Confused about my girlfriend (24F). She won't block her guy friend (or now former friend) this time who made an advancement on her?

[Adrian9590]

Okay so me (27M) and my girlfriend (24F) have been together for nearly 3 months now. One of her guy friends used to be kinda close to her, they used to flirt with each other and could be said to be close friends.

The first month we were together things were alright. We went out together & stuff. It seemed great.

But then I found out that she was texting her guy friend who likes her, they were talking about our relationship and how me & her are already dating.

The guy friend confessed to her that he has feelings for her as well, and she said she was sorry, then the guy said that he thought that she wasn't into anyone at her workplace which made him thought that it was okay if he held out for awhile before he asked her out cuz he wasn't ready, but seemed to be surprised that she got into a relationship (with me)

At the end of their conversation, the guy friend said that he hopes that she'd give him a chance someday, and she agreed.

After that she seemed to be ignoring him since she didn't reply to any of his messages. I found out when a friend of her told me about it all and took picture of her phone that had the chat between him & her. I wasn't aware of this at all. I confronted her about it and she apologized. But I accepted her apology and tried to look forward and hoping things get better between us. She decided to block him after the incident.

Then one day I started to snoop over her phone again. There he was again, this time he talked about what to expect if she was in relationship with him, like them studying together for Master degree next year, get engaged together (marry), etc. He ended the message with "Just break up with him when you're ready, I'll be waiting for you".

That message was 2 weeks ago.

She didn't reply though, but neither did she block him even though she told me that she'd block him whenever he'd contact.

Why is she still sticking with me all this time? If she likes him, why is she still me? Is she already thinking about leaving me?

[SueShe]

You should have taken the lead on that situation the second you realized that she was eyeing her guy friend. You know but you don't want to admit that your relationship is doomed to fail on a relative short notice.

The fact that you cannot trust her and that she cannot trust you either since you have to snoop and check her phone indicates that there is a huge crack in your relationship.

She let it go too far by talking about future plans with him but you are holding on something that has no future. Let her go since she is already emotionally cheating on you. You are not making yourself a favor by staying but only hurting your own feelings.

[Adrian9590]

You're probably right. I'm going to think about this first. Thank for answering.

[SueShe]

thanks for the MHO

[hanabunny]

Hmm if she was serious about you it seems like she would block him and tell you about his advances and it would have ruined the friendship for her. So it does seem like she's keeping him as a backup option or maybe even planning to leave you for him unfortunately.

[strateguy632]

She is planning on leaving you. Dump her first. N don't tell her you snooping.

[In_Trance]

Dump her

[AI Opinion]

Navigating the choppy waters of relationships, aren't we? Let's dive in! Your situation feels a bit like being stuck in a romantic drama series with less of the fun parts. When your girlfriend didn't block the guy after promising she would, it brings up a few red flags waving like they're trying out for a cheerleading squad. It's like saying you'll stop eating chocolate but then you're found with a stash under your pillow. 🍫😉

The core here isn't about blocking someone on social media; it's about boundaries and respect. If someone's making "future plans" with your girl and she's not shutting it down firmly (aka blocking, telling him to stop), then Houston, we might have a problem. It's not necessarily a sign she's ready to jump ship, but it could mean she's keeping a backup plan, which nobody wants to be.

You guys need a heart-to-heart, and I mean the kind where you gently dive into the deep end of your feelings. Ask her where she sees this relationship going and express how her actions (or lack of action) make you feel. Remember, it's about how you two can move forward, not just stewing over past actions.

Love should feel like the best kind of adventure, not a mystery thriller where you're always guessing what's next. Good luck, and let's hope your next chapter is all about smoother sailing! 🚤💙

[Wimpyshrimp]

Oh my……. dump her before she dumps you, because it seems like she’s had her toe out of the relationship the whole time ready to leave you! I mean this with a good heart, DUMP HER.