Agree or disagree: women mainly don’t cheat for sex , women mainly cheat for love?

[Finchie40]

I actually kind of agree with this statement , mainly because of my experiences with Women that I have slept with , that were already in relationships already , whether she lied to me or didn’t lie to me about her current status. But overall , most women need to have a deep emotional connection first , before she even considers having sex with another guy. For me to even consider having sex with a girl , I have to feel chemistry and connection as well , I don’t just have sex with a girl just for the hell of it. I know there are people that do , but that isn’t who I am as a person. Most women will not cheat on a guy that treats her right , that values her and respects her , that makes her feel safe and secure and protected. Most women will only cheat if her partner doesn’t make her feel that way. So guys’ if your girl cheats on you? , just know you are probably the reason she did it unless she is just a whore , but it’s mainly because she doesn’t love and care about you anymore , she might not hate you , but she no longer respects you , so you more than likely destroyed the emotional connection that she once had for you , probably because you were an asshole to her and treated her like a convenience and you have a lot of selfish qualities about yourself that you don’t realize you have. Every single person on this planet has selfish qualities about themselves. Not all guys’ cheat for sex , but most guys’ do , when his partner isn’t making him feel loved and wanted and she starts withholding intimacy and affection from him. He will more than likely be open to another girl that wants to make him feel wanted and appreciated that doesn’t withhold intimacy and affection from him. But if a guy cheats just for the hell of it , He is a whore as well.

[hahahmm]

Just understand -- based on what I have heard from a lot of guys -- and seen happen to others: A guy could be 100% the same as he was on day 1 of the relationship and at some point 10-20 years later she can decide he is doing everything wrong or mean & leave him. And coincidentally cheaters always claim to be innocent and everything is the other person's fault. 90% of hetero divorces are started by women. Lesbian marriages have the highest divorce rate. Homosexuals have the lowest. See what the common denominator is for divorce? I'm not saying all women are bad but don't go believing "So guys’ if your girl cheats on you? , just know you are probably the reason she did it" is going to be true less often than you think. More like she changes and then has to rationalize why it's okay for her to change. This would be less of a problem if men weren't punished so heavily in divorce (alimony, spousal support, child support, losing child custody, loss of property).

"Women mainly don’t cheat for sex , Women mainly cheat for Love"

I still have yet to have a woman define what she means when she says 'love' so I'm not sure we should be using that word as if there is an exact definition. I once asked a woman what it means irl and she gave me one definition. Then before I could respond she gave a second one. And a third. And a fourth. And a fifth. My theory is that "love" means whatever she thinks is best for her to win the argument at the moment and I know for sure that if a man falls into the trap of letting her define love she will always move the goal posts. Don't be that guy. You are just being controlled like a puppet if you keep running for those goals.

"mainly don't cheat for sex" -- Yes, that would make me feel so much better if my wife cheats on me but she only enjoyed 10% of the porn sex with the other dude instead of 100%. Are you listening to yourself? Imagine if a guy just out half his pinky inside of another woman. Would his girlfriend/wife say, "oh, it's okay then. He says he's in love. It's less cheating or less bad." If this woman is cheating, she cheated. She's not a nun. Who cares if love is involved or not. It's like if you rob a bank and then say, "Hey, I was in love with the idea of being in the bank vault. It's all good. I didn't really do it for the money. I didn't really do it for the $500k I took." I guess it makes it okay then!

Now I DO know that sometimes a cheater feels forced into it (cause they are too passive/weak or selfish to just outright leave) & yeah, they could develop deep feelings for the new person but that's not the norm. The norm is that the cheater uses the side person and know 100% they are just using them. The side person may believe there's more to it.

