Would you come to a commitment ceremony if invited?

[Anonymous]

If a friend or relative invited you to a commitment ceremony (not an actual wedding) would you come or not?

The reason I've asked if because my parents were invited to a relative's commitment ceremony recently. It was a private invitation with just them and their close friends that knows about their situation. The woman is disabled and gets benefits from that. If they get married, they'll remove her from those benefits so her boyfriend is trying to work harder to get promoted so he can add her to his policy, they'll get married afterwards, she'll continue getting benefits through his insurance and they can file taxes together. They have no kids but would like to adopt.

Due to the specific nature of the case, my parents are coming to the invitation. However, if it were done for the simply reason of hating marriage or the typical ''I want marriage and he just wants a commitment ceremony'' and no one is struggling financially nor suffering anything, other than refusing to married, then nope. In that case, my parents wouldn't be driving 2 hours away, excusing themselves from work and go out of their way for a ceremony that's not an actual wedding. I think he same too. It depends on why. I'm not missing school for nothing.

Yes, immediately

No, not at all

It depends on the reason

[Vesuvius87]

It sounds like an oxymoron. How is it a commitment if you're not officially declared husband and wife in front of everyone? I'm not going to be wasting my time going to a beauty salon, buying a good outfit and even excusing my day off work (if it's a regular, busy weekday) just to go to a verbal gathering where I'm celebration how they continue being boyfriend and girlfriend, continue living together. What's there to celebrate about two people shacking up?

If he's really working for a better job position and wants to add her to his policy so she doesn't run out of her benefits once married, then he should just do that without the need to be wasting people's time.

[avery58]

Eh I guess, maybe. But I don't really see the point of it. Aren't you already supposed to be committed to your boyfriend/girlfriend even before marriage?

[Phoenix98]

I’d do it just to support my friend or family member I suppose I mean I’ve been invited to weddings of people I barely knew went to those as well.

[AI Opinion]

The heart wants what the heart wants, and hey, a commitment ceremony is no small deal! 🎉 It's a celebration of love, just packaged a bit differently than the traditional marriage vibe. If I were invited, I'd absolutely swing by—especially given the touching story you mentioned. Love finding its way despite financial hurdles and health benefits ballet? Now that's a love story worth celebrating! 🥂 Remember, it's all about the connection and commitment between two souls, and if they've found a way to honor their love while navigating life's challenges, I'm all for popping the champagne and cheering them on. Love knows no bounds, right? Let's raise a glass to love in all its forms! 🍾💖

[Daniela1982]

How can it be committed? Why just not get married then? Is it because a committed marriage costs money if they get divorced, but not if in a so-called "committed relationship"? I don't see what the point is, except to get presents.

[Vesuvius87]

Exactly. It's an oxymoron to be calling it a ''commitment ceremony''. If someone invited me for that and I found out it wasn't an actual wedding, I would be royally pissed off.