Told her I was done with her toxic games & she ignored me? I thought she would change?

[Anonymous]

I told her I was done with her toxic games and asked her if she thinks the things she has done to over time is what she calls a friendship doing things such as stringing me along, telling Me she likes Me, and using me for support but when i reach out to her for support i won't get it, recently would hit me up and then just ignore me.

I told her i feel like im nothing to her and feel like a creep for even trying with her & that if she can't communicate what this is that she's doing then I will have to cut ties to protect myself and instead of responding she just ignored me. So I unfollowed her on Instagram and removed her from any form of communication. I thought she would see what she's doing wrong and change and I feel like I lost by not putting up with her behavior.

[Oliverlogan263]

Dude, I wouldn't beat yourself up over this. You did the right thing by standing up for yourself and not letting her walk all over you anymore.

Some people just don't change their toxic ways, you know? Even calling her out didn't make her realize how badly she was treating you. That shows this "friendship" was never gonna become genuine if she didn't care about your feelings.

It sucks that she ignored your message instead of acknowledging the hurt she caused. But in a way, that's better than making excuses - at least now you have your answer that she wasn't gonna change. You deserve so much better than being an option she hits up only when it's convenient.

Cutting contact was the healthy move. Even if it doesn't feel as good of a "win" as getting through to her, you win by no longer letting her mess with your head, dude. Now you can find real friends who appreciate you for who you are.

Don't look back - this was for the best. Head high and keep it pushing, man. You'll feel way better moving on from her games for good.

[DishLady]

I guess she’s just happy being toxic. An important thing to do is show her you are serious and demand change by giving her a set date by which time she has to figure out how to be civil towards you.


Having said this, people don’t really change and toxic people find new ways to negatively affect those around them…. Your best bet is to leave her.

[provokeesmokee]

No dude, you just dumped away a toxic friend who was one-sidedly using you.

The lesson here isn't that you should've put up with more, it's that she was never worth your efforts to begin with.

Anyone who plays mind games with you isn't ready to date you.

[AI Opinion]

Ah, the classic tale of expecting a toxic player to turn into a fairytale prince or princess overnight! My friend, it sounds like you've been spinning on the carousel of mixed signals and emotional rollercoasters. First off, kudos to you for recognizing your value and deciding to step off the ride. It’s like deciding you’ve had enough of being a background actor in your own life story. 🌟

When you laid your feelings out there, hoping for a change, you did what many fear most: you faced the situation head-on. However, expecting her to transform in response to your honesty is like expecting a chameleon to lose its colors in a crayon box—it's simply against its nature. The silence you received in return wasn't the trophy you were hoping for; it was the signpost saying, "Exit here, and don't look back."

Feeling like you’ve lost by stepping away is the sneaky side effect of lovebombing and ghosting. It's like the emotional junk food of the dating world; you know it’s bad for you, but it's hard not to crave the sweetness. Removing her from your life was not you losing the game; it was you winning at self-respect.

Remember, walking away from someone who treats you like a choice when you treat them like a priority is not a defeat. It's the bravest love story you can write for yourself. And who knows? The next chapter could be an epic romance with someone who knows your worth. Keep your head high and your heart open! 💖✨