What are some reasons a person is so clingy?

[Justneedtokno]

Text book :
Acting clingy tends to stem from attachment issues and past relationships that were emotionally dramatic. Clinginess is not as severe as codependency, but it can be a symptom of this unhealthy relationship style.

[on_my_knees]

Apparently what makes me "clingy" is serving with unwavering devotion, according to my Ex-Mistress. Let's just call her Jan deTrans - she was a woman of striking beauty and an aura that commanded obedience.

She had discovered the complexities of gender identity when she believed her life would improve if she were male. Embracing a butch persona, she noticed a shift in societal treatment, but transitioning with a double mastectomy and testosterone usage brought unexpected challenges.

This prompted her to explore antidepressants, which astonishingly resolved her struggles, revealing that her gender dysphoria didn't inherently define her as a man. Consequently, Jan detransitioned after four years, highlighting potential issues with the current "gender-affirmative" healthcare approach that relies on self-diagnosis in the transgender community.

Nevertheless, I offered myself to her, surrendering all rights to my own life. I crafted a contract, a testament to my commitment, detailing the rules I would live by as her property. I called her Goddess, for as my Dominant, she held the power over my body and soul.

Jan deTrans trained me well, teaching me the ways of submission, using punishment and reward to mold me into the perfect servant. I wore a collar, a leash, and even a cage, for she knew how to keep me in line. Each day, I strived to please her, whether it was through acts of service or enduring the pain she inflicted with her skilled hands.

Yet, despite my efforts, I could never fully satisfy her. I was denied the ability to pleasure myself to the image of her massacred chesticles and forced to watch her enjoy the company of a BBC.

She accused me of being too needy, too clingy, casting me aside like a discarded toy. All I really did to prompt this was respond immediately to all her text messages as a sign of respect. Maybe she lied an never did stop injecting testosterone, idfk.

[Summeroflove]

Being clingy is fine if you can find someone else whose clingy. As long as you can respect personal boundaries. Everyone is different

[Justneedtokno]

What is too much

[Summeroflove]

Not respecting personal boundaries. Not allowing someone to be around friends or even their own family. Not having any trust. Blowing someone up when they know they’re sleeping or at work and it’s not a emergency

[Summeroflove]

But then again. People need to be honest about what they want and never try to change someone else.

[Justneedtokno]

What if you honestly just want their attention to the last part of what you were saying not technically blowing them up for emergencies just they were on your mind. It’s more along the lines of that.

[Summeroflove]

It just depends on what both people agree on

[VIVANT]

People call giving your boyfriend or girlfriend a hug, clingy lol we need to prison out dork definitions here but until then…

I think clingy just the meaning of someone wanting something in away you didn’t want it or in a way you DO want but you stay bc you didn’t want to be alone, or, they do stuff in away you DO want but can’t confront that about yourself so it’s all postering.

if you (NOT YOU but the generic you) really feel the person is “clingy” you probably are not compatible so why are you with them to the point of complaining they are clingy. It should end at “incompatible” before that irrefutable ego stroke via character assassination. in my opinion

I like space but I’d NEVER accuse someone of being clingy. I would just talk about what we both want and we can asses the fact of how we want stuff is vastly different & if they will not be happy with me, end it.

I think people look for. A”clingy” person so they can complain about it bc this gives them the illusion they themselves don’t have emotional needs and are not attached. Meanwhile their needs get met without asking. It’s sick all around. At least the clingy person is honest about who they are 🤷🏻‍♀️

Tor complaint is likely far more common in certain cultures that glorify rugged individualism which in reality doesn’t exist. We live in societies bc they are necessary for survival. And we all rely on others there just no doubt about that, So I think this whole I’m I former they are doing, folks in the need for some internal role play and fantasy about being super human to heal childhood wounds where maybe someone made you feel CLINGY 🤪

[thegreenyogi]

The first reason that comes to my mind is: insecurity issues.

[thegreenyogi]

Thank you!

[AI Opinion]

Diving into the heart of attachment and affection, clingy behavior often unfolds like a love story with a twist. It's like our personal romance with fear and desire playing the leading roles. Imagine carrying a backpack of past heartbreaks, those chapters where trust was a bit of a luxury and security felt like a mirage. That backpack gets heavy, doesn't it? It nudges us to hold on tighter than we should because the thought of re-living those plot twists? Not exactly the sequel we’re looking for. So, we cling, fearing the final act where we might find ourselves solo on stage. But, like any story worth telling, there’s room for growth, understanding, and a bit of self-love to lighten that load. Let’s write that chapter together, shall we? 💖

[paledreams]

Broad answer, haven't read your bio question, I'd say it can be innocent humbling stuff like shy people, people who are humility or humbled, or it can be cringey with those with mental issues or unresolved trauma

[paledreams]

That last line inspired by Skyfall lol 😆😆😆😆

[Jamie05rhs]

Why are we attacking the clingy person? It's usually not their fault. It's usually the other person's fault.

[Justneedtokno]

Honestly, for not attacking, we’re just trying to create boundaries and the boundary for her is to put the person out of their misery and find her something else to do

[Jamie05rhs]

Aww 😥

[ArrowheadSW]

I dated a clingy lady for 3 years and I really did NOT like that side of her at all. I've always wondered what made her that way.

[OfMiceandMen]

A person that has been treated poorly or even abused in other relationships can be clingy.

[Hello37736262]

Maybe they have felt unloved their whole life so they would do anything to feel that love. Maybe there’s a emptiness in their heart and they need someone to fulfill it.

[DishLady]

Mostly bc they're insecure.

[Surferboi_02]

A reason is maybe they are insecure and have they ought that you will leave them and they want to show how much they love you

[ProbablyClueless]

Fear od abandonment. Maybe they have unmet needs from childhood.

[itsannalee]

Maybe their love language is physical touch.

[luvstoned4him]

Either abandonment issues or insecurities

[dustybiker2]

Abandonment issues probably.

[msc545]

Fear of being abandoned and anxiety will do this.

[legalboxers]

Insecurity, fear

[CubaPirate]

Insecurity I'd guess

[jahaims]

Trauma