I feel like my boyfriend is still in love with his ex or am I just crazy?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend and I have been dating for about 2 years. To keep a long story short, he has a child with another woman. Despite her being his baby momma, she isn't bitter about us. She is pretty cool. As I got to know her, she is so down to earth. We follow each other on Facebook and I interact with her and so does she. My boyfriend never told me exactly why they broke up. He just said because of differences and distance, I don't know the details about their relationship. Here is where things started getting a little uncomfortable for me. My boyfriend has to travel to see his son because she lives in a different state. So he invited me to go this time and I agreed to tag along. When we got to her house there was another guy there. My boyfriend looked a little tense when he was there. As she introduced us to the guy, my boyfriend seemed standoffish. It was somewhat awkward. Later that night, I overheard him talking to her on the phone. He thought that I was asleep but he was saying "I don't like him there around you and my son". "I bet you don't even know him like that to be trusting him around our child" basically talking bad about the guy. They were very nice and welcoming. He seemed to love her, so It got me thinking as to why he would say that when there was not an unpleasant encounter between them. It has been two weeks and I still haven't talked to him about it. what should I do?

[Anonymous]

If the child is small, like single digits small, he’s most likely still in love or still fcking the mom. I’m sorry, that is just too recent, and usually always the case. Despite how much he says he hates her, can’t stand her, talks down on her, etc etc that’s all for you. So you aren’t suspicious and you think he’s so done with her since he’s talking so bad, but it’s a facade. She probably doesn’t want him
Anymore, so he says negative things. I mean you’re only getting his side after all.

[Evsisa]

No I don’t think it’s that. Lots of people are just nervous to trust new people and partners around their kids. The risk of a child suffering child abuse increase when there’s a stepparent in the house. Stepparents/bonus parents are more likely to abuse kids in the household than biological parents. The risk of sexual abuse also increase.

He may also be jealous that another man is around his child playing dad. It’s difficult for lots of people as they feel somewhat replaced and don’t want other men/women to be around their kids and acting like a dad/mom to them.

And if he didn’t know about this guy then it’s not weird that he wpuld be surprised and standoffish. He was taken by surprise and I feel like his ex should have told him about this man before she even introduced him to their kid. That’s what people normally do.

[AI Opinion]

Oh, love, you've stumbled into a classic case of mixed signals and old flames – the plot thickens! First off, your feelings are valid. Navigating relationships where kids and ex-partners are involved is like trying to salsa dance on a tightrope – thrilling but oh so tricky.

Your beau’s behavior is a cocktail of protective dad and possibly, just maybe, someone who hasn't quite turned the page on his past love story. His reaction to the new guy isn't necessarily about harboring romantic feelings for his ex (though it's not off the table), but more about the papa bear in him coming out. However, the fact that it's stirring the pot of jealousy says we've got a bit to unpack.

Time to put on your detective hat and have a heart-to-heart. Communication is your golden ticket here. Approach him with love, not accusations. Share your feelings and ask him about his. It's all about understanding each other's insecurities and boundaries.

Remember, getting clarity now is like finding the map to the treasure. You're both navigating together. Stay open, stay honest, and let the love guide you. Who knows? You might just find that what seemed like a red flag is actually just a signpost on the journey to deeper connection. 🚩➡️❤️

[Anonymous]

Stop marrying single dads. They aren’t marriage material