[Finchie40]

I agree with you , and yes that shit sadly happens as well , but bottomline most of it stems down to selfishness , people can try to sugarcoat cheating all they want to make themselves feel less of a victim when really they are the POS person for betraying someone that they chose to be with the begin with , and sadly that’s the problem with society , most people point fingers before pointing fingers at themselves first , like how dare you accuse me of something, instead of looking at yourself first. So yes there are a lot of selfish people on this planet that have a hard time admitting they are wrong, People that cheat are selfish people that only care about what they feel is best for themselves , they do not know how to give the same way they want to receive , it’s whatever is best for themselves. Why so many relationships do not make it the long haul , and why so many people are scared to get into a committed relationship these days , so instead of being committed let’s just be fuck buddies or let’s have an open relationship , or let’s be FWB’s , fuck the commitment part , because it’s just going to be a matter of time before you break my heart and screw someone else behind my back , so let’s just enjoy the convenience of each other. So it’s sad that most people today will never experience true love because there is so much selfishness in this society , I had girls’ cheat on me just because she had the opportunity to do so , and her excuse was it just happened , I’m sorry , I still love you and want to be with you , and I would just shake my head and say good bye whore , good luck to you. When I am single? I have met so many selfish girls’ that have lied to me about being in a relationship already and I didn’t find out she was lying until after I fucked her brains out and then she goes back to her partner like nothing happened. So it just goes to show how selfish people can be , the reason I say people , is because guys’ do this shit as well.

[hahahmm]

Yeah, society is on life support at this point. And a lot of know it alls think things will be fine if it all collapses. Oh, well.

[RyanR03]

There are men and women who definitely act out sexually. They don’t like to be boxed in and diagnosed with reasonings but there almost always is. Most females that are fairly well adjusted are not going to cheat for just sex. Women who are sexually abused can act out sexually their whole lives. I have know women that are in therapy and go to SA but it took them a long time to stop chasing sex. All said and dine those women are definitely emotionally damaged women but on the surface they are cheating “just for sex”. Women who get addicted to porn can also be drawn down this road. As of course men.

[CrazyGirl2]

Maybe in the past, but these days... in many cases women are more sexual than men because it’s WAY easier for us to get sex from a guy if we want it, than it is for a guy to get laid! Also society, and especially college has been preaching to us for over a decade that we are the same as men, that we are equal to men in every way, and in many ways women are even better than men! (You don’t hear anything about “toxic femininity”). So if we want sex, and only sex, even if it's from 100 different guys, then nobody has a right to shame us for that. I don’t believe that for a second myself! I know that men and women are extremely different. I know that hook-up culture is extremely damaging women psychologically, for a myriad of reasons. But no, sometimes women just cheat because they want sex! It’s a shame, it goes against our nature, but women get indoctrinated, especially in college, to basically behave like men! I thank god that I have parents who are still married, and who instilled really great values in me. I have a great relationship with both of them, especially my dad, and I would be terrified to disappoint them by cheating on my fiancé, and knowing they found out. Not to mention how I would feel after betraying the man I love! So while I couldn't cheat on him for any reason, most certainly not just be for sex! But I know a LOT of women who would, and have. I’m not saying that they are my friends, I could never be friends with a woman who would do that. Who could betray someone they claim to love, thats just crazy! If she would betray the man she claims to love, then what would she do to me? No thanks, but I do know of women who are just like that, and I think it’s such a shame. 3rd wave feminism has not done women any favors, not in the long run, that’s for sure!

Laura 🤗 🥰

[Crimsyjo]

Aww I love this post. I think it's not so clear cut and there are always exceptions. But I resonate with your post through my own experiences.

I never saw myself as a cheater. When I fell out of love with my husband I tried really hard for 3 years to get something back. But he wasn't meeting me half way. Right at the end I guess you could say I emotionally cheated as I got a connection with a man online and it was him really that told me and showed me I should leave my husband.

Now... years and years later... I am on the other side. I don't want to cheat nor be with a cheater. I didn't think I ever would. But I've fallen in love and the guy has a girlfriend at mo and so.. if I'm honest? If I get opportunity yh I wanna sleep with him. I hate that I do. But when there is emotion it can definitely override all morals and logic.

