Guys, why does he purposely try to start fights with me?

[Anonymous]

I feel like every now and then my boyfriend will randomly decide to try to start a fight with me. He never does it in person, always via text message. He will pick something stupid like he thought I was being sarcastic when I wasn't, a male co-worker smiled at me, he doesn't like the texture of the blanket on my bed, or I wore baby oil and he hates the feel of baby oil. Then today he cancelled our plans via text message last minute so naturally I wasn't happy about it, seeing as how I'd been looking forward to seeing him for the past 5 days now. I said that it's ok and that I'd make other plans. He called me a few hours later to ask me if I had any plans tomorrow. I didn't want to seem overly desperate because, even though he's my boyfriend, I've heard that being too eager is a turn-off for men, so I told him that maybe I'd be available but couldn't say for sure since I already had plans. That set him off and he kept fighting until I cried. It seemed like once he made me cry then suddenly he changed and started being nice again. Usually once he makes me cry or start apologizing he quits fighting. Why would he act like this? He's a Gemini and I'm a Pisces if that makes a difference.

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+1 y

We spent the day together for 2 days in a row after this last fight and he was very kind, passionate, and loving towards me. I'm a bit confused but for now I'm happy with this.

[KayTargaryen]

Im similar to your boyfriend but I dont pick stupid fights. For me there's something hot about my girlfriend when she cries or gets upset she starts getting red and because im part black its less visible so it's a big deal lol. Anyway I like to irritate her sometimes because if I dont I seem passive and she says I dont like her because I dont mention what I think lol. Anyway I annoy her a little so when we have sex a little later it's much more aggressive and like im using her body for my sexual gratification. It's such a turn on but for your boyfriend it might be similar but I've found that my dad picks on stupid things with me that are BS so it's his way of 'bonding' otherwise he'd have nothing to really say to me. Your boyfriend getting upset until u cry is his way of establishing the boss and leader. If he starts the convo by text like that he's trying to make convo but doesn't have social skill to talk about normal things.

[NearlyNapping]

It sounds like a combination of not being happy, holding anger inside (not necessarily directed at anything in particular), general frustration, and being unsure about his own life. All or some of them combine, and he just lashes out, vents, sends mixed messages, etc. He's taking his frustration and anger and applying it to other things that have nothing to do with it. It may seem like it's directed at one thing, but it's not.

[eddiewutheking]

He might be cheating