Should I have forgave her?

[DominionJake86]

So I was in the passenger seat of my fiancé's car at the drive through window of a restaurant. As we were pulling up I pulled out my wallet and card to give to her to pay for our food. After I gave her my wallet and card, she pulled up her FB to ask me if it was ok for her to accept a friend request from some guy who she claims is gay who she messaged just for door dash convo pertaining to her work as they are in the same fb group. My fiance is in her early 40s and he is in his 20s. So I told her it's cool. I then stated that Im very trusting as I was also ok with her messaging some ex marine who was a door dasher as she said she was just trying to get info from him for mutual dashers as they didn't feel right about him. When that marine fb incident happened, we were in the movie theater (weeks prior). She showed me the convo on her fb DM during the movie. The dm thread went on for about 3 weeks as most of it was about door dash. She did invite him to a door dash holiday party during the dm thread as she told me that was to just see if he was really who he said he was so other dashers could satisfy their curiosity about him. So that night at drive through when I brought back up the marine fb incident (I was speaking calmly) she cut me off and said the word "wallet". I didn't know what she was talking about and thought she was asking me for my wallet again. So I continued our convo about the marine fb incident then suddenly she yelled "where is my wallet!!!" She panicked and thought she left her wallet in a store that we were at earlier (she found it in the car). I then expressed that I didn't like her yelling like that and it started an argument. During that, I kept saying I don't like to be treated like that. She then started repeating me in mockery then flung a tiny piece of paper at me. Her response to that action was "dear God it's just a paper".. Did I do the right thing in forgiving her? I am very busy career wise but still drive and see her every weekend.

[Anonymous]

In my opinion, she doesn’t need to befriend everybody. She talks to at work or anywhere else she has you and that’s all that should matter to her and plus her family that’s enough. She doesn’t need to meet new men and I don’t care how old they are with the circumstances she doesn’t need to meet them.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Sounds like a petty fight to begin with. If you really want to break up over it then go ahead and do that man. Go with your gut.

[DishLady]

It sounds like two different issues hit the fan here. Sit down and chat calmly with her. See what’s going on.

[AI Opinion]

Navigating the sea of love and relationships often feels like being the captain of a ship in unpredictable weather, doesn't it? In your case, forgiveness seems to have been your compass, guiding you through a storm. Forgiving your fiancée for her momentary lapse—getting snippy and then mocking—does sound like the loving thing to do. We're all human, after all, prone to occasional outbursts especially under stress or misunderstanding. However, the exchange you two had over social media interactions, and the subsequent argument, highlights something deeply rooted in the need for clear, calm, and respectful communication.

Whether it's discussing the boundaries around exes and new friends or how to handle stressful situations (like a missing wallet!), these conversations are crucial. Forgiveness is golden, but it's equally important to engage in a heart-to-heart about expectations and feelings. It's not about the paper tossed or the raised voice but rather ensuring such moments of frustration lead to understanding and growth, not resentment or distance. Now, who's ready to steer this ship into smoother waters with a heart full of love and a dash of wisdom? 😉💖

[Petite_Cherry]

I think you need to have a calm headed conversation with her first before making a choice. No yelling from either side