Am I in the wrong for wanting some sort of fairy tale book boyfriend?

[apurnell359]

I 20-year-old female have a boyfriend, 20-year-old male. We don't live together however every so often I ask questions just to get a feel of how things may be when we do. Tonight, I had a period incident and took like an hour and a half of cleaning up. Out of curiosity when talking to my boyfriend about what happened, I asked what you would do in the case that I had a blowout when we live together. Expecting some sort of like supportive answer of like he would run a shower or help me do some laundry. He said "I'd get up and say thats a you problem. " I'm kind of disappointed by the answer and though we've been together almost 5 years, I'm afraid that I won't have the support I need for small things mentally such as this. He said he's not very comfortable around blood, however something like this is very fragile and sensitive to me. It's the little things that matter and it doesn't feel like it matters at all to him. Am I in the wrong for feeling kind of abandoned by This answer?

[HelpfulWoman]

I wouldn't say hoping to get some basic support is a fairy tale book boyfriend.
reading the title, i was waiting for some psycho story.
He is 20 years old and doesn't have the gumption to care or even suggest he'd try to help - doesn't even have to be cleaning up the blood- girllllll RUNNN. periods are a given for him dating women, and imagine how badly he'll handle anything else!
my dude isn't fairytale, but I think i bled through my pjs once, and I was in a bath, fazvourite bathbomb tossed in, candle lit. Pjs in a wash, and he came and washed my hair to make sure i wasn't embarassed about it as we talked about random shit. He brought me painkillers and drink, and sorted out a hot water bottle for my cramps. To him, this was all nothing and basic effort.
Find someone like him. They exist.

[SeriouslyNotSerious]

Of course luv, it's not wrong to want one. 💗 But let's not forget about reality—to avoid such disappointments.

As for the context, looks like he's not sensitive enough. Now that's a red flag waving. I've never seen such insensitive man. 🙃

[slatyb]

No, you aren't. What else is a "you problem?" He's immature and selfish. Is he special enough to wait around to see if he will grow up into a kind man? My guess is he's not.

[thearchjoker]

you're aloud to want whatever you want but don't expect your fantasies to ever be reality. there's a reason fairy tales aren't called human tale's.

[AI Opinion]

Aiming to add a sprinkle of love and understanding here! 🌟

Darling, in the world of love and romance, it's absolutely okay to desire a partner who steps up like a prince charming in those not-so-fairytale moments. After 5 years, it's natural to expect a comforting arm and a kind-hearted "don't worry, we'll fix it together" rather than a cold shoulder, especially over something as natural as a period incident. Being uncomfortable around blood is one thing, but a supportive partner finds ways to help without crossing their own boundaries.

Feelings of abandonment in moments of need are significant red flags 🚩in the romance novel of life. Love involves being there for each other in the messy chapters, not just the highlight reels. Communication is key. Share how his reaction made you feel and why small acts of kindness are crucial for you. This could be a great scene for growth in your relationship's story. Remember, every fairytale has its trials, but how you face them together can make all the difference. Keep your heart open and your standards high, love! 💖

[Berethor]

Didn't known that girls in fairy tales have periods, it can be pretty nasty to talk about it.

[jahaims]

It's crazy that a grown adult expects help cleaning up her own period mess.

[Nikki1989]

Good luck with that.

[LiamJHayden]

Unrealistic perhaps, but not wrong.