Why would someone cheat with their ex?

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My ex-boyfriend cheated on me with his ex-girlfriend. I don't feel like I was just a rebound until he got his ex back. It's not like he dumped me when she wanted him back. He could have had her if he wanted her. Instead, he cheated on me with her several times until I found out and left him. But what's the point of cheating with an ex? If he loved her so much and she loved him, why did they even break up to begin with?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Sometimes people can love each other but the chemistry just isn’t right. I would say this depends on who dumped who. Maybe she dumped him. If she did chances are he still had feelings for her. Maybe he dumped her but she’s just got a rocking body, maybe she did a lot of things him sexually that you don’t. Maybe she does it better. If he dumped her I think it would be easier for him to get her to have sex w him cause she still has feelings for him. So if she can’t have him completely than just being a part of his life even if it’s in that way she’ll take it. Maybe she was under the impression that she thought there’s a possibility he wanted to get back w her when in reality he lied to just have sex w her. There’s a lot of possible reasons. Maybe they’re just both fucked up mentally. Maybe he’s just that type of person that regardless of whether it was you or another girl he still would have cheated w his ex or another girl.

sawno · Accepted Answer

Can be one of those situations where the sex was incredible but they aren't a compatible couple. But I can also think of more complex ones where he cheated on her, and now she wants to feel validated by having him cheat with her.

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

Navigating the stormy seas of love and betrayal, aren't we? Cheating with an ex—oh, it’s like reading a novel where the characters can't decide on their own story's ending. Deep breaths, love. Cheating, especially with an ex, is often not about love or the lack thereof. It’s about comfort, familiarity, and sometimes, unresolved feelings that never quite found their closure. When an ex comes back into the picture, it's like a siren call to old habits and memories, creating a whirlwind of emotions that isn't necessarily about wanting to reunite for love’s forever dance. It's often more about the thrill of the forbidden or the comfort of the known, than a grand plan to rekindle a lost love. Remember, darling, it's a reflection of his confusion and lack of integrity, not a measure of your worth or desirability. Keep your chin up and your standards higher!

Finchie40 · Answer

I’m sorry to hear that happened to you , Most people that are newly broken up shouldn’t rush into a relationship with someone else , but sadly it happens a lot because most people
Are selfish and only really think about what is best for themselves, He went back to his ex because he isn't over his ex , you were just a rebound to him. So do yourself a favor a d move on from him completely and don’t look back , His relationship with his ex will more than likely end again and when it does , do not give him another chance whatsoever, tell him to Go fuck himself , people that hold onto their exes are complete assholes that shouldn’t be pursuing anyone until they are completely over their ex , that’s one of the reasons why I no longer jump into a relationship with a girl , because
Most girls’ hold onto their exes as well like they were these amazing people , if they were so amazing? They wouldn’t be an ex period

AviatorTom · Answer

Familiarity. You know your ex, had sex with them before. If the opportunity arises, the main reason for cheating, it's pretty eady to cheat with an ex.

DishLady · Answer

Because they're morally bankrupt and have no boundaries.

Gladi8t0r · Answer

Someone who would cheat with their ex is most likely insecure and needs to convince themselves they are loved. Those kinds of people don't love themselves and need affirmation but in trying to attain that affirmation they harm the people in their lives who do care for them and unfortunately in this case it happened to be you.

It's never a good idea to dwell on these things. He wasn't the guy for you. I'm not saying that you should be happy about having been cheated on but I am saying to take it in a mindset of growth. Now this is your chance to find someone who loves YOU. Love unapologetically and don't hold anything back.

To answer your question people are dumb. We all want to have our cake and eat it too. However, that is not a reflection of you and your character. It's of his. He's going to realize the impact you made on his life and regret his decision.

You're a strong girl don't let this take up so much space in your mind. You have a right to your feelings so experience them strongly and speak your mind but don't let them become a burden and weigh you down.

victoriaxoxo · Answer

My ex cheated on me with his ex. When they were together he used to moan to his friends about how much he missed me and how I was the love of his life. (I dated him first, we broke up for other reasons, he dated her, they broke up for other random reasons, time passed , me and him got back together). One day she came back to the country to pick up her stuff and one thing led to another and he cheated on me. Why? Because he was horny and he had no self control and she was available. Sometimes it’s really that simple. He would have cheated on me with someone else in time, it just happened to be his ex because that’s easier.

oh later I also found out, he used to cheat on her all the time too. :)

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

He will pay the price one day for hurting you and using you!
I'd never let a girl loves me or be in relationship with her if i'm not going to be loyal to her...

If my tries her best get me back, she will be kicked out for sure and i mean it and i'll show her my new girl and make her understand that she has no place anymore in my life cause my life now would be with the girl that i'm with 😌

I'll never hurt anyone's feelings because i was hurtna lot in the past and would never want someone to experience these feelings!

HawkPerception · Answer

Sigh... another ones bites the dust.

If he was willing to take the risk of cheating on you and you finding out, it means he doesn't value/cherish your relationship all that much.

It might hurt, but the only reason I can think of a guy wanting to cheat is if something is lacking from the sexual aspect of his current relationship.

I'd leave him for good and not look back. Dude clearly doesn't have a moral compass.

ohmyguy · Answer

Lots of reasons. one satisfying sex

The at odds a unwilling to compromise.. both have unrealic expectation from each other

But both having alpha type status they easyily get with any body but loose interest quickly

What exciting to them is toxicity of the chemesty they share with very few others

But being in each in each other company is volitial to the point of being dangerous

thatkawaiiemogirly · Answer

Smh it's all lust! It's not love! They are being promiscuous. Plain and simple. That's disgusting act! Please be very safe and careful. If y'all were intimate please get tested. In case if you didn't get a chance to get tested.

WhitneySnow · Answer

Some guys will take sex from whatever girl offers it, even if (or especially if) she’s an ex

FreyaRed · Answer

"... why did they even break up to begin with?" One option is they had an open relationship agreement and you were just the side chick or you should turn in one.

Lynx122 · Answer

They're just both not serious people. You can't start thinking about what they're thinking because they're not using their brains. They're just doing whatever they feel like in the moment.

lightbulb27 · Answer

wasn't moved on from her and re-bonded. foolishness. I'm sorry, you don't deserve that. but you can learn from it.

Jay-_- · Answer

Because they are lacking morals, loyalty and respect.

NathanDavis · Answer

does it matter though?  cheating is still cheating...

LiamJHayden · Answer

Cheaters cheat because they are disloyal. With an ex might be easier because they already know each other and have history.

Anonymous · Answer

they are familiar and comfortable and all you have to do is say wanna have sex

Ladsin2 · Answer

"If you can't love the one you want, love the one you're with."

Curiousguy0202 · Answer

My ex cheated on me purely cus he was bigger so sometimes it can be for dumb shit

noohair · Answer

It is a lazy way for sex.

Anonymous · Answer

Low self esteem? Desperation?

Vegasrunner · Answer

Are women really this clueless?

Happybf02 · Answer

In my case it was a size difference

Radiate143 · Answer

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