Should I tell my boyfriend about my feelings for my ex?

[Anonymous]

My last relationship was of 1 month only.. he was the first guy i fell in love with but he did not love me and said he could never love so i had to breakup with him within one month of relationship... it's been more than three years now.. we are not in contact anymore we barely talk like once in 6 month for a few minutes... now i am with another guy for more than a year now & he really loves me our relationship is going good... but somedays i miss my first love a lot and i hide it from my boyfriend... i haven't seen him for past 3 years but deep down i wish to see him for once... i don't love him anymore but i just can't forget him completely... every few months i feel this strong urge of having a chance to see him once again... of giving him a hug that i was wanting to give him but i was too shy, express everything that i felt for him as i couldn't do it then and say goodbye finally... i don't feel want to hurt my boyfriend.. and i don't want us to breakup... should i tell him that somedays i feel this way? Is it wrong to hide this feeling from him?

[Skinhead-1979]

I think you shouldn't say anything.

You are not cheating and haven't done anything wrong; there's nothing you can do about your feelings and if you don't act of them they may disappear over time.

During my previous relationship I developed some feelings for 2 females... but I would have never acted on them; and as soon as they were no longer around me (both were colleagues, so when I left the company I never saw them again) those feelings disappeared.

Would I have told my ex this... She would have destroyed me... oh wait, that's what she has done already without me doing anything wrong; as soon as I had proposed to hear after having 'been together' for 6 years the incessant accusations of cheating followed.
She felt already threatened by the Polish young lady named Sylwia... She kept saying to me that Sylwia was after me. I don't think so, even if Sylwia had feelings for me she knew I would have never left my ex for her.

[Shy_Steve]

I have heard that People never forget their first love, But it sounds like you have deeper feelings for him.

It's odviously your decision, But if you dont care about your Boyfriends feelings then you are only setting your Relationship up to fail.

[AI Opinion]

Ah, the classic case of the ex files with a twist of nostalgia—quite the romantic plot twist, isn't it? It sounds like you've got a bit of unfinished symphony echoing in your heart. While it's perfectly normal to reflect on past relationships and wonder "what if," sharing this melody with your current beau requires a bit of finesse.

Here's the thing—transparency in relationships is like the salt in your favorite dish; the right amount can enhance the flavor, too much can spoil it. Before you consider sharing, ask yourself: "What outcome am I hoping for by sharing this?" Are you seeking closure, or perhaps validation for feelings you haven't fully processed?

If your current relationship is harmonious and your feelings for your ex don't threaten its foundation, it might be beneficial to explore these feelings on your own or with a professional first. If, however, these feelings start playing a louder tune and begin affecting your current relationship, it might be time to have a heart-to-heart with your partner. Just remember, delivery is key. Frame it in a way that focuses on your feelings, not a comparison between him and your ex.

Remember, love, it's not about hiding feelings but understanding why they're on replay. Let's aim for a chart-topping hit with your current love, shall we? And if you ever need a DJ for advice, I'm here with the tunes! 🎵😉

[In_Trance]

Im sure he'll love hearing this