Long distance relationships are one of the hardest things to navigate, within a relationship. Not only because of the distance, but because there are multiple factors that go into making it work. Such as connection, boundaries, time, commitment, patience, acceptance and forgiveness, to name but a few.
What are the pro's and con's of being in one?
Have you ever been in one, what happened and what challenges did you face/over come?
Would you ever do it again, for the right person? (I swore I never would, but yet here I am. Lol)
Do you get scared that after all that time, energy and love, meeting will bring you closer or it could potentially push you further apart, when things become all to real and not how you'd hoped?
These are all things to consider when putting your heart and time into something and someone you care about, especially when they are nowhere readily available to you.
Thoughts? 🤔😊❤️
Have you ever been in a LDR (long-distance relationship) and if so, did you it work/not work?
I could fill a couple of pages about it. I was in one for 3 years. We met freshmen year in college and after sophomore year we both transferred to different schools 1500 miles apart. This was before the internet or video conferencing. We mostly wrote letters because phone calls were very expensive. The few times we talike on the phone we would wait until after 11PM when the rates went down.
We would only see each other a couple of times a year. We really were in love and we talked about marriage. There was something missing. She really did not put much effort into the relationship. I would write ot her almost every week. I might hear from her once a semester. I spent almost a month in the hospital and she could not even send me a goddam get well card. The last time I saw her I flew out for a week. She showed up at the airport and was wearing a hoodie covered in plaster dust, her hair was in some kind of weird perm and it was combed over to one side. She said that she almost forgot to pick me up. Suddenly I saw her differently. I always thought that when you are dating you should be on your best behavior. If this was her best behavior I wondered what it would be like after we for married. I tried not to think about it but a few months later I called her late one Saturday night and broke up with her over the phone. I wondered if I made a mistake but not too long after that I met my future wife.
The major flaw is finding things to talk about. At first there is a lot and maybe some things through the day. But it dries up and it's cause at those times in a normal relationship you would have distance or cuddle, or watch something together etc. Bridging those gaps.
Then leads into the obvious been not together sucks. And not having a plan for that well leads to one thing.
Outside of that the pro is I find someone I can connect easier with than IRL where people are just bleh. Another Pro you are way more invested into their persona. IRL you can get more caught on up on looks.
You also learn to be more patient and mature I think. But at the same time it's easier to walk away from a LDR as there is none of that real contact to hold you back.
But if anything that also makes the love a lot stronger. I truly know what love feels like because of two great girls in my past who were all the way across the world.
I’m currently in one and we are planning to get married in March. Here’s what I would offer as advice.
1. Be willing to close the gap. If your end goal is marriage, someone is going to have to be willing to move. If not, the relationship will eventually run its course and dissolve. It takes great courage and faith to leave behind everything familiar to be with someone in another state or country. 2. Find activities to do either over the phone or over computer. My fiancé and I read books to each other. It opens the door for good conversation and we have fun together. 3. Be romantic. Write love letters or mail them a lovely care package. He sometimes sends me flowers, I sometimes send him cookies and a new book. 4. Be sure they are the right person. Relationships, including long distance ones, are easy when it’s with the right person. People who say long distance relationships are not worth it, have probably never been in a healthy one.
Diving into the deep end of a long-distance relationship (LDR), huh? The thrill of the unknown, the constant longing – oh, it's like the perfect recipe for a rollercoaster of emotions. 🎢 Sure, I've danced that dance, and it's like trying to salsa with two left feet at times, but oh, the joy when you finally get in sync!
LDRs are not for the faint-hearted. They're like running a marathon with your legs tied; every step is a challenge, but the euphoria of crossing the finish line? Priceless. The pros? You become a communication ninja, mastering the art of expressing your feelings without relying on physical presence. Trust levels? Through the roof! Plus, the anticipation of seeing each other after a long time is like the lead-up to your favorite holiday, but better.
Cons, you ask? Oh, the list is as long as the distance between you two. Timezones can be a real party pooper, and let's not forget the green-eyed monster (jealousy) that loves to pop in uninvited. And the fear whether the spark will fizzle out in person? It's like waiting to see if the cake rises in the oven after you've followed a new recipe.
My own LDR tale? A mix of heartache, late-night texts, and counting down days like a kid before Christmas. What got us through? Trust, buckets of understanding, and virtual dates that would put rom-coms to shame. Would I do it again? For the right person, I'd jump into that LDR dance in a heartbeat, even if it means stepping on a few toes along the way.
And that fear of things going south when you finally meet? Totally normal. It's the ultimate test of whether your bond is just digital magic or real-world love. But hey, taking that leap can lead you to discover depths of your relationship you never knew existed.
So, as you embark on this LDR journey, arm yourself with patience, sprinkle a generous dose of trust, and always keep that communication line spicy and open. The key? Embrace the journey, with all its bumps and beautiful moments. After all, love knows no distance. 🌍❤️
The thought of being bound to your desires, even across miles, sends shivers down my spine. I would place myself in your virtual collar, cruel Mistress, my heart and soul at your mercy. The mere idea of video sessions where I clean your high heels with my eager tongue, while restrained in a spread-eagle position, fills me with a mix of fear and excitement. Your image on the screen would be my world, my reason for existence. My nipples and balls, ripe for manipulation, would dance to your tune, a symphony of pain and pleasure conducted by your divine hand.
I am in one now we've been together over a year. But we've known each other over 3 years already. We tried to be together in the beginning but she was too intense so I had to slow things down a bit. I've been to visit her once so far. But for me I'm very happy with the relationship atm. I need a lot of rest because I'm disabled and it's easier for me to be in this ldr than if we lived together for instance. But I still feel her love and how she always supports me. So I feel good.
You just need to intimately communicate with them. That's easier than ever with sites and apps like discord, Skype, and minecraft.
Long Distance Relationships need to be strongly defined with someone you intimately get to know and will eventually want to be with them. It can totally happen, you just gotta put yourself out there and meet some people and STRONGLY DISCERN.
was in one from 1997-2000-ish someone from Canada 2002-2012 (ex fiancee from Florida) 2015- 2020 (Someone from Ohio) You need to put in the effort. I will always say - Trust Honesty Communication and Respect.
I wonder if there are people left today who can make this happen? Unfortunately, since people consume everything quickly, the feeling of loyalty no longer exists.
I was in one for two years. At first it worked well - and then it didn't.
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No. I consider LDR's to begin faux relationships. You know it's over, you know they're f***ing somebody else, but you still want to hold on to the illusion that you're still together.
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