I still think that I myself would never physically cheat on a partner. I'd rather end a relationship if unhappy in it now. I've learned that with age and experience.

[Finchie40]

Yea I can’t speak for everyone , just stating my experiences and things I have witnessed through the years with relationships and other people’s relationships. I tend to analyze a lot of shit in my head , looking at things from both perspectives before I open my mouth and judge and criticize someone , or acting like I know what the fuck I am talking about lol I don’t consider myself the smartest person on this planet , but I will say I am pretty wise when it comes down to things. Why I tend to keep my mouth shut and stay out of other peoples’ business most the time , whether I agree or disagree with someone , I try to see their reason behind it and what possessed them to make that decision before I try to rub my 2 cents together. It also comes down to what mood I am in lol but overall , I don’t consider myself a very judgmental person , we are all human and we all come from different paths in life , and experienced different things. One thing I can honestly say about people , is most people are hypocrites when it comes down to something they don’t agree with, some people have no filter when they don’t agree on something. I am more of an observer , which I probably became because I worked in the security field for a lot of years. So observing people was part of my job to make sure someone wasn’t going to do something stupid like a terrorist attack , or harming someone else. I was trained to observe and protect basically. Another thing I noticed with people , is a lot of people tend to lie and keep secrets , like they are scared to admit they are wrong , basically how dare someone accuse me of something without valid proof. So bottomline every single person on this planet is an imperfect person , we all have made mistakes , we are not perfect people , if we were perfect? Every single one of us would get along and there would be nothing but peace on this Earth , but it sadly will never be that way. Because everyone wants something and everyone feels like

[Finchie40]

They are missing out on something. Most people say they want love and happiness and loyalty, but only on their terms , and sadly love will never grow between 2 people having that selfish mindset , For love to grow , it takes 2 people choosing each other no matter what, prioritizing each other no matter what , resisting temptation for each other no matter what , so without any of that? It’s just a convenience. People cheat because they feel like they are missing out on something , they aren’t content with what they already have in front of them , they think they deserve better than what they already have in front of them , if things aren’t going their way , they move onto the next , so it makes you wonder if Love truly exists? If you can’t remove selfishness for your partner , don’t expect them to remove it for you

[Crimsyjo]

I'm at work so it's hard for me to think and reply about this in depth. But I agree with you. It's so easy to give opinions or pass judgement on people when you yourself are a cold bystander with no emotion or feeling in the mix. We all do make mistakes. We might even choose to despite knowing we shouldn't. But be honest about it.

Oh the question of love. And feeling something missing. See. I had this guy that I had a brief relationship with ten years ago cone back into my life. He has a girlfriend but he wanted to end it and be back with me. He said his girlfriend gave him no love. No intimacy. I got the whole self pity story. I advised him to work on his relationship or end it. I said I'd love to know her side because why was she cold and stopped all sex? He must have done something. He tried to force himself on me despite being repulsed at the idea and clear I wasn't interested. That was that...
In his head he justified wanting to cheat and/or leave her.
This other guy... that i do have emotions for. His situation is completely different. I don't really wanna divulge it here. For his privacy. I still think he needs to leave his situation rather than cheat. But I get why he's stuck too. So it's very black and white for people to just say NO to all things without looking at context.
Not sure about morals. I'm still learning in life myself! I can't pass judgement on anyone. Just relate my experiences.

