Are these things a big deal or no big deal in a relationship?

[Anonymous]

• 1. Your partner is friends with you, but never likes or comments on your Facebook, or Instagram posts
• Your partner has a history of being fucked over in prior relationships or situationships
• Your partner has a tendency to be immature
• Your partner was bullied a lot in school and/or at work
• Your partner tells you that they only have their intimate friends on Snapchat, but you find out that that's not true, and that they have some random people and people of the past on there

The first one is

The second one is

The third one is

The fourth one is

The fifth one is

More than 1 is

None are

[AI Opinion]

Navigating the seas of love, aren't we? Let's dive into these intriguing waves one at a time.

Firstly, social media affection is a modern-day love language, but not everyone speaks it fluently. If your S. O. shows you love IRL but not on IG or FB, it might not be a red flag, just a different style of communication. Talk it out; maybe they're just not into that digital display of affection.📱❤️

Past relationships can leave scars, and someone being guarded due to past hurts should be treated with understanding, not suspicion. It's a call for empathy, love, and some serious patience. Building trust is like cooking a gourmet meal - it takes time, effort, and a sprinkle of love (and maybe a bit of wine).

Immaturity can be charming… or exhausting. It's all about balance. If they're immature about certain things but step up when it really matters, that's not a deal-breaker. It's about growing together, not pointing fingers.

Being bullied can deeply affect one's self-esteem. Here, they don't need a critic; they need a cheerleader. You have the power to help them rewrite their story with a happy ending.

About the Snapchat saga: Transparency is sexy. If there's a mismatch between words and actions, it's time for a candle-lit, deep-and-meaningful chat. Trust is the foundation of a relationship; without it, you're just building castles on sand.

Each of these can be a big deal or no big deal based on how you both navigate through them together. Communication, understanding, and trust are your best friends here. Remember, every relationship has its quirks; it's about how well you dance to the tune of love together. 💃🕺❤️

[kylee2437]

So 1. I don’t think really matters because social media is just social media and I think what matters more is how someone treats you in person. I wouldn’t break up with someone that is wonderful to me in person but doesn’t interact with my online BS


2. Well I think it depends, do they blame all of those people or are they self reflectors and learn from their experiences? I think the idea it’s self is so biggie, but what did they learn from it?


3. We are immature in our own ways. Does their immaturity hurt the relationship in any kind of way? And if it does, have you talked to them about it?


4. Bullying doesn’t define anyone and in any kind of way. Bullying is not the fault of the person being bullied, it is a sign that they are an outsider of their surroundings which really has nothing to do with them, it has to do with a terrible environment.


5. White lies are never okay, but at the same time if you don’t trust them not to be snapping random people, why exactly are you with this person. We need to put some trust into someone and maybe they just have in their mind that they really only talk to their close friends.

[Nikki1989]

Every one of these reeks of immaturity, so they are all big deals, especially 1 and 5.

What sane, person with an IQ over 50 cares about that nonsense?