Do you have days where you and your partner hate each other?

[Dream-er679]

We don‘t argue often. But when we do it‘s like we‘re disconnected, on totally different pages. I hate it because we‘re normally on the same page and in tune with one another. I also hate him when we argue. Like, everything he does irritates the f*ck outta me. Then a day later we‘ll make up and be on the same page again. Is this normal? How do you navigate this relationship rollercoaster?

[lightbulb27]

did not have a day where we hate each other. Disagreements that are frustrating and hurt yes. Minimal though, mostly, we work together well.

Others I know have low friction and when comes to conflict, resolve it fiarly quickly. It does not mean you always get what you want or what you think is right... sometimes you decide to let go, listen, accept. There are times you make a stand and work to communicate differenty, or give time and re-discuss. There's usually a middle ground to be had.

If you are not getting there, then there is some work to do to learn to communicate and let go. There's core issues going on like trust, insecurity. You'll both have to look at yourselves, how you grew up and evaluate what is really going on.

In my view, if there's too much friction, the emotional threads that hold you together will come apart. I don't like that level of stress. Hate... is a very strong word. Under that is sadness. Where that sadness coming from? Where is the love... that drives you to listen, understand in compassion?

Find that.

[lightbulb27]

Note, I'm talking from the time I committed to her, which was quite some time into it. Until then, there was lot of pain.

[Anonymous]

There was a girl next door who both of us had mutual hatred for each other. We were always fighting and arguing and generally being real mean to each other, I was largely responsible for some of the bullying and name calling she got at school.

One day I was going around her place to cut her father's lawn in the evening and when I started she ran over shouting abuse at me because she was trying to study by the pool. I just looked at her. She was in a one piece bathing costume and my head just dropped staring at her huge tits and curvy body. I had just thought she gotten fat last year and there was a rumour that she was pregnant and she was dressing in baggy clothes but no she had just grown big giant breasts too big for her little 5ft body. She caught me looking and immediately covered up calling me a perv then she looked down and saw I had a boner and then she noticed I wasn't wearing a shirt, now I had been working out all year in the weight's room, she just stood there squeezing her thighs together staring at my hard on, she slapped me and ran into her parents house and I just stared at her fat ass, then I mowed the lawn. That was the moment we realised we liked each other at least sexually. We still continued to bicker with each other but it was more teasing and flirting now but something had definitely changed between us. She would undress at night with her bedroom curtains open while I watched.

I took her to the prom, she wore the ugliest dress possible, her hair and make up were awful. Anyway we sneaked off and got hot n heavy in the janitors room. I groped at her boobs and she pulled my penis out of my trousers and when she put her hand on it I came all over her dress. We both remained virgins that night. And eventually on her tenth atempts a month later we both lost our virginities.

[EmmaMary]

@Dream-er679

Like any normal married couple we get our moments when we might disagree and argue over something trivial... But certainly never to the point of actually hating or despising each other... And in any case, it's always over and done with in seconds.

[EmmaMary]

Thank you for the MHO.

[RubyFrench]

Not really. There will still be a fear of losing them. I hated my husband plenty when i was pregnant but that was just the hormones :) arguments are normal but pure hate is probably not a good sign.

[AI Opinion]

Navigating the emotional highs and lows with your partner is like attempting a high-wire act in a circus – thrilling yet downright scary! 😅 Trust me, feeling like you're in different books, let alone on different pages, during arguments is pretty common in relationships. It’s like suddenly speaking different languages, huh? The key here is not the disagreement itself but how you bounce back. That “hate” you feel is often just frustration at the temporary disconnect, not a true reflection of your deeper feelings.

Remember, it's normal to feel irritated during arguments; it's human nature. The secret sauce to moving past this is communication, understanding, and a sprinkle of humor (because why not laugh a little, right?). After the storm has passed, take time to reconnect through a shared activity or heartfelt conversation. It’s all about balancing the rollercoaster with enough safety nets (aka healthy communication habits) to ensure you’re both ready for the next loop-de-loop. Keep loving, laughing, and learning from each loop and you'll find your rhythm. 🎢❤️

[AviatorTom]

We never hate each other, though we do have fights. My wife is hot-blooded and she sometimes says things she takes back later.

[Finchie40]

Sounds like you are in a toxic relationship,

[Marathonmama]

My husband & I have a rule if we’re mad at each other, we both have great bodies, we start to undress for the other I’ll put in a halter and booty shorts or he’ll take his shirt off we’re not mad at each other anymore 😝

[DrPepper12]

Hate is a hard word but mutual loathing? Sure. Neutral corners are necessary? Absolutely! A stray look or a sigh will cause an explosion? Yup.

You get through it. And anybody who tells you that they don't have these days is full of shit.

[Nikki1989]

No, we have never had anything close to disagreement, let alone an argument.

[Dargil]

We have dad days when we were tired of his/her bullshit.

[MyBrainsInsaneReign]

It kinda sounds like this relationship might not be healthy for either of you.

It's one thing to get annoyed with your significant other, but actually hating them... that's scary.

You might be happier as a single person.

[bowenw]

I may hate that we are arguing, but is never gets to the point where I hate the other person.

[morganherrel]

This has never happened to me... I've never hated my partner even for a moment (while they were still my partner

[LiamJHayden]

I've never hated anyone I've dated, even for a minute.

[BadApple69]

Sounds like one or more of you is bipolar.

[sawno]

Never had that in my relationships no.

[elizamichale1]

Nops not at all

[Plugs]

This isn’t ok

[Emmytexrex]

It happens that's where love comes in

[jahaims]

No, we are both mature and emotionally healthy.

[CubaPirate]

Thankfully not

[Maybeyoutoo]

Nope, man

[TheCaller]

Sometimes