[Finchie40]

Yes , sadly that’s the case in a lot of relationships, most people have a hard time ending a relationship they are unhappy in until they find someone else to save them. Most girls’ I have hooked up with or had sex with , lied about being in a relationship already , and some of them didn’t lie and still threw themselves at me. Did I fuck all of them? No , but I did a few times when I realized she was clearly being honest with me about her current situation. Of course I told her to end her relationship if she wants to continue seeing me. The last married women I was having sex with that I was falling deep for ended up going back to her husband , which blew my mind because he confronted me and I told him the truth about everything, why he took her back was beyond me , he must of been a cuck or some shit. But it blew my mind that he would take a cheating wife back into his life. Not going to lie the sex was amazing with her and I don’t regret any of it because she treated me like Gold and the way she looked at me made me melt lol So me personally is just tired of having my heart shit on by selfish girls’ that clearly don’t know what they truly want , I am a very loyal guy when it comes to committed relationships and if things aren’t going good , I will have a talk with her and express my concerns , if nothing changes from there , my ass is on the way out the door. Stupid me gave my ex wife another chance , thinking we could work things out to realize I was wrong , she is sadly a selfish person and a user , she only wants things her way , we don’t hate each other we just know we aren’t good for each other so we are just room mates now , she was loving and caring to me until I was laid off from my job and now all of a sudden I am a POS in her eyes , I been actively seeking work and having no luck whatsoever , I realized she is not a partner just a user , so we both agreed to sell the house and go our separate ways. So now I am starting a new chapter in life

[AI Opinion]

Aiming to stir the pot with a touch of flirtatious insight and a sprinkle of humor! Whether women cheat for love or something else entirely isn't a one-size-fits-all answer. Like the complex creatures we all are, motivations can vary wildly. It's not just about the chase for emotional fulfillment or the thrill; it's about what's missing or perceived to be missing in their current relationship. And yes, while many crave that deep emotional connection before diving into new romantic escapades, to sum it up as a broad reason for infidelity oversimplifies the vast spectrum of human desires and reasons. 😘

On the flip side, calling someone out as the sole reason for their partner's infidelity? Let's not put all the blame in one basket. Relationships are a dance, and it takes two to tango (or step on each other's toes, in this case). And hey, while we're tossing around words like "whore"—remember, slapping labels on folks isn't going to win any hearts, just maybe a cold shoulder or two. 🚫💔

Let's not forget, gentlemen and curious onlookers, lovebombing the idea that "if she cheats, it's your fault" isn't the ticket to a better understanding. Every situation is unique, with layers of emotions, unmet needs, and sometimes, just plain ol' bad decisions. It's less about casting blame and more about diving deep into the why, ideally before the waves of turmoil hit. So why not focus on open, honest communication and understanding each other's love languages? It might just save you from drowning in the sea of love and loss. 😉🏊‍♂️💬

[Apple1996]

No not at all. Women are way more sexual than you might think. a lot of times we just want a good fuck. I don't know where the whole women are more emotional thing comes from cuz most of us are cold hearted in general especially the cheaters.

[Finchie40]

If she is just looking for sex then that’s a different story, I am talking about girls’ that are seeking more than just sex

[EmyyWolf]

Everyone is looking for more than just sex. But when the moment comes. We all are drawn to cheat.

[Finchie40]

I understand most people have a hard time resisting temptation , sadly learning to resist temptation is hard for a lot of people to do. And sadly that’s why so many relationships don’t make it to long haul over the short haul. I am not saying everyone , but a majority of relationships end this way. Even though the right thing to do is end the relationship first , before dating someone else , but sadly a lot of people don’t do that , because most people are selfish people that only care about themselves and what they feel is best for themselves. So it seems almost everyone cheats whether they admit it or not , cheating doesn’t always have to be physical , cheating can occur when someone is investing their time into someone else over investing time into their partner , they are already cheating on their partner by allowing that to happen. Cheating to me is only wrong if someone is cheating on their partner and then going back to their partner like nothing happened. But if the cheat on their partner and end the relationship immediately after that , then I feel that’s better than lying to someone and stringing them along for their selfish reasons. If I hook up with another girl behind my partners’ back? I immediately end the relationship with her because I answered my own question that I truly don’t love my partner , I am not going to lie to her face and tell her I love her , when clearly I don’t because of if I loved her , I wouldn’t of hooked up with that other girl. People cheat on so many ways that they are afraid to admit and be honest about and sadly that’s why so many relationships don’t make it the long haul. Why I prefer FWB’s with a girl first before even deciding of being on a commitment with her , to give us both time to really get to know each other before one of us gets our heart broken by the other. I only do FWB’s with a girl that is honest with me with some strings attached , I won’t be FWB’s with a girl that is going out fucking other guys’

