Fantasy's and how to help her realize them?

[CuriousHubby]

Ever felt like your lover is keeping Thier dark side away? Like you want them to be fully open even if it scares you?

Yes want to be fully open

No we can have secrets

Maybe hope it snot to wild

Yes but they won't open up

No and I won't push them to open

We kinda know what it is but not how to do it.

[DishLady]

I don't know about sexuality or sensuality being defined as a “dark side”. It’s the reason so many repressed and ridiculously closeted people exist today. Just talk openly about that you like and ask what she likes. Period.

[CuriousHubby]

Well dark side is a easy cleaner way to say it. That every one kind understands.

We do openly talk about what we like. Just when I ask her what else she would want or want to try she does the I don't know what is out there or what she would like.

Can't tell if she really does not know or if she does not want to share. She has a Gothic past

[DishLady]

Just bc it’s become the norm to demonize sex doesn’t mean we should keep doing it.

Natural desires shouldn’t be treated as unnatural/bad/dark/naughty/ etc … especially in a loving relationship.

[CuriousHubby]

True some sex acts are not darker or bad in a healthy relationship. Some just like them

There are some acts that do lead to the relationship ending though and are not healthy

[DishLady]

True.

[jahaims]

Nope