and over isn't healthy for either of you. Taking that time apart, even if scary, could be a good thing in the long run.

Use this time to work on yourself too - learn to manage your insecurities, pick up some new hobbies and friends to keep busy. Show him you're respecting his boundaries now. Then maybe in a week or two, reach out one more time calmly to see how he's feeling.

Go in with an open mind though - as hard as it will be, you need to accept the possibility he may just need a clean break. But don't lose hope yet either! If there's still care there on both sides, time and space could help. Just focus on being your best self right now and let things unfold. You've got this, girl!

[Asker]

i’m worried that he’s going to break up with me though

[Oliverlogan263]

I can understand why you'd be worried about that girl. It's never a good sign when a guy suddenly starts ignoring you and acting all distant. But try not to panic just yet!

Some things that could be going on:

- He could just need some space to chill after you kept bugging him with questions. Guys suck at communicating sometimes, so give him a little time.

- Maybe he's feeling guilty about liking those other girls pics and DMing them, and is worried you'll dump him. So now he's backing off first.

- Or he could be having second thoughts about the relationship altogether since you caught him messing up.

The best thing to do is let him come to you when he's ready. Act normal, stay busy with your friends, don't smother him with calls/texts. That'll just push him away more. He'll realize what he's missing if you're not there clinging to him 24/7.

And in the meantime, remind yourself that you're awesome! You deserve way better than some dude who makes you insecure. Stay confident and focus on you. He'll either come around acting right, or you'll dodge a bullet. Either way, you've still got this girl! His loss if he's dumb enough to let you go.

Hope this helps calm your nerves a bit. You'll get through this, even if it doesn't work out. His problems aren't yours to deal with alone anymore. Hang in there!

[Anonymous]

How can we know? From what you've written it sounds like you are more into him than he is you. If that is true, that won't help your insecurity and there's no power being in that position.
But it's impossible to know what the reality is. He may be annoyed at your constant need for reassurance and is just busying himself elsewhere for a while.

[rosemilk]

it was over the moment he started actually talking to them in DM's and telling them how pretty they were when he has a whole girlfriend... that was actually emotionally cheating.

so yeah, i do feel like it's over. and trust me, you don't want a guy like that anyways. what he was doing is disrespectful to your relationship.

[AI Opinion]

Oh, the tumultuous waves of love and insecurity, sprinkled with a dash of social media antics, huh? Let’s untangle this with a bit of flirtatious wisdom. When your partner is double-tapping away on those bikini-clad wonders of Instagram, sprinkling attention like it’s confetti at a parade, it’s bound to stir up some storms in the heart. Especially when he’s sliding into DMs with compliments. That’s a red flag fiesta, and your feelings are the VIP guests!

Now, onto the silent treatment saga. It’s like a chilly breeze in what should be the cozy nook of your relationship. His retreat after your expression of concern might feel like a cold shoulder marathon, but it could also be his way of gasping for some air in the relationship dynamics.

Is it over? Well, not necessarily. But it’s teetering on a cliff, and it’s time for some serious cliffside negotiations. Relationships thrive on trust, communication, and mutual respect. If those bikini likes and DM adventures are causing heartache, it’s crucial to have an open, calm discussion. No accusations, just feelings and concerns. His reaction to that will be your compass.

If he values the relationship, he’ll understand and adjust his social media manners (and hopefully his respect for your feelings). If not, you might be discovering that this journey together has reached its destination, and it’s time for you to find a path that brings you joy and security. Remember, you deserve someone who makes you feel like the star of their Instagram feed, not a spectator. Keep shining and don’t settle for less!

[Asker]

he hasn’t like a bikini picture and he hasn’t DMed anyone females on instagram so that’s good. however, i still bring it up even after he hasn’t done anything and now he’s just tired.

[sheenagwapa]

please he is not worth it