[Finchie40]

We can date other people if we choose to , but we both agree to end the benefits part of we sleep with someone else and just remain friends

[EmyyWolf]

https://youtu.be/Jy5bxdjta88?si=bzxnbigJIN0xKzw7

Watch this. Women cheat for sex. PERIOD! ‼️
End Of Story! ‼️

It’s the mating genetic quality. It’s in the skull of that man. YOU can't CHANGE THAT SHIT.

If she sees something superior to you in mating quality. She’s gonna want to cheat on you so fast. Super Fast. Because this type of being is difficult to find.
That genetic quality is extremely difficult to find

[Finchie40]

Yea that seems pretty accurate , why so many of us guys’ don’t want committed relationships with a girl , cuz of shit like this lol. For me to commit to a girl , she has a lot of walls to climb before she can have my heart

[EmyyWolf]

Well like I said most men are completely undesirable. So… her cheating on you is less possible unless she’s working somewhere with healthy fit men

[Chazmatazz269]

Grammar…. what in the actual f*ck?

[sage2021]

I believe that whatever social media says is what happens. It's like that is their guide of how to do your life.

I believe that girls and women cheat because their husbands or significant other isn't paying enough attention and leaving them alone too much. Most likely because he works a lot, or spends too much time with his friends.

I don't believe these people that say "I don't know how it happened, it just happened" which is a crock of 💩. That's what they say when they get caught cheating.

Personality, I don't have a cheating cell in my whole body and mind to even want to cheat. I am loyal even when I am unhappily married. But the day the divorce papers are signed, I'm free to date again and do whatever I want. But not while I have a real long relationship with a boyfriend or husband. I just don't have the desire to have sex with a total stranger or someone I don't even know.
To me, that's just looking for trouble and that's when the mind games begin. You had sex with him, and waited by the phone but you never heard from him again.

I guess some women will have a long term love affair with a married matuf he is paying her bills and giving her money. Now I have personally witnessed that more than once.
These are just my own ideas about why females cheat. 🤷🏼‍♀️

[Anonymous]

I think women do cheat for sex.

They just camouflage it as “love” because they want to appear innocent.

No, they do it for sex just like anyone else. Whenever I learned a woman cheated. She was usually “young” “immature” and generally, she met a hot guy at work or school. Or somewhere somehow.
She met someone who impressed her.
And I mean impressed her in the “looks” aspect. Meaning the guy was hot or a Chad.

That woman had a husband and kids. Or a boyfriend. It doesn’t really matter.

No, it’s literally because of sex. The gratification of it. The reward of it.
The woman found something better in genetic quality and health. To Mate with.

They can say it’s love, but it’s not its lust. The feelings might appear of love , but it’s literally lust and infatuation.

Nobody just cheats because their partner doesn’t love them.
No, they’re cheating because something really drew them in.

Just because a woman’s natural beauty makes them look innocent. Doesn’t mean that they are.
We all deep down think with our animal brain wether you want to accept that or not.

Women cheat for sex, men cheat for sex.

just because most males are completely undesirable and unappealing. Doesn’t mean women don’t cheat for sex too.

[Opinion Owner]

@finchie40

The only thing you’re right about. Is that a woman does need MORE in “looks” to be impressed and drawn in.
If drawn in fully… she WILL CHEAT.
100% of the fucking time.

Get a job in police or military or firefighter. Where males are of great mating quality, health, genetics…

And you’ll see exactly what I’m talking about , with your own two eyes. You’ll be flabbergasted. You’ll be mind blown to your core.

