What do I do 😭?

[SweetJoyGirl]

So, there is this guy. Let us just call him Larry. 🤪
Larry has a thing for me, and has made it clear the past two weeks. I just went through a heartbreak, and Larry doesn’t seem to mind. He said he would be my friend until my heart heals. Which is so freaking sweet. The day things went down, he was in call with me the whole night, while I cried my eyes out. 😭

And ofc, I was texting @ChicoFromThe305 , because who else is going to lecture me on my stupidity. 😒

Anyways…

Well, I am not really into anyone at the moment; Larry included. This doesn’t mean that I won’t be in the future. My heart hurts, that is all. So, I just haven’t built feelings for anyone after the heartbreak. I am slowly getting better. I am just focusing on healing and my relationship with God. I am forever a baddie, and I refuse to let a man make me think less. 💅🏾Anywayssss…fast forward…Larry and I are talking on the phone. He said he wants to fly down to my state! 😭😭😭

Girl is speechless, because wtf…😭

So, then I am like…

”Ok, what do you plan on doing here? Where do you plan on staying? What are you coming here as? My friend or a guy that wants to take me out?”

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Part 2 ~ I live alone, but I didn’t want him to think he could crash at my apartment. 🤪

He was cool with the getting a hotel for himself idea.
I also didn’t want him to think that I was magically ok to start dating again. I definitely am not ready. When the time comes to date again, God will let me know. I will be damned if I let another man do me dirty. The next guy has to be super serious, hence why I don’t plan on pushing anything; letting God take the lead.

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Part 3 ~
I also like that he doesn’t like…you know fetishize me, because of skin colour. He likes me for me…

Why are the cute ones not Christian? 😭😭😭

Anyways, please, don’t come here with some smirk remark. My head is already spinning. 😩

[Account]

I think Larry is deep down expecting you to give him something that you are unable to.
I mean if he has already expressed to you that he likes you, I honestly doubt that he has friendly intentions in mind if he is planning on taking a plane and traveling to your state 😅.
I would only believe that, if his intentions were purely platonic and if he never expressed any other interest in you.
But right now I think he is coming with the intention of something more, no matter how many times you have explained to him that isn't the case for you.

[Account]

Maybe not specifically to have sex with you perhaps his intentions are more romantic like wanting to take you out on a date and stuff, but if he has expressed interest in you, I doubt that can change so fast even though you have expressed to him that you have friendly intentions towards him

[SweetJoyGirl]

Yeaaaa 🫠🫠🫠
I am starting to think he is actually not happy just being my friend.

[Account]

Do you like him though, I mean would you have given him a chance if the circumstances were different or do you think that there is no spark at all?

[SweetJoyGirl]

I think I am confused, because of the position I am in. So, I should probably step back a bit.

[Anonymous]

Larry is the white cat on Modern Family.

[SweetJoyGirl]

Girlllll lmao 🤣

[SweetJoyGirl]

Hahahaha
This made my day already. 😂

[nawtee_me]

I think you are a smart girl. The last thing anyone should do when healing from a breakup is to hide those feelings by getting into another relationship. Those feeling are there for a reason and they need to be processed through. Forgiveness is a as big part of that process even though it may be the last thing you want to do. Forgiving is not about him getting away with anything. It is about your mental health. Take care of yourself and if you need someone to pray with you, it would be an honor.

[SweetJoyGirl]

Yea, you are really right. I do still feel very vulnerable.
Forgiving is hard. The guy hurt me. Not that he meant to, but he did.

Yes, please, keep me in your prayers. 😭💜

[nawtee_me]

Just remember that forgiving does not mean forgetting…. Never forget so it doesn’t happen again.

[SweetJoyGirl]

Yes, sir! 🫡🥺

[nawtee_me]

Thanks for the MHO.

[SweetJoyGirl]

💜💜💜

[nawtee_me]

Heavenly Father touch your daughter SweetZJoyGirl let her feel your presence around her and fill her heart to overflowing with your love for her. Father bring healing to her hurting and peace to her uneasiness. Father for those who have wronged us we forgive them and ask that you not hold it against them either, in Jesus name, Amen and Amen
I hope you feel better my friend…. If you want to talk, yell or just hit something…. I am here

[SweetJoyGirl]

Amen and Amen!
Thank you so much! 😭💜

[nawtee_me]

You are welcome, I love your smile in your profile pic….

[SweetJoyGirl]

Thank you! 💜

[Starrrboy]

Well, do you feel the spark? doubt it , because if you did you wouldn't be questioning Larry or whether you're ready to date someone right now or not... you would start getting with him right away regardless of what time he showed up.. obviously there's an ick haha... but dayum Larry seems like a nice dude that you might regret ignoring him after a while 😅...

[SweetJoyGirl]

There is no spark. 😭
Ikr! 😭😭😭

[AI Opinion]

Oh, the classic tale of a knight in shining armor swooping in when you're nursing a broken heart, right? It's heartwarming but also a tad complicated, isn't it? 😏 Larry sounds like a genuine soul, sticking by you through the mascara-smearing, ice-cream-eating aftermath of heartbreak. But here's the scoop—just because a guy shows up with a shoulder to cry on doesn't mean you owe him your heart on a silver platter. Especially when you're on a personal journey of healing and rediscovering your fabulous self. 💅🏾

When Larry talks about flying in, it's super important to consider your feelings first. Are you excited? Anxious? Not feeling it? Your emotions hold the keys to what you should do next. And when it comes to defining what Larry is flying in as, girl, you're in the driver's seat. If you're vibing more with the idea of having him as a friend, then set those boundaries straight—tell him. If the idea of him swooping in romantically doesn’t repulse you but also doesn’t excite you, it's okay to keep that door closed (or slightly ajar) for now.

