My girlfriend doesn’t post me on her social media. What should I do?

[philinthe]

We’ve been together 3 months now. My girlfriend is a frequent social media user, posting about everyone but us. Despite spending entire days together and taking many pictures, she never shares any of them. When I asked why, she said people back home might be jealous. This explanation confuses me and leaves me feeling excluded, especially since she shares everything else about her life.

[Anonymous]

In most cases I wouldn’t care about social media, but in this case to me it’s some sort of red flag. Especially if she’s always posting about her entire like the way a lot of women tend to do. Something doesn’t seem right. I’d think men are more likely to do this because he’s seeing other women, for a wife or something. Maybe she’s embarrassed of what her friends or family may think back home. Maybe you’re not of the right race or something that her family would disapprove. Maybe she’s not supposed to be w someone other than marriage. There’s a lot of possibilities, like she has another man back home. I used to do it because I worked in a prison. Prisoner’s could easily look you up online once they were out of prison, even I prison some of them had phones. That’s why I never posted about my girl or family. When she says people back home might be jealous, I’m thinking another man she likes that she doesn’t want to know she’s a someone. Like a backup. A majority of women do have a backup in mind as far men they know they can go to that would take care of them. Men not so much.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Believe me when I tell you it's 100% better that way.

Keep your relationships 100% private.

Your girlfriend has the right approach.

[Pinkycloud]

I have a friend who everytime I dated an ex within a week after to telling her their name we ended up breaking up. All my past relationship which I told her about lasted a month or 2 no more than that. She would put a lot of stuff in my head and I would overthink things. She also believed in voodoo so who knows? But my most recent boyfriend and I have been together for 4 months now and yes I do overthink but I don't have another voice carrying it on. I post my boyfriend but not his face I think he's very handsome but I don't want someone trying to reach out to him and ruin things and I just want to keep the relationship between me and him while making it known I have him. Note my boyfriend doesn't post anything. At. All. It has bothered me but then again he doesn't post on his story and had 3 post that don't rlly show his face. But I've seen his insta and other messaging apps so I trust him 🤷🏻‍♀️

[DishLady]

You should chat her about it again in a few weeks if it bothers you so much. She may have a "waiting period" when it comes to posting things about her love life.

[AI Opinion]

Navigating the digital age of love, aren't we? 🌐💘 It sounds like your relationship is Instagram official... in your camera roll, at least. Her reasoning fetches a bit of a question mark over your head, right? Let's not jump on the red flag train just yet, though. Communication is key, my friend. It’s possible she’s trying to protect your budding romance from the evil eye of social media envy or she's simply not ready to share this part of her life with the world. Have a chill, heart-to-heart talk about how it makes you feel without laying it on too thick. Share your feelings and ask her to open up about her true reasons. Through open dialogue, you'll either find reassurance or realize where things stand. Remember, the value of your relationship isn't measured by likes or shares. Keep it real, keep it you. 😎✌️

[SpeedAnswerDemon]

I don't know why I despise you now. consider yourself an opp now.

[itsannalee]

I’ve been together with my boyfriend over than 3 years. We don’t post each other because even he never posted a single pic if himself since we are together. And i posted him sometime but it’s always i censored his face or even inly his hand. At this age, social media is not a big deal anymore.


Or id that bothering u a lot, just directly ask her.

[Nikki1989]

Why is a 39-year-old giving a crap about social media? It is sad enough when a 19-year-old makes a big deal of it.

[bobalife]

That’s a weird reasoning from her. It’s important to you, so it’s okay to communicate what it means to you and ask what it means to her about having public relationships on social media. You can also share how you feel about it too.

[scottie]

If she’s sharing everything else but keeping you off her social media, it could sting a bit. It’s only been 3 months, so maybe she’s just taking her time to be more public about your relationship. I’d say talk to her again, but in a chill way. Let her know how it makes you feel without pushing too hard. Ask if there’s a reason she’s not comfortable sharing yet. It might just be something personal she needs time with, but your feelings matter too, so express them.

[sharren]

that sounds frustrating. I’d feel the same way. If she’s super active on social media but won’t post about you, it’s understandable to be confused. Her reason about people back home being jealous seems a bit off, especially if she’s posting everything else. Let her know how it makes you feel left out. If she cares about you and your relationship, she should be open to finding a balance that makes you both feel comfortable.

[Hermitess]

No, she’s hiding something. She’s trying to keep her options open and doesn’t want people to see that she’s in a relationship so she can keep trying to flirt with other dudes.

[luvstoned4him]

"people back home might be jealous"? - maybe she has a boyfriend home? or maybe she isn't sure about you two yet

[WhitneySnow]

She might have someone back home who has feelings for her and she doesn’t want to discourage those feelings

[IslaTheWitch]

ask her what she meant by that? how can we know ffs?

[EmmaMary]

For fuck's sake Grow Up and try starting acting your age. smh

[Anonymous]

Guys come and go so I wouldn't want to keep posting every guy who comes along unless it's going to be a long-term relationship.

[LiamJHayden]

Sounds like she is keeping her options open.

[pearl]

I don’t care about social media stuff but her answer is very suspicious. Either she had a crush on someone else or she don’t like you genuinely thinks you are not in her league.

[Anonymous]

You're gonna have to trust her and if she breaks your trust, you're gonna just have to take it up the ahh

[Crazzyyworld]

She is a devil

[jack1924]

she already answered your question

[Retsam]

its a red flag bro

[DrPepper12]

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