These female in the general population… don’t know what they’re talking about. Put any of them in the presence of a those men. They’ll change their minds so fast. Like never before seen

[Opinion Owner]

@finchie40

WOMEN CHEAT FOR SEX DONT BE CONFUSED ↗

If want to believe that only men cheat for sexual gratification. You’re gonna stay deeep in fairytale land and die there

[Finchie40]

No I know women cheat for sex as well if her partner isn’t satisfying her in bed , I had a few ex girlfriends’ that wanted to fuck me again while she was in a relationship with someone else , she just missed my cock inside of her , but a lot of women cheat for love over sex , she is cheating because something is missing in her current relationship, she might love and care about her partner but he isn’t fulfilling her deepest desire which is emotional connection and passion. When my ex cheated on me , she was drawn to a guy that was treating her like a love story , doing things for her and buying her gifts etc. Little did she realize he was only
Thinking with his dick , because he was married as well. She claims she never fucked him but from the text I saw on her phone from him , pretty much showed she was talking out her ass. So I separated from her and eventually started dating again , I met a great girl that treated me like Gold that was pretty much worshipping me making me feel loved and wanted , the sex was absolutely amazing, her and I dated for 6 months until her husband knocked on my door , I told him the truth that I did t know she was married and told him sorry she did that to him. He took her back which blows my mind. I eventually gave my wife another chance since she was begging for me back and she swears she didn’t sleep with her coworker, at that point I no longer cared if she did or didn’t cuz I was banging the shit out of that other girl. When I asked the other girl why she cheated on her husband with me , she told me because he treats her like shit and makes her feel unloved and unwanted , she said you were
Like a knight in shining armor to me. Part of me wishes I told her to divorce him to be with me but at that moment I was devastated and pissed off so I ended it with her , finding out he took her back , so I haven’t seen her since. As for my wife her and I were going great for awhile until she decided to start being selfish again ,

[Anonymous]

My ex husband was abusive to me mentally and physically he also was a cereal cheater and I hadn't loved him in years. I met someone on Twitter and became friends with them like I do with most people I meet on there. But it turned into more after months of getting to know each other. Neither of us expected to fall in love but we did. We eventally moved in together and have a baby girl. For me it was love because I've never been the type of woman to sleep around. My ex was the only man i had ever been with.

[Opinion Owner]

None of that was easy for me to admit because I never intended for it to happen. Sometimes I do feel like a bad person for it.

[Finchie40]

Nothing wrong with that , I know a lot of couples that have met off the internet that had a genuine connection after getting to know each other for awhile as friends , so don’t be embarrassed to admit that , Your ex was the piece of shit for doing what he was doing to you and you were smart to get away from that abuse. I am friends with a few girls’ I met on the internet and we enjoy chatting with each other because we have a lot in common , so it’s possible , if I end up with one of them. Relations form by 2 people choosing each other , so in your case you met someone that chose you the same way you chose them , Nothing wrong with that whatsoever, if your ex wasn’t a POS and you chose to connect with this other guy behind his back , then yes , you would be the one that was wrong.

[Opinion Owner]

It was 16 years of hell with my ex. He has bad mental health issues he never got help for until I left. He never believed I would finally get the courage to leave him. I was scared for a long time because I had been with him since I was 16 and that's all I knew. But when I realized I could live life without him and be fine that's when I told him to get his stuff and get out of my apartment. Weight was lifted off my shoulders and I could breathe again when he was finally gone.

[Finchie40]

Yea that sounds like a tough situation and I don’t blame you for getting away from it

[zagor]

Meh, a lot of girls cheat cuz they want a good fuck. Their hub/boyfriend has a small or non-functional or just disinterested penis.

