Does intimacy help to create a long lasting bond?

[BarryLiverstone]

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Found some research being conducted this year:

news.utexas.edu/.../

[ChinaGrove]

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She had five acres. She pranced around, naked on her property.

But I digress. What's your favorite cookie?

[BarryLiverstone]

I do not want a slave. Slavery is horrible and should be eliminated worldwide.

[Fireguy17]

It helps.
All the other stuff that also goes with a relationship also helps.

[BarryLiverstone]

Have you found longer term relationships were helped by it. Not just who you married. Interesting how the study indicated a pair bond may help with the future stress relief and caring for children

[Fireguy17]

All things are important, communication, trust, loyalty, respect, sharing the work load, working together for a common goal, intimacy, caring, unconditional love are all important especially in a long term relationship.

[mandyfire98]

Only issue with that study is that it was done on voles.

Intimacy in humans can make a bond stronger but doesn't necessarily create a permanent bond just because intimacy is present.

So just because a woman has sex with someone doesn't mean they permanently bond with that person.

However if the bond is already present between a woman and a man then intimacy can strengthen what's already there.

[BarryLiverstone]

Ya I didn’t even know what a vole was tbh. I was more curious in how the brain was affected by intimacy. Agree with you there is no guarantee a bond lasts for long but it may hint at what helps build longer relationships.

And that’s perhaps what I should have asked : does thinking about someone during intimacy promote future bonding?

[mandyfire98]

I definitely think if the bond is already there then yes intimacy is absolutely something that can help strengthen an existing bond.

If the bond isn't there then sex isn't going to just up and create a permanent bond though.

[BarryLiverstone]

That’s correct a permanent bond isn’t magically created the first time you have sex with someone. But my curiosity was in wondering if a temporary bond was formed and if you keep thinking about them during sex does the brain keep adding to that bond?

[mandyfire98]

I think it depends on the person too. Some people can't separate sex and love at all. They'll catch feelings immediately and think it's love. Some are better with emotional intelligence and emotional maturity and can distinguish between lust and love even while it's happening.

[StudyingAuthor]

Just a quick note, from what I see through the opinions, people are thinking of intimacy as in sex, but I believe intimacy as in knowing the person is really in the question. Now, in answering that, yes it does, but just sex alone definitely not.

[BarryLiverstone]

Ty for understanding why I didn’t say intercourse

[StudyingAuthor]

Ofc, You probably should've been more specific tho.

[Iron_Man]

I thought about kissing snuggling holding hands, but I didn’t think about sex when I left my comment

[StudyingAuthor]

@Iron_Man I didn't see your comment yet. Plus I posted this 6 hours ago.

[AI Opinion]

Absolutely, lovebirds! Dive deep into the sea of intimacy and you'll find a treasure chest of connection. Intimacy, both emotional and physical, weaves a strong fabric of trust and understanding between partners, making the bond not just last but flourish. Imagine it like mixing your favorite cocktail - the right mix of ingredients, like trust, vulnerability, and affection, creates that magic potion for a long-lasting bond. But remember, intimacy is more than just getting cozy under the sheets. It's about those late-night talks, understanding each other's love languages, and supporting one another through thick and thin. So, yes, sprinkle that intimacy generously, and watch your relationship glow! ✨💖

[HawkPerception]

I would say it definitely does. A relationship without physical intimacy is just a friendship. Bonding physically and sexually gives you a different level of comfort with each other and can definitely bond you emotionally as well.

However, some people are able to separate the emotional and physical (or so they say) and in those cases, physical intimacy doesn't really help to create a long lasting bond.

[BarryLiverstone]

Right I have also heard intimacy can be transactional. But think back to your first crush or first person you fell in love with. Even if they are not in your life it may be easy to reconnect because a small bond was formed.

