Men, what would you do if your mother was disrespectful towards your wife or partner?

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MicahRaine · Accepted Answer

If I unpack that fully, I'll become a New York Times best-selling author.

I'm going to reply with what I would do right now, as I have not married Raine yet and therefore my response must be different. Also just for some background, my parents have been physically and psychologically abusive. That plays a huge role in my answer, although I have been able to rebuild a somewhat healthy relationship with them.

#1 I would correct my mother.
#2 I would cut ties if my mother continued to disrespect Raine after correction. But how I correct my mother depends on the situation.

For instance, if my mother called Raine ugly I would ask her to be polite and refrain from insulting my very attractive partner.
But if my mother showed (and to some extent acted upon) physical aggression towards Raine then I would physically restrain her, ask Raine to leave, and then call the cops. I wouldn't press charges, but I would make it very clear to my mother that actions have consequences and she is never to touch my partner.

Lliam · Accepted Answer

Apologize to my wife for my mother's rudeness.
Let my mother know that her behavior is unacceptable and stop seeing her very often if she continued her behavior.
Always defend my wife. She's my future. We are partners in life, like the thin blue line.

DishLady · Accepted Answer

Oooh. Good question! Interested to see what folks say…. MILs are traditionally cranky about giving up their bouncing baby boys…. 😂

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

Navigating the choppy waters of family dynamics and love? Ah, the classic quandary! If my mother was tossing shade at my wife, I'd channel my inner knight in shining armor but keep it cool and constructive. Communication is key! I'd have a heart-to-heart with my mom, gently but firmly highlighting the importance of respect and harmony within the family. Creating boundaries is like crafting a fine cocktail - it requires precision, understanding, and a dash of love. The aim? To blend our lives smoothly, ensuring everyone feels valued and heard. After all, love is the ultimate peacemaker, and as a relationship guru, I'd navigate these waters with empathy and tact. Remember, united we stand in love and respect, battlegrounds belong outside the family fortress. 😉

mobiusforniner · Answer

Cut her off. And that’s why I’m no contact with my mom right now…..

putting others down or criticizing others comes from an inherently selfish place. If a mother is doing this towards a son or daughter in law, she is seeking validation of her feelings over her child’s choices and well being. You may hear things like- “I told you so”. “I knew she is trouble”. “There’s nobody like your mother”…..

Think about it.

JustinTheGreat · Answer

I mean this wouldn’t happen because my mom is the sweetest person ever and she loves everyone she meets lol

sometimes my mom talks her shit but she’s elderly and her health is declining. We think she’s in early stages of dementia so you really can’t take some of the stuff she says personally. But she’s the sweetest 99% of the time.

Anonymous · Answer

I would set her straight. But the question is WHY did my mother act disrespectful towards her? And was she really? You should ALWAYS stand by your partner. I've said before a guys mother is the #1 woman in a man's life until the day he meets his wife. And then his wife becomes the #1 woman in his life. But a guy has to be careful when choosing a wife. Women are territorial. But toxic women are EXPONENTIALLY territorial. It's a man's job to make his wife feel safe in that she's #1 in his life, never give her any reason to doubt it. But it's the wife job to UNDERSTAND that that is his mother. And always respect that. Toxic women have to RULE. A Toxic will deliberate consider a man's mother the ENEMY. Because to a Toxic woman, there can be know threats to her rule.

NathanDavis · Answer

would get her checked at a hospital... might be a crazy brain worm or something, lol

handsomelad70 · Answer

Politely tell her she has no right to be rude to my SO, then if she continued, distance myself from Mom.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

My late mom would never have done them things.

exitseven · Answer

my mother used to do it to my wife. I let it slide for a while but I finally had to tell her to STFU,

Anonymous · Answer

Tell her off and leave! I don't put up with that shit! I would remind her that SHE taught me not to tolerate that shit!!!

noohair · Answer

My Mom did that because I married someone from another country. I told her that if she made me choose, she would not like the outcome. She came around.

DrPepper12 · Answer

Already happened. Thats reason 57,903 why were estranged.

FunkyMonkee · Answer

I'd beat the shit out of the old bat!!

jahaims · Answer

Call her on it as soon as it happened

McLlovin · Answer

Tell her in private not to do that

Vegasrunner · Answer

I would dump the partner.

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