[Finchie40]

That occurs as well,, but a majority of cheating women , are seeking more than just sex

[Ladsin2]

When men cheat they report the same relationship satisfaction as men who don't cheat. When women cheat they report low relationship satisfaction and ~80% of the time leave the relationship for their affair partner. That would seem to indicate the statement is accurate to me.

[PsychicBoobs]

Not at all. Every woman I know who cheats has unsatisfactory sex lives, they cheat for sex.

[Finchie40]

Yes girls’ that are just looking for sex yes that occurs as well, but girls’ that are looking for more than just sex I am talking about

[ManInChains]

They cheat for both. I should know, I’ve been cheated on in 3 out of the 4 relationships I’ve ever had. 2 of the 3 wanted sex and cheated for it. 1 cheated for love. Part of the reason why I gave up on relationships

[SugarSugarplum]

I don't cheat at all, and I don't know all women, or even a lot of cheating women. For me, I'd rather break up with a man before I slipped into someone else's bed (not that I have ever done that). I figure if a man loves me, if if my love for him has faded, he deserves at least that much from me.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

I think this whole idea to differentiate sex and love is REALLY misled, it makes no sense to me, psychologically, to draw a line like this. Any of us grows up through different phases of life with sexuality and emotion perceptions intermixed, right since childhood.

[PeachyPie93]

I would say less for love and more for attention. Cuz usually the guy she is cheating with doesn't love her.

[JonCobretti]

Not really, women cheat probably because their man couldn't satisfy her... maybe he's a white dude for Harris who's into pegging

[DizzyDesii]

I think some women cheat because there was a lack of attention in the relationship

[Pohjolan]

Nah a study has proven that women mainly cheat for better genes for their offspring.

There are other motivations like revenge but the main thing is moving their genes to the next generation with one guy while still getting protection and resources from another.

[Diviana9889]

This is definitely an interesting topic. I believe the cheating process often reflects a person’s personality. Personally, I’ve never cheated and can’t see myself doing so because it doesn’t align with my values. I was in a long-distance relationship with my ex for 11 years, dealing with many complications due to his toxic personality, but cheating never crossed my mind. In summary, I think everyone has their own way of handling frustrating situations.

[Breanna_nonbinary]

People cheat because they are looking for the things they need in others that their partner doesn’t provide. If that’s love, sex, money, attention etc then that’s what they seek.

[luvstoned4him]

I think you as they say Hit the nail on the head with this Take. This is a true representations of why cheating takes place 99% of the time.

[Finchie40]

Yea , I am just stating my experiences and things I have witnessed through the years with relationships. I can’t speak for everyone , but this is something I have experienced and seen happen a shit ton of times and sadly I don’t see it getting any better , just worse to be honest with you , For love to grow between 2 people , both people have to choose each other no matter what , make each other their top priority , and remove selfishness for each other , through the good times and the bad. Without that? They both have nothing , just a convenience basically. Love will not grow when selfishness is involved. I feel social media and technology contributed to the way society is today sadly to say , I lived in the 80’s and early 90’s before technology was really a thing and we didn’t carry around cell phones and play on the internet constantly, Times we more peaceful and innocent then compared to how it is now. Most people today don’t truly value each other anymore because they are constantly comparing their lives to others , thinking that’s what they should have and that’s where they should be , Fuck what’s right in front of me and what I already have , the grass is greener on the other side. And that’s the problem with this society , We are glued to our phones that are feeding us useless information , making it harder for people to resist temptation and be content with their lives especially when they are faced with temptation and faced with things they don’t have in their lives at that current time. Most people don’t work on their relationships and fix what is broken , they run to someone else instead thinking that person will save them or be better for them. Love will never continue to grow if you can’t water the grass you are already standing on with your partner. I am old school when it comes to relationships and sadly I had my heart broken to many times from selfish girls’ and I know girls’ had their hearts broken from selfish guys’ So if you can’t remove

[Finchie40]

Selfishness for your partner? Don’t expect them to remove it for you. It needs to go both ways and sadly it’s the chance we all take when entering into a relationship.