[imtiaz45]

Yes, intimacy significantly helps create a long-lasting bond in relationships. Intimacy fosters emotional closeness, trust, and understanding between partners. It involves sharing personal thoughts, feelings, and experiences, which deepens the connection and sense of security. Physical intimacy, such as hugging, kissing, and sexual activities, also plays a vital role in maintaining a strong bond by releasing oxytocin, the "love hormone," which promotes feelings of attachment and affection. Consistent intimacy helps partners feel valued and loved, reinforcing their commitment to each other and enhancing the overall quality and longevity of the relationship.

https://www.youtube.com/embed/lrNs4DY5De8

[BarryLiverstone]

True, oxytocin is released. And I’m wondering how that affects our memory and brain in a bonding sense. And if we are intimate with lots of people do we bond strongly with all

[LordMadara]

WORKS EVERYTIME 🙄 duhhh. . .

UNFORTUNATELY BCOZ OF THE PERSITENT GENDER WARS INTIMACY IS ALMOST BECOMING A RARITY

REPTILIANS STAND ON BUSINESS

DESTROY HUMAN MONKEYS

[BarryLiverstone]

Make love not war. I’m sure couples are avoiding the wars and bonding a lot anyway

[LordMadara]

surrounded by swarms of singletons
🤷🏽‍♂️
and a media thats biased
good luck

[Radiate143]

Is salt salty? Yes, but the issuenis most people discard people once an intimate bind begins to form for some odd reason.

[BarryLiverstone]

I haven’t found that to be the case that people move away once they are intimate. Maybe you are referencing novelty where people hookup up and then withdrew emotionally.

[Radiate143]

Well if it was only hookup, they were keeping it secret from me and sayi g the opposite.

[rienna888]

Yeah ofcourse, that is if you like that person and have attraction/feelings towards eachother

[BarryLiverstone]

True, would have to like them to be intimate. How have you seen this play out with your relationships?

[Jessikaah91]

I definitely think so, I felt like I had a connection with my partner the day I met him and everytime we are intimate I feel like we get closer and closer.

[In_Trance]

No that's not always the case.
It doesn't matter how intimate you be with her if you think she's a whore

[BarryLiverstone]

Did you read the study?

If you believe the person is like that you probably wouldn’t share intimacy anyway

[In_Trance]

If you believe the study then why did you ask the question to begin with?
Studies generalize and you can't generalize this

[BarryLiverstone]

I was curious how our mind is affected , that’s what lead me to ask

[Anonymous]

No, if that was the case then everyone hooking up would be bonded

[BarryLiverstone]

I’m wondering if there is a tiny part that does bond.. not forever but in the brain for a minute. Obv in a hookup you don’t have a prior emotional investment.

[Opinion Owner]

Maybe some women may bond after the deed, but I'm pretty positive that's rare in amongst men

[Iron_Man]

Of course it does. If you don’t have any intimacy, you’re basically just bro buddies like two guys hanging out Its not the the same thing as a man and woman having intimacy and being in a long term relationship, and maybe forever lasting.

[BarryLiverstone]

Have you found after intimacy you mentally think more of them?

[Iron_Man]

Well after kissing her, it made me feel a lot more better that she truly liked me

[BarryLiverstone]

Think I understand. Might be a guy thing but we feel more accepted when being kissed for the first time. Did you read the link I added in the update?

[Iron_Man]

Yes, that’s very true. No I didn’t get into that yet, but I will.

[Sweetbrunette305]

"Might be a guy thing but we feel more accepted when being kissed for the first time."
Can you elaborate?

[soe11]

I think so, depending upon person person to person.

[paledreams]

I'd like to think that and passionate sex of two adults engaging in passionate sex with each other and romantic dates and having lots of passion in and outside of the bedroom ♀️♂️

[IloveWinters]

Intimacy is a key to successful relationship. Intellectual, emotional, physical at all these levels intimacy must be created

[chrissykerdock]

give a blowjob and he should remember that

[BarryLiverstone]

Did you read in the study where male ejaculation was mentioned?

[chrissykerdock]

no i was just guessing

[BarryLiverstone]

Go ahead and read it (takes 3 minutes).

