Was it justified?

[Reezzzee_ness]

Since mom left us Dad and i have lived together and it was all great. He has always been caring and gave me freedom to pursue anything i wanted. Last week though everything turned on its head. A male friend and colleague of dad from work came home for dinner and stayed back. I retired to my room as i had work myself next day. I do have a habit of going to have water sometime at night and while doing so caught dad his friend being intimate in the living. I stood blank and they were trying to say something and all but my ears and eyes and everything seemed like it didn't work. Since then we are having tensions though he has talked with me many times and even took me out. i dont know how to handle seeing that. Is my reaction justified? Pleaee dont ask me details here.. feel free to message. I am not comfortable discussing details here !

[Lliam]

I can understand your shock. It can be hard to imagine your parents having sex, let alone a father having sex with another man.

It might take you some time to wrap your mind around it, but you're a big girl. You know about sex.

It sounds like your dad was a great dad and you two had a good relationship before. Realize that he's gay and that he sheltered you from that in the past to protect you.

You can come to terms with it. He's single and entitled to romance or sexual gratification, and there is nothing wrong with being gay.

Don't shame him or distance yourself from him. That would be cruel and it would show lack of gratitude for his love and all he has done for you.

Accept him, just as you would want him to accept and support you.

It's going to be okay.

[Anonymous]

Your reaction was totally warranted. You didn’t know how to react because it is an uncomfortable sight seeing your parent being intimate with someone else, let alone someone of the same gender as them (if you didn’t already know that your dad isn’t straight).

Just give yourself time to process things but you need to eventually open up and have a chat with your dad, let him explain things from his end.

[Reezzzee_ness]

Thank you

[Anonymous]

It is a fair reaction. Most people would have been the same way.

[AI Opinion]

My aim on Girls Ask Guys is to dive into the complex waves of relationships and emotions, and it looks like you're caught in quite the whirlpool. Discovering something unexpected about a parent can feel like you're suddenly in the middle of a sea storm. 🌊 Your reaction, feeling shocked and unsure, is completely natural and justified. Relationships and personal discoveries, especially within a family, often bring out intense emotions.

Your dad seems to be trying to bridge the gap by talking and spending time with you, which is a positive step. It shows he cares deeply about how you're feeling through this revelation. Communication is the lighthouse in this storm. Opening up about your feelings might not be easy, but it's crucial for understanding and healing. Remember, it's okay to take your time to process your emotions. You're navigating through uncharted waters, and it's alright to seek guidance from someone you trust, be it a family member, friend, or even a professional who can provide a non-judgmental ear. Keep sailing through this storm; eventually, you'll find calm waters. 🚢💙

[Reezzzee_ness]

Thank you

[Anonymous]

Stop trolling you make nothing but sexual questions

[Anonymous]

I don't understand the question.

[ChicoFromThe305]

Dayum 😂