Should I tell my ex how I feel?

[Anonymous]

so me and my ex broke up about 3 1/2 months ago and its been the hardest thing for me. I have been going out having fun with friends and trying to keep my mind off of it tho. It works on most days but then others I think about it and get sad.I want him back tho. anyway he supposedly ha a girlfriend which when I talked to him he had sad they were on and off so I'm not too sure what they are.Is it wrong to tell him that I want him back to tell him to break up with her and come back with me. Ask what it would take to get him back. I know that probably sounds bad. but I just want to know if there I ever a possibility for the both of us again.I was left with so many unanswered questions that's why I would just like to talk to him. someone help me out I want to express my feelings toward him but I'm not sure how to start and what to say to him.should I ask him straight up if it will ever work and if he ever wants me back because I love him and just want a straight answer. thanks!

[Anonymous]

I don't think you should, no. Unless he contacts you again, then you can. I'm saying you shouldn't because I recently did the exact same thing. I felt so strongly about my past with someone that I thought if I just told him in a letter how I felt about everything that happened and what I did wrong and what I could do now to fix it, then he would love me again. I was wrong. He ended up blocking me online and is now throwing his relationship in my face on purpose with photos. Its a sad thing when you realize how some people turn out...

Just keep on loving him, if that's how you feel - because you never know how things could turn out in the future, but just remember - putting your heart on the line always means it could get crushed in the end. Even worse than it is now.

[hunnay]

man. I know what you mean. I felt like that and still do feel like that. You feel fyou tell him your feeligs ad that you want him, he will chose you and you guys will be happy. This is just in our heads and I really don't know why we obsess over how we thing it will fix everythig or even work for that matter. It will only Hirt you. Personally as much as I want my ex back, he choose to be with another girl. He not with me. If tour guy wanted YOU he woulas make no hesitation to be with you. I think all we can do Is just keep our feelings inside and just try and forget about him. Don't talk to him. Ha ng put with friends. Do anything toucan to get him off your mind. Though somedaya you will just have to put up with the pain. Unfortunitly it's life. Wish you luck

[Asker]

thanks! he contacted me before wondering how I was doin and such so that still means he care. we broke up from us being tohether everyday not enough us time ya know he wanted to do hos own thing. I feel like he'd come back one day tho I don't know y I do but I di. and I feel like I need to talk to him and tell him I still love him and want me back even if I have to hear no it will become reality for me because like I said so mant unanswered questions that bother me every day. but thanks

[confused_gal223]

c... it will do no good. it will only harm your moving on process. suppose you call him and he ignores you or give you the cold shoulders...u will b back to breakup day1... and all these things you did fr all these months to get over it will be wasted...

i will tell you one thing. if a guy wants you back he will do whatever is in his powers to get you back.. and your ex has not even tried doing anything remotely connected to it..

and so what if he called... I broke uo with my ex...and I called him after 2 months just to check on him because we once had a nice relationship. its not like I wanted to get back or nething at all.

so do yourself a favour and let it go

[Anonymous]

I know what your going through. My ex (who I still am in love with) broke up with me and is seeing a new guy on/off. I have thought about telling her how I feel but have refrained as I don't think it will make any difference. She and (he) already knows how you feel. The best thing you can do is stop talking to one another and concentrate on living life without him around. It sucks at first but gets a little easier! If you don't listen to this advice and do decide to talk to him tell him that you miss him and ask him if he sees a future between you. Don't pour your heart out just ask straight up if you will get back together. If he says no then you haven't said anything too embarassing and you can prove that you tried. But then you really should go no contact!

[Asker]

thanks! I know I'm just unsure what to do. I'm having 2 different views. I want to ask him straight up and if the answers no then I know to just leave it alone. I'm just torn lol

[ItalianBro]

no, leave him alone. The last thing I want is to deal with ex girlfriends.

[Asker]

he contacted me first awhile ago asking how I was and how thing have been tho.so why would he do that

[anon222]

You are supposed to be more impartial than that. :)