[chrissykerdock]

i read it i guess it helps build a bond afterall

[BarryLiverstone]

I agree (at least that’s one thing mentioned in the study), maybe this is one reason girls are willing to be sexual in the hopes it adds to the future connection.

[chrissykerdock]

sometimes it's necessary

[chrissykerdock]

i'lladmit guys are always much nicer after a blowjob without a doubt

[BarryLiverstone]

Thanks for letting me know

[chrissykerdock]

are you nicer after a blowjob

[BarryLiverstone]

It depends. But no I wouldn’t say overall I am nicer after. I would hope I’m a degree of nice prior and as a baseline respectful.

[chrissykerdock]

i mean at least the ice is broken and i as the woman feel more relaxed after giving thatwithout a doubt

[BarryLiverstone]

Oh ok, you may be having different experiences than I have had. For me braking the ice is done in other ways

[chrissykerdock]

maybe but not always do i give it to break the ice but when i do it's usaully i nice time and feeling

[Nerdvana]

Yes, that's what intimacy means.

[BarryLiverstone]

I had not considered the definition of intimacy to be subjective. How do you define intimacy?

[exitseven]

Yes, I think the bond lasts forever.

[DishLady]

Not necessarily.

[BarryLiverstone]

That’s why I added the word help. Could you see it helping if other parts of the relationship are going well? Or do you see no benefit.

[DishLady]

Sigh….

When you say “intimacy” you’re referring to the physical stuff - sex.

But sex is just movement unless you start off with feelings of love and passion, excitement for being with the person without the sex as a factor. How well do you already sync up with the person.

A good relationship has a pulse of its own… a heart and soul that exists bc the two people have poured their hearts and souls into it. If that haven’t done that, then you’re just dealing with moving body parts… the sex. Make sense?

A lot of people who NEED physical touch to make things in their mind work towards relationshipville will argue that the sex is about more than moving body parts… they say “chemistry” and while that’s true, physical touch doesn’t have to be sex. Couples holding hands are creating a bond of emotional intimacy through physical touch… and that can help build up excitement of being close, anticipation for the sex, etc. But quality time exchanging thoughts and ideas will always be where the god stuff builds up for a lasting relationship.

Ok?

[BarryLiverstone]

Correct and when I advise others about how to build a romantic relationship with someone I also would say all those things matter much more than making love.

However did you read the article that I linked in my update? What got me thinking about asking this was pair bonding. That’s why I used the word bonding in my question because science is researching how sex and even orgasms can activate our brains and help with bonding someone.

So feel free if you wanted to weigh in but like the article indicates do you think you feel a bond with someone after you are sexual with them? Even if you never did touch

[DishLady]

I believe I've sufficiently answered your question now...

[MisterWack]

Yes, don’t need research to prove that.

[BarryLiverstone]

Can you tell me where the brain is affected?

[MisterWack]

@BarryLiverstone Clearly, you never been in a relationship before and rely on a computer’s cold data more than the beats of the heart.

Intimacy through cuddling, kissing, sex, talking about feelings, learning about likes/dislikes, discussing things, watching tv/movies/playing games together, and flirting with one another can & will create stronger bonds.

[BarryLiverstone]

You are right, I’m probably a virgin

[MisterWack]

@BarryLiverstone 🤨

[BarryLiverstone]

That was your conclusion wasn’t it?

[MisterWack]

@BarryLiverstone No… My conclusion was you can’t go by data, you got to go by the heart and you’ll find the answer. The answer being, Intimacy does bring a successful long lasting relationship.

[ThaMaskedMarvel]

No. not necessarily.

[BarryLiverstone]

For people you have been intimate with, did you feel closer to them after?

[Dnice1]

It certainly does in my opinion

[clampfan101]

It is one of many important things, yes.

[handsomelad70]

Almost always.

[rosemilk]

no, not always

[serious]

Yes it does

[Anonymous]

Unfortunately not everyone wants that

[BarryLiverstone]

What do most want

[edmwarrior]

Fuck yeah dude