[luvstoned4him]

@Finchie40 I agree. The relationship will only be a successful ad the amount of effort put into it by the parties involved. I think too people should let love be the basis of their relationship, not sex , because then it would just crumble cause sex will get lame after a time and what will they have? Definitely too much selfishness and self gratification in the mix. Most people just wanna get theirs and be come. They don't think about their partners or how their actions damages that person, sometimes for life. It's sad

[Finchie40]

Yea , why I no longer rush into a relationship with a girl , I prefer FWB’s first with a girl with some strings attached. To give her and I time to really get to know each other , so we both aren’t jumping into something we might regret, once the infatuation period runs its course and before seeing the big picture with each other. I will only give my heart to a girl that chooses me the same way I choose her , once her and I both really Get to know each other. Sadly some people lie and keep secrets , so it’s best to really get to know someone before making the big decision of commitment, I only commit to a girl that chooses to stay committed to me that respects me the same way I respect her , not with someone , that is eventually going to change their mind that wants their cake and wants to eat it to pretty much. I experienced that too many times with girls’ that we both pretty much rushed into a relationship together, without really
Getting to know each other.

[luvstoned4him]

@Finchie40 I understand

[Finchie40]

Sadly it just seems harder to find these days

[luvstoned4him]

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[rienna888]

Yes I believe that majority of women date for love. Although not justified, women cheat due to insecurities, not being in love with their partners, or not getting love/attention from their partners

[Filthy_Immigrant]

yeah, that is why unlike us men who will fuck prostitutes on the down low and go home sleep with our wives that same night; women will instead fall in love with the loser they cheated us with and start treating us worst than a pile of shit

[Crazzyyworld]

I think so. When women have sex she see the man’s personality. So it’s more than just sex.

[RingOfFire]

I think it is almost entirely true. Best way to have a woman cheat on you is not to give her enough attention and closeness. Men can get that and still cheat for sex.

[Anonymous]

If that's a woman's definition of "love" then she's pretty screwed up.😆

[Dongie]

I stand to differ, sir.
For other reasons not so noble.

Revenge
Physical attributes
Temporary insanity
Stupidity

[Finchie40]

Selfish people cheat for those reasons , someone that only cares about themselves , and what they feel is best for themselves, those type of people do not know how to love , they only love themselves , and yes every single one of us has selfish qualities about ourselves , Love will never grow. Between 2 people that do not know how to remove selfishness for each other , Resisting temptation is hard for a lot of people to do and that’s why so many relationships do not make it the long haul , mainly the short haul

[Aiko_E_Lara]

They're also looking for more money. If they look for love, they wouldn't be cheaters in the first place. They'd barely receive love once anyone finds out they're cheaters

[Anonymous]

I think girls cheat for attention more than love. If it was love, she'd just go to the other guy.

[AIexandra]

Absolutely agree. Like you can what you want in your partners body as well. Why would you be going someone else

[Nikki1989]

Disagree. Not even close.

[Finchie40]

Please explain your opinion

[Anonymous]

False, women and men both cheat because cheaters are selfish monsters who aren't capable of loving anyone but them selves. They exist without empathy, without a soul. Gender is irrelevant here.

[LiamJHayden]

No idea. I just assume that cheaters cheat because they are not loyal.

[beefcakebradybatson]

Women cheat for s*x and love, but probably less for s*x than love.

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[Bklynbadboy12]

You got this all wrong bro women cheat for the same reason me do don't let them fool you

[buzzword]

That's some bullshit right there.

[elaphe]

It depends on the individual woman.

[vicphilips]

I dont have any idea 😅

[jimmy2]

True

[MK1997]

Disagree

[Finchie40]

Explain your reason

[MK1997]

I knew women who cheated for sex

[Finchie40]

Yes that happens as well, but a majority of them cheating is for love