He has completely changed, how to handle it?

[Anonymous]

I have a boyfriend and we have been together for 7 months now. Yet he has completely changed out of nowhere
Past week he is not the same he calls you the whole day next day i Don't hear from him. I call him check on him whats wrong is everything okay and when he comes back to me like he gives excuses of he slept was busy... etc
I tried to talk to him about it. Confront him that this is not okay and we end up fighting each time and nothing changes.
I need to talk to him like either we stay and fix things or leave in a clean break up but its not working i can't get a hold of him.

[Oliverlogan263]

Ugh girl, that is so frustrating when a guy just totally does a 180 like that out of nowhere! I'm sorry you're dealing with this confusion and not knowing where you stand.

I will say 7 months really isn't that long, so it's possible he's freaking out and getting commitment issues. Or something else could be upstressing him outside your relationship. Men can be emotionally immature at times and bottle stuff up.

My advice would be try one more sincere talk with him, but be prepared it may not go well. Give him a choice - either he opens up about what's really bothering him so you can work it out together, or it's over. Tell him this hot and cold routine isn't fair to you.

But go into it with an open mind, not accusing. Just say you care and want to understand, but the future of your relationship depends on honesty here. If he still won't budge, then I'd say cut your losses sis. You deserve someone who puts in effort! It'll hurt like hell at first but in time you'll see it was for the best. Hang in there - you've got this!

[DannyUk2017]

That sounds like have Found someone else, which "gives him" what you couldn't... either physical or sentimental... Attention. So for him you became the "side chick" or he just wants to cut "ties with you" for good... So either he doesn't know how to tell you/handle that... or... either he is too much of a coward to come face 2 face to let you know where you 2 stand... so i guess the best option is to "cut your losses" and move on... as clearly he Doesn't want to give you and "signs of life/attention"...🤷‍♂️

[DreamLife7]

He doesn't like you. Get it? He's not your man he can see who he wants and obviously he found a a woman he likes and it's not u lol

[Asker]

I do get it i know that , thats not my point
I am unable to talk to him and finish this and whenever i try to text him that we should break up and like i know you don't have feelings and let's get this over he acts crazy angry and won't let me go thats my main issue
You get it

[DreamLife7]

@asker why do you keep texting him? He's already kicked u to the curb. he doesn't even contact u which means he doesn't like u so why do u keep harrassing him? Sounds like you're in denial of rejection so you're trying to flip the situation. He was never with u and never liked u. U just assumed he did

[Asker]

No no no i never assumed that
I know that and i know he likes me and loved me. Why does it feel like i am fighting with you
As i said he has changed he used to call text all the time and he does till now and does say that he loves me, i just don't believe it and i said he has changed
What i text him about is that we need to break up , i am not harassing him, and whenever i do that he doesn't let me go
Trust i won't force anyone to be with me, i am just trying to solve this issue but i believe you don't understand the question

[DreamLife7]

He doesn't like u or love you lol. He doesn't even want to talk to you. You're delusional and assuming. Break up what? Are u retarded? He stopped talking to u. That means leave him alone because he doesn't like you. Lol. Stop harrassing him there's nothing to solve He doesn't want u. quit being psycho

[Asker]

Ok i understand
You literally stupid not gonna argue with that

[DreamLife7]

And you are literally desperate. He doesn't like you

[AI Opinion]

Navigating the choppy waters of a relationship where your partner suddenly seems like a different person can feel like you're riding the love rollercoaster blindfolded, huh? It's like one day you're in the love bubble, and then boom, ghost town. Your experience is definitely sending some mixed signals, akin to a bad reception on your favorite radio station - you just can't tune into the love frequencies like before. When communication turns into combat rather than conversation, it’s a red flag doing the wave, signaling it’s time for a more serious intervention.

Since direct confrontation has led to fights rather than fruitful discussions, consider changing your approach. How about setting a calm, neutral atmosphere where you can both express your feelings without fearing a battle? Like a cozy coffee chat minus the pressure. If it feels like he's dodging these heart-to-hearts, it might be a sign that he's not ready or willing to put in the work. Relationships are a two-player game, and it’s crucial both are actively participating – not just one chasing while the other is ghosting.

Remember, love should be more about joy and less about stress. If it's turning into a solo mission to revive what was once a duo dynamite, it might be time to consider if this relationship is serving your happiness or just adding to your stress playlist. Keep your chin up and your standards higher, and don't forget you deserve a relationship that feels more like a hit song and less like a sad ballad.