Should I send the request, will he be angry?

[Anonymous]

I just graduated from high school and whole 1 year I had a crush on my teacher and he realized it too since the beginning. He kept being nice, when I make eye contact with him he makes it too and he is really good man, religious, doesn't have any bad things about personality or something and he is very dignified. Whatever, I always wanted to send a request on instagram but I was waiting for gradution day, should I do it? I'm afraid of being embarrassed and his friend knows it too, his friend is a math teacher in our school and they are very close friends, math teacher also realizes when I look at my teacher, I don't know what to do

[osmanthus]

You could tell this teacher that you would like to stay in touch, if ever you might need an academic opinion or reference. After some time, you may add him as a facebook friend and instigate brief text conversation after the initial "Hello, was great talking to you; I've got time next week if you can meet over coffee to discuss this or that." This isn't likely to be perceived as creepy or too forward and, to most people, is seen as normal and approachable.

If you two hit it off outside the classroom, well, you can tell him you liked something about him, since you first laid eyes on him, that make you want to reach out like this. There is no guarantee he'll reciprocate but if a man is being honest with you about not being attracted romantically, then take it gracefully and back out (settle on friendship or drift away unless you actually need a professional recommendation in the future).

[Asker]

He is a grown up man and religious, I don't think he would be into my teenage coffee meetings or something

[osmanthus]

Well, you could follow his facebook page or ask his friend to join him and this teacher in outings. Kust be aware that unless you're considered an adult by law, no hanky panky (sex). He probably won't see this as a serious flirtation because he's older, so, unless you're willing to wait to be of legal age, I'd say consult a counsellor or therapist as this is likely a transient crush; It's common and nothing to be embarrassed about for young people.

[Asker]

So I can send him a request on instagram?

[osmanthus]

Considering your photos are not salacious (suggesting sexual interests), sure, but follow up with a simple friendly greeting like "hey mr (insert his surname)"

[Asker]

I don't have any pictures on instagram

[osmanthus]

Might be helpful to have some, so he knows immediately who he is befriending. Like some headshots, some with friends, etc.

[Abbycado]

Sorry, but you are in your mid to late twenties and just graduated high school? What happened?

[Asker]

I randomly selected birth year because I now downloaded the app and after I get answers I will delete the app

[Asker]

That's not the topic now too

[molonski2]

Just initially tell him you'd love to keep contact , and let it go from there , start innocently and expand from there..

[DishLady]

Anon... You're 25-29 and just graduated HS? So the teacher is your age?

[Asker]

Seriously... I randomly selected an age because I will delete the app after I get answers.. I won't use it forever

[Anonymous]

Go for it