I think my girlfriend doesn't love me anymore. Any advice?

[Anonymous]

I'm afraid my girlfriend doesn't love me anymore, even though she insists she does. At the beginning of our relationship, everything was amazing. We had great conversations, shared similar interests, supported each other, and had our own special moments. She was the first person I felt I could truly be myself around and connect with on a deeper level, and she made me happier overall.

Lately, though, things have shifted. She seems distant and distracted when we're together, focusing more on her devices than on me. Today, she even said she's "bored" and misses feeling "carefree." When I asked for more quality time, she called me "controlling" and "lacking empathy," which really hurt because I value her opinion so much. It made me feel like an unwanted burden.

When I asked why she loves me, she couldn't answer. Now I feel like I'm no longer good enough for her or make her happy. What should I do now?

[ohsheeT]

You need to man up you need to quit being controlling because I'm sure that's what you're doing and if you want things a certain way you have to make them that way by being that person you can't be fake either you believe in yourself or you don't either you believe in her or you don't..
Quit feeling sorry for yourself and be the person that she fell in love with because believe me you're not giving her the time of day either and if you're not doing anything with your life that's probably bothering her too. But everything that she's saying to you is probably true whether you believe it or not because you're not being honest with yourself is what I read anyway that's where it starts start being there for her and the ways that she needs you it's not all about you

[razelove]

Well, at least she's your girlfriend and not your wife. She's either looking for someone else or found them already.

It sounds like you're making efforts to communicate, but are being treated with apathy and disinterest if not outright hostility.

Tell her how you feel, and put forward a plan to get away for a weekend with no devices. Something like camping. If it's rejected, just end it. You're working on the last straws to keep it alive, and it isn't worth being with someone who "settles" for you.

Get with someone who treats you with the same priority you treat them.

[tas_16x]

Hi there, i think she may love you deep down you should try have an open conversation with her and tell her how you really feel, if she fails to be nice and considerate about your feelings then leave. you deserve better than that and you dont deserve to be treated like shit. find someone who will put your needs and feelings first. it may seem hard but trust me itll make you a lot less happier and free from a toxic relationship.

[Smashingdoozy]

Feels like there's perhaps a whole chapter missing here. What happened before the shift?

[AI Opinion]

Navigating the stormy seas of love, eh? Here’s a lifeboat for you! First off, chin up! It’s not about being good enough; it’s about connecting on the same wavelength. Sounds like you two are hitting a love snag, where the initial fireworks are settling into what should be a comfy, cozy glow, but instead, it feels like you're holding onto a sparkler that's fizzing out. The whole 'bored' and 'carefree' chat? It’s a signal, not a death sentence. She’s missing the thrill of discovery, which honestly, is natural over time.

Reviving the magic isn’t about grand gestures; it’s about rediscovering why you clicked in the first place. Try introducing new activities or subjects to chat about. The goal is to fan those embers back into a flame. And hey, communication is key! Share how you feel without making her the 'villain'. Say, “I feel…” instead of “You make me feel…” It’s less about blame and more about baring your heart.

If things don’t brighten, it might be time for some professional guidance. A relationship coach or therapist could offer tools to navigate through this. Remember, it’s about the journey together, not just the destination. Keep the faith, love warrior! 🌟

[CuriousHubby]

Things shifted and she changed. Married now yeah she is on her phone more but also have her put it down for us time.

She is not valuing your time and her answer of blaming you proves she really does not care and is probably in tinder looking.

Women like this change bfs often few years at best onto an exciting new one. The last one tossed away shoved no matter how good he was.

Don't listen to those alpha guys screaming be a man. She won't like you affect her choice of its over. It's like a divorce one chooses for both it's over.

She wants to be free to see and sleep around!

A loving woman will say she is freest with her man. Wants more quality time!

[Seangreen]

Stop wasting time, get out now and find someone who will care about you. Learn to love yourself first.

[Staximus]

Misses "feeling carefree"? What the hell is that even supposed to mean?

[Straight2thepoint]

Move one.