The bottom line: You're healing, love. Let Larry know where you stand, and if he's as sweet as he seems, he'll understand and respect your journey. And who knows? Sometimes, the best relationships blossom from friendships when you least expect it. But there's no rush. You’ve got this, baddie! 🌸💪

[SweetJoyGirl]

Bro shut uppppp 😒

[Dongie]

So do you know him or just online know him? If it's the latter you better be real careful. The safety comes first. The heart mends. Just takes time. I don't know any advice because I don't know this guy. So all I have is be careful. Do you have a dog?

[SweetJoyGirl]

Yea, we met online. Originally, we were just working on a project together. He is a writer, and I am an artist. From that we started gaming together. One thing lead to another, and now we are here. He confessed his feelings, and I personally am not sure how I feel.

[Dongie]

Well, it seems safe knowing him that well. I'm sure you'll be cautious.

[MysticDevice]

I can't tell what to do,

But I can tell you what not to do: Don't rebound with another guy while you're healing.

Heal, and then re-evaluate with a clear and focused mind.

[SweetJoyGirl]

Pickles someone said he just wants to have sex with meeeeee



Yea, I won’t use him as a rebound. 😭

[MysticDevice]

I doubt that's what he's after.

I could always be wrong but that seems like quite a far-fetched and over complicated plan to just get laid.

That being said, keep your guard up

[SweetJoyGirl]

Okiiii 😭

[MysticDevice]

Keep your head up. This is a temporary setback and you will emerge wiser than before

[SweetJoyGirl]

Thanks, Pickles. 🤗🤗🤗

[Aiko_E_Lara]

I would say give yourself more time for you to actually see his true colors. Because you were heartbroken as you claimed, you were at a vulnerable state giving him the opportunity to shine at you so of course you would think he is charming. Also, I can't decide for you whether if you should only date a Christian or not because I'm not sure how strict of a Christian you are.

[NathanDavis]

"I'm not into him..."

period... it should end, right there (=

[SweetJoyGirl]

It really should. Maybe I am just forcing myself. 😭

[NathanDavis]

true friends see you, as a great friend... not a "waiting for a chance to get in"

and true love, makes you feel that... love

try not to settle for less on either department

[SweetJoyGirl]

Okiiiii 🥺🥺🥺

[NathanDavis]

and give yourself all the time you need, no rushing... (=

[SweetJoyGirl]

Yes, sir! 🫡

[Lynx122]

Just do some activity together but don't do anything romantic or flirty or whatever.

[SweetJoyGirl]

Okiiii 🥺

[animesenpai]

I wouldn't fly anywhere for a chick without trying to smash

[SweetJoyGirl]

He doesn’t expect that from me, tho.

[animesenpai]

I highly doubt that

[SweetJoyGirl]

You are not helping. 😭

[animesenpai]

Yeah no dude is doing interstate travel just to meet an internet friend platonically

[SweetJoyGirl]

😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭

[SweetJoyGirl]

If that is the case, he shouldn’t come here…..
He can’t have sex with him.

[animesenpai]

Agreed

[ChicoFromThe305]

Dude makes a point, everything a friend can do, they can do online, how big is the distance?

[SweetJoyGirl]

@ChicoFromThe305 He is in Connect. 😭

[ChicoFromThe305]

I don't know what that is but homie here seems to know what he's talking about about so I'ma let him finish cookin.

[SweetJoyGirl]

@ChicoFromThe305 Connecticut. Omg, Chris. LOL
Do you not know your states? 😂

[ChicoFromThe305]

Who the hell calls Connecticut connect, connect sounds like a damn website 😂

[ChicoFromThe305]

You already spelled 70% of the word, you couldn't add the rest 💀

[SweetJoyGirl]

@ChicoFromThe305 Fight me, Chris. LOL

[ChicoFromThe305]

I already won 😌🤌🏽

[SweetJoyGirl]

@ChicoFromThe305 No, you won’t. loooool

[SweetJoyGirl]

Ok, him and I are one the only phone. He said he doesn’t want sex. He is capping, right? 😭

[ChicoFromThe305]

Won't? I already did, you just missed it when you blinked pff 😏

[SweetJoyGirl]

So many typos. Figure it out yalllll 😭

[ChicoFromThe305]

Homie already made that clear

[SweetJoyGirl]

@ChicoFromThe305 😒

[SweetJoyGirl]

@ChicoFromThe305

[animesenpai]

Girl you just as clueless as actual nagatoro

[SweetJoyGirl]

Fr!
I am actually very naive when it comes to the ways of men. 😭😭😭

[TallAnon]

Oh dear, this does have major rebound vibes. Careful of being used for sex

[SweetJoyGirl]

Omg 😭😭😭
I am not going to sleep with him. 😭😭😭

[TallAnon]

Does he realize that though?

[SweetJoyGirl]

Yea, he knows. 😭

[TallAnon]

Just keep that in mind, whether he's been told and whether he knows is different 🤣

[SweetJoyGirl]

He has been told. lol

[Anonymous]

i agree with the love doctor brad. he's had a ton of real life experience with this. :D