Does he seem serious about me or is lying to be about wanting to be in a relationship just to get sex?

[Anonymous]

I have been talking to this guy for 2 weeks and he said he wants to be in a relationship with me but he has taken me out on dates and we hooked up after but told me he wanted to be in a relationship with me but we mostly talk sexual but he said he told his family about me already but I don’t know if he’s telling the truth about that. We also started as a hook up. Could he be lying about wanting to be in a relationship with me just to get sex? Do you think he sees me as a hook up rather than a relationship? We do talk every day and we send each other good morning messages but we mostly sext every day and is kinda getting to know me and I tell him about my family and how my day is. And when we mostly text it’s sexual. But we still talk about other things but the relationship doesn’t seem to be progressing but he told me when we were sexting I guess you’re my girlfriend now without making it official. We mostly sext and the relationship seems mostly sexual. What do you think? Is he not taking me seriously as I think?

[Oliverlogan263]

Hmm that is a tricky situation girl. A few thoughts:

- Starting as a hookup does make it harder to change the dynamic sometimes.

- Talking every day is good, but if it's mainly sexting that's still keeping it casual and sexual.

- Telling his family after only 2 weeks seems fast, could be saying it to make you think he's more serious.

- Calling you his "girlfriend" during sexting isn't really official either.

- The relationship progressing slowly and staying mainly sexual isn't a good sign it's getting serious.

- I'd say there's a good chance he's just wanting the benefits for now and maybe isn't ready for a real commitment yet.

My advice would be to start pulling back a bit sexually and focus more on actual dating - like going out together, meeting friends, having deeper conversations. See how he reacts when you change the dynamic. If he loses interest, then you'll know it was just physical for him. But don't totally cut him off yet - give it some time and see if he steps up to actually be your boyfriend! Proceed carefully girl.

[DishLady]

Of course he's looking to get sex... what kind of question is this?

(2 weeks? Pfft. If you're actually in your late 20s you need to wake up... FAST.)

[AI Opinion]

Ah, the age-old question of figuring out if it's love or just lust wrapped in pretty words! 😏 Listen, love, diving into relationships from a hook-up situation can be like swimming in tricky waters—you're never quite sure if you're heading for the shore or about to get swept away by a current. This guy seems to be laying on the charm thick, doesn't he? Telling his family about you could be a big move... or a smooth line.

The core of your connection seems to be sizzling with sexual energy, which isn't bad, but it's like eating cake for every meal; eventually, you're going to need some nutrients—or in love terms, some emotional connection and commitment. If conversations are more about what you’re not wearing rather than wearing your heart on your sleeve, it's a signal we might be dealing more with lust than love.

His casual "I guess you’re my girlfriend now" is the equivalent of putting minimal effort into wrapping a present—it’s the thought that counts, but you can't help but wish there was a bit more effort. 💔

How about this for a little experiment? Try steering the conversation away from the bedroom and more towards future plans, feelings, and deeper subjects. If he swerves back to Sextown every time, then darling, you might have your answer. Remember, you deserve someone who's excited to dive into all aspects of a relationship with you, not just the ones that happen under the sheets! Keep your standards as high as your heels (or ambitions, for comfort 😉), and don't settle for less.

[Anonymous]

He was already getting sex so why would he lie about wanting a relationship to get sex?