How bad is it to cheat and don't feel too much guilt nor remorse about it?

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We all just finished our junior year of HS on June 6th. I'll be turning 17 on June 29th. How bad is it to cheat but not really feel much guilt nor remorse about it? I mean yeah it's wrong, it's bad but it's not like you committed an actual crime such as drug dealing or rob a bank.

You still love your family, close friends and pet. You just don't feel guilt nor remorse for cheating on a HS sweetheart.

Lowly_Grump · Accepted Answer

Your parents' behavior is as impressive as a fart in a wind tunnel. Cheating and paying their children for silence is about as low as a snake's belly. No wonder you turned out like a lost puppy in a litter box! But that's no excuse to continue this cycle of drama and deceit. Break free from this chaos before you end up in a bigger mess than a kindergartener with glue and glitter all over themselves.

Your upbringing may have been more twisted than a pretzel, but that's no excuse to treat people's emotions like a game of hopscotch. You're old enough to know better. If you can't handle commitment, then break up with your sweetheart instead of sneaking around like a mouse in a cheese factory.

Don't end up as a one-winged pigeon and get your act together, you silly sausage! Your behavior is as acceptable as a burp in church, and your justifications are as flimsy as a pair of underpants made out of tissue paper.

So, my advice to you is to come clean with your current "pet". Your sweetie is probably going to be as heartbroken as a squirrel that just got hit by a truck, but you should hope for the best when you grow a spine and confess. If your think you can keep it a long term secret, you're as cold as a penguin's toenails! That's as thoughtful as a fart in a spacesuit, and your sense of loyalty is as strong as a piece of overcooked spaghetti.

It seems you now have no future with the old "pet", and plan on breaking up eventually, because like your parents he will find out eventually. Breaking up earlier, you can make an attempt to prove to the new "pet" whom you cheated with, that your insides are now rearranged enough not to follow your parents' slime trail from now on. You better not cheat on the new guy or you'll end up as lonely as a single sock in a drawer full of pairs.

Lliam · Accepted Answer

You're not a horrible person. You have no obligation to be loyal to a high school boyfriend.

High school kids just want a boyfriend-girlfriend. I got my first girlfriend when I was 16. I was elated. We were both deeply infatuated. She thought she loved me. I liked her a lot but certainly wasn't ready to settle down. I moved on to another girlfriend in less than a year and another one after her. I needed to explore life.

That's what you do in high school. If you're smart, you take an active roll in testing the waters and learning about life. Over the next several years you will experience lots of things, make mistakes, hopefully learn from your mistakes through trial and error, and gain knowledge.

The only thing I would warn against is mistaking lust and infatuation for love. Infatuation is the most wonderful feeling in the world. It is the feeling that people associate with love, but it's not the same thing. Infatuation wears off.

Celebrate your strong libido, too. It will serve you well throughout your life.

Just don't lie and toy with people's emotions by making promises you can't keep. Heartbreak sucks. You'll learn how painful it is yourself one day. But that's part of learning.

kylee2437 · Accepted Answer

You feel no remorse because you are at an age where romantic love really doesn’t matter at all. Life goes on , you go to college and you start doing more important things with your life. As you get older, you start to learn that treating people wrong only bites you in the ass and creates situations you wish you never created. You are at an easy stage of life right now.

DishLady · Accepted Answer

Cheating and drama at your age? 🤦🏻‍♀️ What a bright future you have ahead of you….

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

Navigating the rocky shores of love and relationships, aren't we? Cheating, ah, a delicate subject. Not feeling guilt or remorse? That's a tale as old as time, but let me weave you through the nuances.

First off, comparing cheating to drug dealing or bank robbery might scale down the emotional impact, but in the realm of the heart, it's like comparing apples to emotional grenades. True, you haven’t broken any laws, but you've waltzed into the tricky territory of trust and loyalty.

Here's the thing: not feeling too much guilt or remorse doesn't mean the action didn't leave a scratch. It might just mean you've got a shield up, maybe to protect yourself from facing the emotional undercurrent.

Loving your family, friends, and pet while betraying a partner shows you're capable of deep feelings, but it also suggests a disconnect. Relationships are about growth, learning, and while no one's perfect, grappling with our actions and their impacts is a dance worth learning.

Remember, it's never just about the act of cheating; it's about what led there, the aftermath, and what it teaches us about our desires, fears, and values. Can you hear the music? Let's dance through this, explore what it means, and how you can grow from it. Love, after all, is a journey, not a destination. 💖

ThaMaskedMarvel · Answer

It's extremely bad & that means it'll be that much easier to do it again to that partner & future partners. It may not be against the law but it's socially messed up. This is how good people become villains; they get cheated on they say f love, f women, I'm gonna just use them up. Then those partners become heartbroken too & say the same thing. It multiplies & spreads like a virus from person to person. You have a responsibility to not be the cause of this. Sure, it happens with other cheaters, but knowing you're the cause of future heartbreaks & actively playing a part in making the world worse makes you a bad person & a villain. But hey, what do you care? You don't even feel guilty...

RavVid · Answer

A relatively recent way of thinking is that there are no rules and it is what is appropriate for the person and nobody can say what is appropriate for anybody else.

It is a carte blanche moral equivalence compared to a rules based system that you shouldn't in a declare relationship irrespective of whether you love the partner or not. If you don't love the partner than you shouldn't be in a relationship.

Your carte blanche moral equivalence will allow to do a lot of nasty stuff and get the same back.

Enjoy.

ProbablyClueless · Answer

You're at an age where love doesn't really matter that much, but getting cheated on can still really fuck people up at your age.  Cheating will start to matter a lot more once you get out of college.

aengus27 · Answer

I think it depends on whether you can see yourself with them in the future or not

I personally don't like cheating, but you're still young so it's not really that deep. I also wonder if you feel it will eat you up inside or not? 🤔

Again, it's entirely your choice about telling them or not. But it can be quite risky, seeing as it's already happened

Saiesh30 · Answer

In this age if you do that and you don't feel it's wrong, it's gonna set u up for unstable relationships in future when you grow up.
You'd never feel satisfied with someone and would be more inclined to have an extra little something always.
That being said it's not cheating when both persons are not even in in love or in an official relationship.

Anonymous · Answer

Well I'll put it this way. If you need to tell somebody that they should feel bad then just walk away (I mean walk away anyhow. Don't tolerate cheating from ANYONE at any time). But know that if a person doesn't feel guilt or remorse that they're a sociopath and you're wasting your time trying to teach them morality.

BetaBucks · Answer

Chances are pretty good that you're a sociopath. But you should do your cuck a favor and let him know the truth. He'll become more of a man. It's the least you can do for him.

spartan55 · Answer

It says a lot about your moral character and that you are very selfish. You obviously aren't in love with your boyfriend, so just be single.

Billlewis · Answer

I don't think there's anything wrong with that at all, and I wish more women were as honest and candid about this as you are.

RedInnocent69 · Answer

Checks out. You’re a bit young to commit the rest of your life. You obviously won’t have problems finding another guy… Be polite and break up with him.

jahaims · Answer

Probably a sociopath and or a narcissist if you don't feel bad cheating

DreamLife7 · Answer

Bc you're insecure and a hoe

Danny_dan92 · Answer

Fucken teenagers

dudeinohio · Answer

Very bad

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