Why did he lost interest after getting married?

[hippio]

need solution

my friend and her boyfriend got married after almost 5 years of dating. before marriage he was very much caring. he was very serious about my friend like used to text or call her or meet her every single day. he rushed for the marriage also. may sound like the dream boyfriend. on the other hand my friend was still in a dilemma if he is the right person to get married. but after all his dedication and effort she finally got married to him. but things have started to change. they are living in different cities for educational purpose. her now husband doesn't show that much of affection like before. my friend now has become more caring and loving towards him but he all of a sudden lost interest in her. in most of his messages he seems to be cold and rarely calls her. she talked about it with him but didn't get any logical response. she told me they aren't in physical relation and the reason is him. as much as i think guys approach more than girls for sex but he never even touches her like holding hands or anything let alone have sex. moreover he's very rude said some very mean things to her in recent times when she asked if he has found someone else. all this happened in first year of marriage. the guy she married is like no more exists. it's not like an arranged or forced marriage. he showed interest in marriage firstly. he proposed her for the first date. but now he is an completely unknown person. my friend is kind of helpless in this situation. she wants to save her marriage. both of them are adults her 22 and he is like 25. why is he behaving like this?

[firenine909]

It could be because they’re a far distanced from each other now that it’s hard for them to keep the attraction up. He could be pressuring her to get married so that they could have sex but they were probably doing that while dating so probably not that.


Most likely the guy went out of his way to impress the girl he was dating but he felt like it was way too exhausting to do all of that. So he wanted to push to marry her because then he knows she loves him and he doesn’t have to try as hard to make her love him back now that they’re married. It sometimes happens in some marriages.

[RebelinSteel]

They need to sit down and talk it through, go to marriage counselling if talking does not help or causes more problems.
Also you said they live apart in different cities?
That could lead to temptations and is never good for anyone newly married, I see it a lot with young couples with work.
They need to talk and get counselling.

[PeachyPie93]

Could be he was faking everything to get married.. and now that he feels he "trapped/caught" her he can treat her however he wants..

[Viking_Girl19]

This often happens. Few people manage to keep passion after marriage. And distance very often finally destroys a marriage ((

[AI Opinion]

Oh, love, the twists and turns of post-marriage life can sometimes feel like you've signed up for a thriller instead of a romance novel! Your friend's situation, where her husband went from lovebombing to ghosting in the marital realm, is unfortunately more common than one might wish. Before they tied the knot, it sounds like he was in overdrive trying to win her over, perhaps enjoying the chase more than the catch itself. Post-marriage, especially with the added strain of a long-distance situation, the reality of the commitment might have hit him differently.

Here's the spicy advice portion: Your friend needs to turn the tables and get to the heart of the matter. Love, patience, and understanding are key, but so is assertiveness. She might consider setting up some quality time where they can reconnect emotionally and physically without the pressures of everyday life bogging them down. It's not just about finding out what’s wrong but also reinforcing what's right between them. Communication is the ultimate aphrodisiac here.

However, it’s equally important for her to prepare herself for all possible outcomes, including the realization that love sometimes changes forms. It’s not about who cares more or less but how they can navigate these choppy waters together, whether that means recapturing their spark or reevaluating the relationship with honesty and respect. Fingers crossed for them! 🤞💖

[BadApple69]

Obviously something changed…. Drugs, alcohol or another woman. But people don’t change like that without some external influence. 20 somethings separated by distance can and in many cases will stray. Sorry to say… he probably has found another girl sorry to say.

[MicahRaine]

Sounds to me like he either got married for the perks and realized it's not always sunshine and rose or he's just really busy/struggling to be interested because of the distance. LDRs are tough (I'm in one). Their marriage can still be saved though! they just need a good counselor.

[ProbablyClueless]

There could be life stress problems taking their toll. It's also possible that the relationship isn't providing the emotional substance he needs.

[bowenw]

It sounds like she was bamboozled into marriage and needs to get out while she is still young.

[DrPepper12]

One word: Divorce
This can't be saved and it shouldn't be.

[EnjoytheDay777]

Some people make the wrong choice when they get married. Sometimes things change when you live with someone and you see them all the time.

[Maybeyoutoo]

Because women have responsibilities towards their husbands, you know.😁😁😁

[hippio]

she tries but doesn't get proper response

[MasterKS]

Too early to get married!