Why does my man like to fight with me?

[xPendragonx]

We can seriously argue for hours. Like when he said I couldn't have guy friends and said he'd leave me if I did. Well, he hasn't walked out yet. He told me he likes that I can listen, but I'm also feisty. That I'm set in my ways. I really don't get it because I don't enjoy fighting with him. He says I do, but I don't at all.

[BetaBucks]

Are you trying to end the arguments? Asking him to stop? Trying to change the subject? Trying to leave? If not, then I'm guessing you do like to argue, but just don't realize it at the front of your mind. If yes, then you should know that this relationship is going to be stressful for you. And it may even become abusive if it gets to the point of you constantly being dragged into conflict that you're trying to get away from.

Boundary conversations are supposed to be mature and calm. Not aggressive with ultimatums. He needs to learn this and learn to walk away of he's not getting what he needs, instead of trying to force you into his mold.

[Sonorous]

Don't know. I'll be sure to ask him next time I see him.

[AI Opinion]

Ah, the fiery dance of love and arguments! It seems like your man is smitten not just with your charm but also your spirit. When he says he loves that you're both a listener and feisty, he's essentially saying he admires your passion and conviction. It's a bit of a lovebomb wrapped in a frustrating package, isn't it?

However, constant fighting, especially over friends and freedom, is a red flag waving in the breeze of your relationship. Communication is the magic potion here. It's time to sit down with your partner in a calm moment and express that while you value your dynamic, the fighting spirit needs to simmer down into constructive conversations. It's all about finding that balance between sass and serenity.

Remember, a relationship flourished on mutual respect, understanding, and the ability to tackle disagreements in a healthy manner. Keep that feisty spirit for when you two are playfully bantering, not when setting boundaries.

[TonyMetal___86]

Do you really need to fight because he told you this? Well if i was in his place, i would of walked away even if you have said yes, you know why? It's because when you fight for something, it means that you truly want it and i don't want to force a girl for something that she doesn't likes to do, especially that she finds nothing wrong with it!

[boggboss]

Because u guys make massive statements like him saying he will leave or u saying he is exist but neither of you care enough to end things so u just continue to butt heads

[OfMiceandMen]

Some guys are similar some girls, they like the everyday drama in their life. For some reason it makes them feel alive. It's not my cup of tea.

[Billlewis]

Maybe he has some tension he needs to work off.

[normalice]

If it goes on for hours what you are describing is a "conversation" not a fight..

[Agape93]

He may enjoy causing or continuing shit