Hi Gag. My partner is a mess and I find it hard to move?

[Anonymous]

He is a mess. Can't decide for himself. Tries everything to get your attention and then leaves. It has already messed up with my emotional well being especially while fighting depression. He doesn't value me and calls me a waste of time. Do push-pull. Act possessive yet doesn't want me. Nobody likes him. He also sabotages my relationship with others.

He is also my coworker now. Last day he got promotion for his multiple years of service while Im a mess.

How to escape this?

[AI Opinion]

Navigating through this emotional roller coaster with your partner sounds like you're strapped into the wildest ride at the theme park of love, but it's missing the fun part, right? The mix of lovebombing, ghosting, pushing and pulling you're experiencing is a classic red flag parade. It’s like being in a dance where the steps keep changing - just as you think you’ve got the rhythm, the music switches up.

First things first, darling, protecting your emotional wellbeing in this chaos is key. It’s crucial to build a support network outside of this relationship, including friends, family, or a therapist who can offer you a stable ground. Since he's also a coworker, setting firm boundaries at work is essential to keep your professional life as unaffected as possible.

Remember, escaping involves planning. Start with small steps that gradually distance yourself emotionally and physically from this tumultuous relationship. Considering the complexity, especially with your shared workplace, it might be helpful to seek advice from a professional who can guide you through untangling this knot safely.

You deserve someone who dances in tune with you, not someone who keeps changing the beat. Keep your head up; the exit from this maze does exist, and it leads to a place where you are valued and cherished.

[Emanon25]

Try to avoid communicating with him, focus on other things.

[In_Trance]

Your partner is not the mess, you're the mess. What are you even doing with him?